Nicky - posted on 04/15/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )
My daughter is an extremely clever & independent little thing and she definitely has a mind of her own. She is also really good most of the time but on those occasions when she does do something wrong and is told off or punished she absolutely point blank refuses to apologise for her behaviour. She is the queen of cutting off her own nose to spite her face.
I don’t even have to raise my voice but if she knows she is in trouble she will completely lose it. We get tears and tantrums, which makes things worse because then she has to go to time out to calm down. If I try to then get her to say sorry she actually refuses (she will say “No” when I tell her to say sorry) and we usually start all over again with the tears and tantrums.
I think it is because she gets really embarrassed that she has done something wrong and she just wants to pretend that it never happened. It would obviously be a lot easier to leave it be but we want her to realise that if she does something wrong then she needs to own up to it and accept the consequences. I am also trying to teach her that if she apologised straight away then it would be over and done with rather than the marathon she makes it.
What do you think? Am I expecting too much of a 2 year old?