My daughter still gets up at least 3 times during the night. I just want to sleep for at least 6 hours. She co sleeps with us and still gets up. I just feel like if I put her in her crib it would not make a difference. What should I do?

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Sandra - posted on 03/03/2009

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None of us slept through the night until we moved our baby out of our room.
Believe me, it will make a difference to put her in her crib in another room.
We get up during the night too. It's just that, as adults, we have learned to put ourselves back to sleep. She will not learn how to do that if you are doing it for her.
At this age they should not need a bottle at night so hopefully you will only go in to soothe her if she is crying, but don't pick her up. The less interaction (stimulus), the better. Just think, you would be less likely to fall asleep if you turned all the lights on, blared some music, talked to your spouse, etc. Same concept.
Then, try stretching out the time frame between when you go in there. For us, this meant turning off the baby monitor for a few hours at a time. It actually only took a few nights until this meant he was sleeping through the night!

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Ally - posted on 03/07/2009

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I am right there with you! my daughter sleeps with us and still nurses 2-3 times a night on average..not really for a full meal just for comfort usually. I can't complain too much since i barely have to open my eyes to nurse her and she's back to sleep within a few min but I too would love a great night sleep ...but like you i also feel it is my job to tend to her needs and there is no way that im gonna put her in a room alone and let her cry! are you still breast feeding? because that can make a difference and even if you arent ever child is different! my husband and i love the cosleeping arrangement but i do look forward to the day she will sleep through the night! a great resource for us was the baby sleep book by dr. sears it had tons of great info...good luck!

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I feel your pain.  My son will be one on the 27th and is up nursing 3 times a night.  He was doing twice a night for a while, but all this week it's been 3 times.  I'm so exhausted.  He has his own crib, but has to be in my room since there is no where else to put him.  Letting him scream (which he will scream, not cry, if he doesn't nurse) isn't an option because his sisters and all our neighbors (apartment complex) need their sleep.  Plus my heart can't take his screams and I can't afford to lose out on any chunk of sleep since I'm pretty much running on empty as it is.  So we nurse and everyone gets to go back to sleep quicker.

Sarah - posted on 03/07/2009

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My son has been sleeping in his own bed since he was about 5 months old.  It took us about a week to get him to fall asleep by himself in there and such.  For me putting him in his own bed he slept longer because he could move around more and "play" in the middle of the night and put himself back to sleep.  When he was sleeping with us he moved around so much and he was waking up a lot.  If you want you can start her out by letting her take her naps in her room and such to get her used to sleeping in there and waking up in there.  Still to this day some nights with my son he wakes up twice.  I hope you get some sleep. :)

Chiquita - posted on 03/06/2009

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My daughter sleeps thru the night in her crib, but wakes up when she sleeps with us.  It may take a few nights for her to get used to, but she will and it's worth it.

Lindsey - posted on 03/06/2009

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Hi~

I am new to the group..But my youngest son turns one on the 28th and he still gets up every now and then in the middle of the night. I learned with my first son. That he was going to have to self soothe. It was horrible and I felt so bad! When my youngest started doing the same thing it seemed as though he would cry forever. Sometimes, I thought he might wake up his older brother, so I would go in there to soothe him and then I just started a routine, but now I just let him cry it out, it doesnt bother me now. I only go in there and soothe him if he is screaming really bad, like something is really bothering him. The majority of the time it is just whining and he gets over it. Hang in there it gets better!!

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Hi I am having the same problem with my son. My son has a crib in our bedroom and he wakes up between 2 and 3 times a night. I can't seem to do anything that helps except get up and get him a bottle. I get no sleep at all either. Hopefully you can find something that works!

Nicole - posted on 03/03/2009

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I don't post here often but this is something I def went through for a while! My son coslept with us until 7 months old. He was waking 3-4 times a night. We decided to move him to his own room in his crib at 7 months and he was still waking 2-3 times per night. Normally I went in to see him as soon as I heard him, at 8 months I decided I needed to sleep! I woke up as soon as I heard him but wouldn't go in for at leat 5-10 minutes and wouldn't you know that he fell back asleep on his own by the time 10 minutes was up! Me going in there was actually causing him to wake up fully! He is now 11 months and while he still will wake a couple times per night, he will fall back asleep within 2 minutes. If he is teething I usually will have to go in with him once per night. Sorry for the novel, but I would def try to get your baby to their own space and stay strong and give her time to fall back asleep on her own. You know your baby and you will be able to tell if she is just waking to wake up or if she really NEEDS something. A lot of times they are waking out of habit at this age, not out of necessity! Good luck:) And happy sleeping:)

Katrina - posted on 03/03/2009

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Thanks ladies.  I am willing to try anything.  I feel that I am at my wits end but feel bad for not tending to her needs.  I guess I need to be stronger.  I really appreciate your help.

Cindi - posted on 03/03/2009

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Try it!  You never know what they are capable of unless you give them the chance to do it on their own.  

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Hey Katrina



Like Rivka, our daughter hasn't co-slept with us since she was about a month old. She started sleeping through from about 5 weeks (10pm - 6am), but if she did cry we would get up and go to her immediately. Recently (about 2 months ago) she got into the habit of waking up in the night and refusing to go back to sleep. Every time you put her back in her cot to sleep she would stand up and shriek again. After having had fairly decent sleep before that, after 3 days I was at the end of my rope! On the 4th night, I got up and went to her as usual, cuddled her, put her back in her cot and then walked out - FINISHED! She cried for about 2 minutes and it nearly broke my heart, but then suddenly all was quiet and she had rolled over and gone to sleep on her own. We repeated that pattern for about another 4 nights and now she's sleeping through again.



I'd never practice that sleep training that some moms swear by. When her cries are not just attention seeking cries, but REAL then I definitely dont leave her, but I know how desparate you must feel if you're not getting solid sleep.



Good luck!

Rivka - posted on 03/02/2009

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Hi,



My son hasn't co-slept with us since he was about a month or so old, though we would often end up taking him in with us anyways when he was crying.



Because he is used to being in his own room to some extent or another I don't know if this will help so much, but we can give it a try.



For about a month, or so now we have been keeping him in his own room but he is still getting up at night. I can tell his is teething, to some extent or another but with babies I have found that it is always something. For the past week or so Azi has been getting up every 1-3 hours and we finally had enough. So, last night we finally decided to leave him to cry...and it worked!



It was really hard to do and I felt really mean but he didn't even cry for all that long before he fell asleep. And he kept waking up in the night but each time we resisted and didn't go in.



So, I think that at 1year that we should be able to get a normal night sleep. If you think it will help, try leaving a sippy cup/bottle of water in her crib so if she finds it maybe she can use it to calm herself down.



Just remember, don't turn off your monitor, if  you have one! You should (I think, anyways) still be in touch with your baby so that you can hear what is going on and so you can be able to tell if something is wrong.



Good luck and I hope that this at least somewhat helped!



Rivka

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