When is the best time to start trying for Baby Number 2

Christina - posted on 11/21/2009

well my baby girl stephanie will be 2 years old on march 18th 2010. i want to try now for baby number two. i feel that my daughter would be ok with it because she is still little.

Samantha - posted on 11/19/2009

my first son was born in march 2008 we wanted to try for another in sept of 2009 when my son was 18 months old ... well in july of 2009 we found out we were expecting my daughter... she will be here 3 days before my son turns 2 ... I am worried about him needing me but i make sure to call her our baby and he really likes the fact of having a baby "tister" lol the one thing i do is not talk about her TOO much like i love to explain when he asks but if i bring her up and he isnt in the mood then we don't push the issue ... i think if you can maintain a good balance then go for it ... and good luck!

Susan - posted on 11/18/2009

i used to worri that my son wasnt going to like having another baby around he was nearly 3 wen i had my daughter and from the start when i found out i was pregnant i explained to him what was going on and that he would have a baby brother or sister and i used to ask him to sing to my belly for the baby and to kiss n cutch my belly gd night anythink to get him feeling involved and when the baby came he was wounderful a bit protective sometimes but great with my daughter and wen the new baby is born another gd thing to do is let ur oldest hlp u barth her and ask for nappies any little thing like that and were they feel like there helping they form a better relationship i think that when the older child is not propared properly for the new baby that is when they tend to not like it so much hope it all goes well for u :>

Naomi - posted on 11/14/2009

We had our first son in March 2008 and his brother was born in June 2009. We actually planned for them to be this close together and we love it. Our oldest has adapted just fine to having another member in the family. He actually gets frustrated with me if I'm taking care of someone else's baby and not his brother. I agree with a lot of the other posts that it's all in how you handle the impending arrival of a new baby. Our oldest was rather young for him to understand too much how things would change when his brother arrived but if and when we have a third we've talked about getting our boys as involved as possible for the new baby. On a side note, my brother, sister and I were all born within 3 years and we all are super close. Growing up we always had things in common and are grateful now that we were going thru similar stages in life together. For us, it brought us closer together as siblings. My husband and I hope to bring some of that for our kids. Hope that helps and good luck!

Mallory - posted on 11/11/2009

We planned our kids 3 years apart. It worked great for us. My oldest didn't fully understand why my tummy was getting bigger. That was about the time we started to talk to him about what was happening and the changes that were going on. We showed him the pics from the ultrasound and he got really excited. He helped us prepare the baby's room and couldn't wait. Once we had the baby, he was such a big help and still is. Now they play all the time and get a long pretty well for the most part. They are almost exactly 3 years apart (Kegan Feb 2005 and Kaden March 2008) and it is great. We want to get pregnant again next year when Kaden is 2. Every family is different, but I think if you introduce the concept of having a baby around and let your other child help out with the preparations and then help with the baby, they will bond. Kegan helped with getting the diapers or making sure he had a blanket on or the swing was still going. Best of luck to you.

Stephanie - posted on 11/06/2009

My son is 20 months old and we have just decided to try for number 2. If we get pregnant right off then they will be about 2.5 years apart and I personally think that is good. My son will start potty training so I won't have 2 in diapers at the same time for very long anyway!

Katie - posted on 10/28/2009

i turned 22 in october, but i have an 19 month old and a 4 month old its the most rewarding thing in the world, they are both learning new things everyday. i personally think its easier having babies close together as long as you get them into a routine!! my little girl loves her brother and before he was born i bought her a dolly which she fed and put nappies on and as soon as he was here she was like a little mummy to him, good luck how ever long you decide to wait x

Tiffany - posted on 10/26/2009

My son was born March 11, 2008. I got pregnant when he was 7months old, my children are 17months apart and he adores his sissy. That's one of the only few words he says clearly, he does steal her bottle, but only because he wants to give her his cup, and he brings her his toys all the time. When I was pregnant he would hit my belly and I told him that was his sissy in there, and when she came out same thing, that's HIS sissy, I made it all about him, and he loves her. so trying for a second one now will be fine, the oldest will want something to do with them as long as you introduce the new addition the right way, to fit your first's personality. my son likes everything to be about him so that's what I did. But for the record I was 3 when my mom brought home my brother which is not that far apart, and I just wanted them to take him back LOL. So some of it depends on the child, but either way they will all adjust. I did!

Missy - posted on 10/25/2009

I agree with Angie- no matter when you add the next one, there is always room for someone else to love. Just get your little one as excited as possible for the arrival. And when that baby comes, include your toddler as much as possible- give them a very special task to do...get a doll so that your toddler can mimic you.

As far as timing...we're going to start trying this summer so that our kids will be about three years apart. It's different for everyone and when that baby comes, you'll realize that there was never a doubt that he/she came at just the right time! Good luck!

Vanessa - posted on 10/23/2009

Our daughter and son are 2 years and 4 months apart. The younger one, my son is a March 2008 baby, and I really like the age gap between them. Personally, I wouldn't want to ever have children closer in age than that, as it was very busy last year. It's worth it now; they are at such a great age and they play together so much!

Alyssa - posted on 10/22/2009

My kids are 2 years and 3 weeks apart. I love it! I had a girl first who was very verbal, sweet and helpful. When we brought her little brother home it took about a week for her to understand he was here to stay. We had read tons of books and talked about it to try to prepare her. Then the minute he started laughing when she would do something silly they became best friends. Now if I would have had my son first I would have waited much longer. He is rough, not very verbal at all, and very whiny and likes to be held and snuggled. The complete opposite of his sister. I probably would have waited three years before having the second. Our family is complete now and I was able to get pregnant the minute I decided to try, extremely blessed! So take into consideration your plans might not be what will happen. I'm sure whatever the age difference is between the two your kids will be best friends.

Donna - posted on 10/09/2009

I think they get along better when they are about 2 years apart. After the first one gets older than that it takes alot more adjustment. When you do become pregnant, try to have your chld be around babies to get them used to them.

Richelle - posted on 10/08/2009

My husband and I have committed to waiting until our 1st daughter is potty trained before we try again. We are hoping that she will be a little more independent by then. That and we don't want 2 in diapers! We are starting to potty train with her now so hopefully in the next year or so we'll be ready for #2. But it's all in what is best for your family. You know what's best you just have to trust yourself. Good Luck!

Dawn - posted on 10/06/2009

Whatever you decide will be fine. My first two are two years and nine months apart...then my third is 25 months from my second. My FOURTH (holy cow!) is due in June so baby #4 will be 2 years and 3 months behind baby #3. Personally, I think that closer to three years is easier than closer to two years and my oldest two still play well together. But, that's just me. Keep in mind, no matter how quickly or slowly you got pregnant the first time, that can change. So, give yourself a year window...it may be month 1, it may be month 12, or even later. Good luck!

Jenny - posted on 10/05/2009

Well i had my daughter march 14th 2008 and when i went in for my 6 week check up i was expecting again! My daughter and my baby boy are 10 months apart and so far its going ok hes more of a brute to her then she is to him. she tries to help out as much as we let her with feeding and butt changes. now the really issue will be when i have my next baby(due in april) to see how they both react. My best advice is to time it to when the oldest will be walking carrying to babys is hard!

Lorna - posted on 09/12/2009

hello, i'm pregnant with my second baby at the moment, he is due in march. i have an 18month old son, i feel that he will be ok with the new arrival, because i have had a friends baby around and all he wants to do is help and look after the baby. i dont know if any sibling is 100% ready for another baby in the family. but you have the baby when you think your family is ready.

Angie - posted on 09/03/2009

I think it all depends on how you introduce the new baby to the older sibling. Back in the day when my mom and dad brought my little sister home, there wasn't a lot of prepartion for the change that was soon to come! I was devasted when I realized that I wasn't the only one that my parents loved - sounds selfish now but when you're 3 and a half it's quite a shock. I plan on getting my little one as excited as I can about a new addition to the family...reading books, playing games with baby dolls, etc. Good luck to you and your hubby!! I'm sure it will all work out whenever it happens for you both.