am i in labor?

Brandy - posted on 02/16/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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two nights ago i was having horrible horrible back pain and i posted what i was feeling on facebook...the next morning my mom calls me and says i may be in labor i should call my dr yaddayaddayadda....well i called my dr and she didnt even let me tell her what i was feeling she was convinced that i was just having pain in my back bcuz the baby was moving farther into the birth canal. "take some tylenol adn rest" she said... and not that im a dr... i mean this is my first it very well could only be that.... but i'd feel MUCH better if she let me tell her what i was feeling.... let me describe it to you guys adn see if you think im in labor....

it was back pain from the bottom of my shoulder blades to the lowest point on my back and around my sides... i put heat on it and fell asleep out of pure exhaustion. i woke up about four hrs later and there was no pain whatsoever. but no matter what i did i couldnt get comfortable i got up to go pee wayyy more than i usually do and by morning my back was hurting again only this time it was like menstrual back pain... and it hasnt gone away since. and now everytime i stand up and sometimes even sitting it feels like i can feel the babies head on my pelvic bone...its hurts so bad to walk and i cant even stand straight...

idk what labor feels like. if my mom hadnt scared me i may have just let it go...but now i looked it up and it could be back labor..... im so confused... adn i dont wanna sound like an idiot or a dramaqueen... idk. HELP

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Michelle - posted on 02/20/2009

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Quoting Melissa:

Is anyone having leg pains? Last night my thighs hurt like I have been running a marathon!!!!



Hi Melissa,



I'm due on March 28th.  For the last month, I have been having leg pain and spasms.  Usually starting at 9:00PM.  I need to stretch them for about 15min and things get alittle better, but throughout the night I still continue with spasms.  It's unfortunately a normal part of pregnancy.  I've had it with all three of mine. 



 

Ashly - posted on 02/20/2009

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Not everyone's labour is the same. My contractions were never evenly spaced and the doctor had to break my water. Probably the best way to know if you are in labour is that the pains actually take your breathe away and they dont seem to go away even with walking and heat and all that. Good Luck! 

Melissa - posted on 02/18/2009

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Well that sucks. When I go next week my OB is going to start checking me for effacement and dilation. She said today that my baby has dropped but is not fully engaged in my pelvis so she can still float around a bit. She may not fully engage until I go to have her. She is far enough down to cause me a lot of back pain and to have to pee all the time--which she is. She did tell me that at this point if I go into labor the baby is strong enough she will not stop it but there is no reason to think she will be early yet. She will come when she gets ready. Good luck with your delivery!

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I have a really abnormal number of BH contractions and have already had my dr send me to the hospital once to be sure it wasn't true labor...turned out fine. But we had to discuss it in great detail so I'm not at the hospital every other night and she clearly defined that there will be some type of pattern to the contractions AND that they will increase in strength (tightness and/or pain...that they will reach a point where they are unbearable) AND nothing you do will alleviate the pain. Soooo, I know the feeling of pondering if it's real labor. Mine come just a few minutes apart for hours sometimes BUT they don't get worse and if I move it often interrupts them. So until they get worse or nothing disrupts them, I'm waiting it out.

Ashly - posted on 02/20/2009

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Not everyone's labour is the same. My contractions were never evenly spaced and the doctor had to break my water. Probably the best way to know if you are in labour is that the pains actually take your breathe away and they dont seem to go away even with walking and heat and all that. Good Luck! 

Tara - posted on 02/19/2009

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Mom shouldn't have scared you like that!  You are not litterally in labor unless you are 1. having regular contractions (5 min or less apart, lasting at least 30 seconds repeatedly) or 2. your water breaks.  Otherwise the things we're all experiencing are just the tools our bodies use to get ready for labor.  It is possible that you are on the verge of labor, but it is also possible that these symptoms will stop and you won't go into labor for weeks.  I experienced Braxton Hicks contractions with this pregnancy, now that's confusing!!!  If you ever think you might be in labor you should always at least call.  Don't hang up until you have answers to all your questions.  Call 100 times, that's what we pay them for!  LOL

Melissa - posted on 02/19/2009

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Is anyone having leg pains? Last night my thighs hurt like I have been running a marathon!!!!

Jenner - posted on 02/19/2009

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I have found the if I kneel with my feet together and my knees apart letting my belly drop between them and then stretch my hands as far as I can away from my body that the pain and cramping in my back lessens. Think of like a strange prayer kneel like you are going to bow with you forehead on the floor but you won't be able to get down that far.

I have been having contractions for a few weeks now and my doc always acts like it is the best thing ever makes me wanna smack him. The above position works for me but I am really tall so it may or may not work for you. Don't be afraid to look silly try lots of different positions until you find something that works for you.

Brandy - posted on 02/19/2009

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thats what everyone keeps telling me "when your in labor you'll know".... thats both a confusing sentence and a scary one... confusing part... "how the heck am i gonna just 'know"... the scary part... "obviously i'll know bcuz the pain will be so unbearable that my only option is the hospital".... and i dont like to think of the pain labor will bring... just the sight of my sons face... happy and healthy....lol. thanks for all your help guys! i guess it'll happen when it happens... (god i hope it happens soooooooooooooooon!) haha

Amanda - posted on 02/19/2009

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One thing that I have been told is that you have more braxton hicks contractions in the evening and night.  So what you may be feeling is that.  And I dont care what anyone says braxton hicks contractions hurt.  Your whole stomach is in a tight ball.  Just hang in there.  Your baby will come soon enough.  And trust me when you are in labor you will know.  There wont be any second guessing it.  In my opinion you want to stay at home for as long as you can in labor because you will be more comfortable at home then in a hospital.  With my first baby I went straight to the hospital when my water broke and I wasnt even dilated yet.  That was a long 20 hours of labor.  Good Luck!

Crystal - posted on 02/19/2009

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if you aren't effaced or thinned out or anything it could still be awhile and most first babies go late unless there's other circumstances like gestational diabetes or big babies or wrong dates. I never dilate or do ANYTHING! a surgeons dream! I'm due with my 3rd section the 13th. your back will hurt more and more with the baby dropping. sitting on various nerves and also from the baby dropping shifts the muscles that have been holding her up higher to pulling on the muscles. Think of it as a criss-cross on your back going from your shoulders crossing mid back and wrapping to your belly. Those are the muscles being pulled as the baby drops. Good luck with getting some relief I have yet to find any. the best that I've found is sleeping in a somewhat propped position or if you have lots of big pillows sitting indian style with the pillows on your lap and draped over the pillows. It helps stretch your back out without hurting. I used to sleep like that with my first pregnancy. Hope it helps!

Brandy - posted on 02/18/2009

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update... dr says im not dilated at all but i am in the early stages of labor...
which means absolutly nothing. i could go into labor today... or i can wait til a wk after my due date. soooo basically...im in pain and the dr doesnt know when it will stop. haha. at least i know its only 18 days til my due date... i can hold on that long...i think. i hope...HURRY UP BABY!

Melissa - posted on 02/16/2009

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I have heard you can have back labor if your baby is sunny side up. Has your doctor in any of your exams told you if your baby is engaged in your pelvis and face down like it is suppose to be? I have had a lot of back pain also with this pregnancy. I am almost 35 weeks now and of course have to pee all the time. My doctor said it is pressure from the baby. I asked her how I would know I was in labor and she said if I cannot talk through the contraction it is real so it must be extremely painful. It is so ambiguous it is hard to tell. She did say if I was not sure to come in and they would check me with a monitor and if it was not labor they would send me home, better safe than sorry I guess. So far I can usually get the pain to stop by laying down or changing positions. She said with real labor nothing will make it stop.

Jenny - posted on 02/16/2009

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hey i was having the same predicament last night and must have peed like fifty times.. it seems she gets way lower and heavier onto my pelvic bone at night like early evening and stuff. do you find u kinda cramp up when u sit down for a bit then go to stand up like her head is real low and kinda pushing against ur pelvic bone? I was freaking last night that i was in labour..But yeah your doctor sounds like mine they'd rather give you a solution witout really hearing the problem.. one place ive found helpful and that has alot of information about every step of ur pregnancy is babycenter.com this is my first pregnancy as well and it has answered many questions.. being a paranoid person by nature i like to know whats going on!! perhaps it will help hope your able to get some answers out of it ... if not i suggest calling back ur doctor.. only be like no u listen to me now lol my turn to talk.

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