Do we have any AP mamas in this group?
Jessica - posted on 07/01/2010
AP here also! We didn't intend to be. It just felt right as first time parents to be there for our LO when he needed us and give him what he needed. I don't wear him much anymore since he began walking and is now starting to run. (yikes) He still co-sleeps and we never let him CIO. I breastfed until he was 15 months old and he weaned himself.
I know people who think this is the "hippy new age" way of parenting. Whatever. I think this is how people were parenting long before "experts" came along and told everyone to CIO and not co-sleep, etc.
Rachel - posted on 06/28/2010
I like your description of "instinctual parent." I didn't know what AP was until my son was about 8 months old. Then I realized that what I was doing as a mom had a name! Attachment parenting. It just makes sense to me. I naturally fit into all of it. Breastfeeding, co sleeping, babywearing, child led... so on and so forth. I love being an AP mama and seeing how secure my kids are turning out. :)
Denikka - posted on 06/21/2010
I call myself an instinctual parent. We bed share, weaned when DS decided, let him eat what he's decided he's ready for (never did the cereal/baby food stage, went straight to solids at about a year) and plan on potty training him when he's ready (I have no problem with encouragement though such as introducing him to the toilet, letting him play with the handle and the seat, and eventually attempting to encourage him to use it himself. If he's not ready, we'll back off, if he is, great :D)
I'm not all about baby led, but I am about letting him make the final decision. I fully intend on encouraging him to do certain things at certain ages (like the potty training, he's 15mo now and we've started introducing him and letting him play with the lever although I don't think he understands what it's used for yet) But I make sure to let him have the final say about things.
Like when I was breast feeding for example. He was starting to chew a little bit, and had mostly weaned anyways (only feeding to go to sleep basically) so I started not taking my shirt off when we laid down, and then guiding his hands away when he would go to lift my shirt. He kicked a little fuss for a few days (and I do mean a little...barely enough to be called a grump :P) Had it been more extreme, I would have gone straight back to breastfeeding on demand. But he showed that while he wasn't happy with the change, he was ready for it.
I never did the baby wearing, although I did carry him in my arms a lot when he was little. Now he's just too heavy for me most of the time (and I like to encourage his walking) and the carriers all ended badly XP I never could figure out the sling I bought (kept slipping, freaked me out way too bad) and the snuggy (front carrier) cut of the circulation in his legs....so yea...those were a no go. I'm not even going to bother with them with the next one.
Anyways...I'm rambling :P
Just wanted to say I'm in the same ballpark as the rest of you gals :)
Diana - posted on 06/19/2010
Yay for attachment parenting!! We practice AP and are always challenging ourselves to be the kinds of parents we wish we'd had. That means listening to our little guy and respecting his needs and not pushing him. I agree that it's really just instinctive parenting!
Katherine - posted on 06/15/2010
I've co-slept with both of my daughters. I couldn't BF, but pumped like a mad woman for them. We don't spank, use gentle parenting style. I wore my girls for a little bit. All in all I would say I'm more AP than any other.
Mary - posted on 06/15/2010
I have been practicing attachment parenting for over 11 years. Babywearing, bedsharing, extended and child led breastfeeding. Responding to my baby. I prefer to call it instinctive parenting.
AP isn;'t hovering parenting, it is nurturing and that's what it is all about. I would say that is for everyone :)
Marabeth - posted on 06/15/2010
we tend to lean towards that way here at my house. my daughter and i are practicing baby-led weaning and co-sleeping. i have always and still wear her a great deal of the time we're out of the house (unless we're at the park and she runs all around lol). i don't believe in toughening her up or 'teaching' her independence as i don't feel those are things you can teach. they come natural in a child. i remember being little and all i ever wanted in the whole world was to grow up! :) you can certainly foster it by giving them situations in which to exhibit independence but i don't think you should force it (to me and my daughter, forcing it would mean when she falls and cries not picking her up, practicing any form of CIO, or using time outs).
every mama knows her baby the best, though, and i don't think AP is for everyone. the world would be a very boring place if every woman mothered in the same way. :) besides not all kids would want their mothers hovering over them all the time i'm sure. my daughter takes very well to it though. it's nice to know there's other AP mamas in this group, it always seems like there aren't any! :)
how do you feel you practice AP?
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