my daughter is "trying" to nurse, what should i do

Chelsea - posted on 09/21/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




I nursed my daughter untill she was 8 months old and about 3-4 months ago she started "mouthing" my breasts when she is tired or cranky. She also has started to put her hand down my shirt when we around other people and she gets nervous. it seems like she should be doing this because i stopped nursing while she was still young and how do i get her to stop. Im also pregnant so when we have our next baby i will be nursing and dont want her to think she can. any advise would be great


Abo - posted on 10/07/2010




Hi:-). Before I weaned my DD I decided that I won't let her "play" with my boobs - seen other moms and jus didn't like it! 6 - 8wks after weaning she tried to nurse and I told her that the breasts are for small babies. What she does now when the 'urge' hits her - sits on my lap facing me,point @ the breasts and tell me that they are for the baby,she'll then kiss me on the chest and contentedly put her head on my chest for a few seconds! Good luck

Jennifer - posted on 10/04/2010




My son was doing the same thing. I am also pregnant with my second child. Which is the only reason we stopped nursing in the first place. I know this may come off as mean, but when my son, whenever he would put his hand down my shirt or pinch one of my nipples I would get down to his level (I know it will be harder to do this while pregnant), and try to put my hand down his shirt. Of course my hand didn't fit so he wouldn't like it. I would then ask him if he liked that and he would say no. After the third or fourth time doing this to him, he stopped doing it to me.

As for nursing. When your next baby comes, the best thing that I've seen a friend do when her first born asked to nurse like the baby, was to let him. And he latched on and took a big mouthful of breast milk and spit it out as fast as he could. Then took a very long drink of 'real milk' from his sippy cup. I know you aren't producing any milk now, but I would try letting her latch on so she can see that mommy is not were milk comes from anymore. The first time she does it, it is going to be VERY uncomfortable for you. My son tried probably 2-3 times before he just gave up. And he's never asked to nurse again. Sorry this is so long.

I hope this helps. Good luck and congratulations on the new baby! :)


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Tassy - posted on 10/05/2010




I went to a Le Leche league meeting the other day where they talked of this very thing. My suggestion is that you let he nurse. She probably won't like the taste of your milk if you have any. She will probably get colostrum and will not like it. She will decide not to nurse anymore. She may try to nurse when you have the baby as well, when she sees you nursing the baby she will want your attention. Me personally I would let her nurse, it won't last long. There was a lady in the class the other day that did that with her older son. He decided the milk tasted gross and became uninterested. Good luck!

Caragh - posted on 09/23/2010




my son, who has been off the boob for about 3 months, has all of a sudden started to try to breast feed again. He also does the hands down my top thing, which is very frustrating & uncomfortable as he tried to flick or finger my nipples!!!!!!! I've yet to hear any decent advice on how to stop this habbit. Its not just ME though, he dos the same thing to his nanna & even daddy. I was just about to post my own conversation actually because it has become such an issue.

Debbie - posted on 09/22/2010




honestly if you tell her its ok that she can nurse she mi9ght stop. she might be doing it just to make sure that she still can.

Leah - posted on 09/22/2010




My first daughter did the same thing when I weaned her, at 18 months. So, don't feel bad, she might have done it no matter how long you nursed her. She's doing it for comfort, so maybe if you find an alternative thing to comfort her that you are both comfortable with. Try rocking her, rubbing her back, or reading to her. Good luck!

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