my son is 11 month and sleeps in my bed anyone having problems with there child too

Lizet - posted on 02/20/2010 ( 86 moms have responded )

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does any one having problems that your child doesnt want to sleep in there crib

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Tracey - posted on 02/22/2010

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All my children have been family bedded and breastfed. They are 15 13 10 & 11 mths and all clever happy confident kids with NO sleep issues [except the 15 yr old who is a typical teenager who wants to stay up late ;) ] All the older ones slept with us in our bed until anywhere between 18mths and 2 years. They all decided for themselves that they wanted to sleep in their own big-kid beds and went to sleep there beautifully when they did! I think the 1st one needed a little persuasion that he was a big boy and might want to think about moving to his own bed ( #2 was getting close) but the others then followed easily wanting to be "grown up" like their older sibs. As long as they kow you are close and will still come when/if they need you and that there is nothing scary about changing . . . there will be no probs. Reading books about bedtime with pics of little people in their own beds helps the process.
Good luck and don't let what other people think your baby needs to be doing lead you - find what is right for you and yours, that doesn't have to be what worked for me or anyone else! Listen and choose what will work for your family - or make up something that is completely different that works just for you! :)

Jaimi - posted on 02/21/2010

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wow to Olivia.. I have tried the crying it out and it wasn't happening. I was crying by the end of the night and my son ended up getting what he wanted in the end, Which was me to hold him while he went to sleep and then after this, he was up every hour for nights because he was afraid I would not fill his needs ? It is hard, I have decided they will not always be babies. My problem is that since I nurse, My 11 month old has always fallen asleep at the breast and then I put him in his crib after he is asleep, he wakes up several times a night to eat, Sometimes I try to put him in his crib and he stiffens and screams, So in those cases I just stick him in bed with me after trying 3 times and then after he is in a deep sleep I put him back into his bed. I think it really depends on the parents. I have a 9 and 11 year old, My 11 year old was in our bed, My 9 year old liked to sleep in her crib alone, So it depends on the child and the parent, and I think it's your choice what you want to do., I think it's easier when they are a little older and can understand why you are letting them sit in a dark room screaming. I just couldn't let my child do that. Good luck ~ It's up to you.

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I hate to tell you but you have to make a decision. Do you want this kid to sleep with you forever or do you want him to be able to put himself to sleep. Changing this behavior is a long road (like 3-4 weeks normally) or it will be a lifetime of problems. See others posting of kids 4 and 5 still needing to sleep with the parents.
First, you have to establish that he must sleep there. Start by putting him down for naps in his own bed. Continue by having the same bed time routine. (VERY IMPORTANT) one that does not require you or your partner to rock him or comfort him to sleep ie rubbing his back or stroking his hair until he is sleep. This is a crutch. And what will happen is that he will not know how to put himself to sleep.
In the beginning he will either cry immediately or fall asleep and wake up several times in the night. YOU WILL BE EXAUSTED. Believe me. Let him cry… try 10-15 minutes (or whatever you can stand) Then go into the room and calm him down (nothing too comforting… not a lot of eye contact… you just want him to be calm enough for you to leave the room again no playing and joking around THIS IS BUSINESS) Then put him down again. This might go on for a while but in the end… what will happen is that sleeping in your bed will be a special occasion and not a requirement. You and your partner can have alone time and your child will be able to have overnight visits with other friends or family members.
It is a rough couple of weeks but it is so worth it…
I have a 3 yr old and 1 yr old twins and so I know a thing or two. I know what its like to do things cause its easier and I am so tired I have not slept in days BUT I can say that my kids sleep through the night and the rarely bother me and my husband any more 
Good luck. And Be firm! Kids will take advantage of wishy-washy parents who are sometimesy when it comes to rules and behaviors!

Jaime - posted on 02/27/2010

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My 11 month old also sleeps with me. I have tried to get him into his own bed but he just rather sleep with me. I dont really mind, my bed is big enough for the two of us and him being in need of my company makes me feel I still have my little baby. He's just growing up way to fast and I miss my new born

Marabeth - posted on 02/22/2010

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i don't recommend babywise as three of it's main precepts are:

babies should eat no more than every 3-4 hours
babies should be sleeping through the night at 6-8 weeks and
holding a baby too much or attending to it everytime it cries will spoil the child

personally, i disagree pretty much 100% with all of those things. that's just me. i also read the no cry sleep solution and thought it was a great way of going about things.. it gives you several situations you may be in now and different solutions for each scenario. the book's guidelines allow you to follow whatever feels right to you and your family. some choose to follow everything outlined in the book but even if you just follow one piece of advice it can still help. it's a much more gentle approach to infant sleep than babywise.

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Jennifer - posted on 12/09/2012

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My oldlest slept with me till she was almost three...was not a probably to get her to sleep in her own bed....she 5 now and goes to bed no prob..My son is 15 months n sleeps with me

Jawanda - posted on 04/07/2010

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Get her a Nuby sippy cup without the handles.The spout of the cup comes out just like a bottle.My son just turned oneon the 29th and he was still on the bottle,but every since I bought the Nuby sippy cup I was able to throw the bottles in the trash.Good luck!

Jawanda - posted on 04/07/2010

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My son just turned one on March 29th and he still sleeps in the bed with us. I recently converted his crib to a daybed to see if he will sleep in it.He takes naps in the daybed,but sleeps in the bed with us at night.

Laura - posted on 04/05/2010

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My daughter is 12 months and she still sleeps with us. We will be trying to put her in her own bed once she sleeps all night. She still wakes up for a bottle. She will drink anywhere from 10oz to 18oz while asleep. My husband and I dont mind her in bed with us. My doctor said she needs to be out of our bed, needs to be on whole milk, and put on the sippy cup. I have completeted one of those tasks and that is getting her on whole milk. She had no problem going to whole milk. The sippy cup is a hard one. She will only play with it.

Kimberly - posted on 04/01/2010

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my 1st child slept with us until he was 9 months old. I was so exhausted and tired from not having hubby time that I did the best thing possible. I put him in his crib, made sure he was safe and let him cry it out. It killed me because his first night he cried for 4 hours, but the next it was only an hour and the third was 30 min. It will get better, I promise. It will NOT kill or harm your child in any way. They need to do this for themselves, Otherwise your child will never learn to sleep good. I never made that mistake again. I now have 3 great sleepers and have lots of hubby time!!!! Oh, and he never remembers having to cry to go to sleep.

Renee - posted on 03/31/2010

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Never, ever let your child sleep with you. It can cause a lot of problems, including problems socializing later on.

Lori - posted on 03/31/2010

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My son just turned 1 yr last week and He used to sleep in the bed with me up til he was about 3 months and then he got used to sleeping in his bed. Now, the last month he has been very bad about sleeping in his crib. I usually would lay him in his crib about 8pm and close the door a little after turning the lights off, he would whine 2 minutes and then he would be sleep. Now he screams for hours and will not go to sleep unless he is in my arms or laying in the bed with me. Once he sleeps and I put him back in his bed he wakes and starts screaming again. It is horrible, I don't know what to do about that.

Tracy - posted on 03/31/2010

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I haven't had any problems with my daughterr. She's now a year old and we will lay down for a nap together occassionally (when I am able to do so) and sometimes she will lay down with me at bedtime for about 15 minutes and then she wants to stretch out in her bed and will try to roll that way when she's ready to get in her crib. She does like to get in bed with me in the morning and have her bottle and talk and play a little before we have to start getting ready to leave.

Alison - posted on 03/31/2010

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I had the same problem with my son and I didnt want to let him cry it out. So I started sleeping in his crib with him so he would get comfortable sleeping in there. (Always play music and keep the room really dark too, it makes it easier to sneak out.) But eventually I got him to sleep with me standing over him and me arm on his chest. Then sitting next to the crib with my arm through the side. Once I started sitting next to the crib things got much easier!! I think it made him realize I was still there even though he couldn't see me. And within a few weeks he started wanting to sleep in his crib. Now I just turn on his music, cover him up and walk out (: Everything is sooo much easier now!

Susan - posted on 03/31/2010

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My 1yr old son is the SAME way! It's kinda my fault because I'd let him sleep with me because it was easier to get him to bed that way. But now he won't sleep in his pack n play, if he's already asleep he sleeps in his crib, but that's it. He will not GO to sleep in it. Good thing i have a big bed. lol

Carrie - posted on 03/28/2010

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I think it is entirely natural for babies to sleep with their parents!!! It is only in the western countries that this is even an issue. Babies need us, to feed them, to comfort them, and also to make them feel a part of our "pack". Co-sleeping encourages independant kids :)

That being said.....there comes a time when the kiddies are ready to move on to their own beds--some go willingly, some don't.

I have a son Myles (1 yr) who sleeps in his bed at night now, though I had to teach him how to go to sleep without breastfeeding his way. It was a LONG process, and there was definite tears involved. At first, I held him til he fell asleep on his own (he was not happy), then when he got used to that, I put him in his crib and sang to him (lots of tears), then I left him to go on his own. Every step he protested and cried, but i think he was omforted in the fact that I was actually teaching him, step by step, how he could find sleep on his own.
hope this helps! good luck!!!

Kim - posted on 03/27/2010

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My son just turned 1 on the 24th and he still sleeps with me. I was told you just have to be strong and put him in his crib and not run to his every wimper, So I tried just that but he literally screamed at the top of his lungs and there was no way he was going to fall back to sleep on his own. I still have to hold and rock him to take naps. I know I brought this all on my own but the thing is...... I wouldn't have it any other way. I love the fact that he sleeps with us ( for now at least) I feel like something is missing if he's not with me. But I'm always open for suggestions on how to make the transition easier!!!!

Melissa - posted on 03/18/2010

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oh yah! lol Our daughter is 1yr next week and she was sleeping in bed with us up until last week. We took one side of the railinf off her crib and pushed it up against our bed, that way she sleeps better and so do we. Plus, she still feels like shes in bed with us but shes not. I love her in the room with is no matter what, shes our first and we are VERY attached! Good Luck

Kristin - posted on 03/18/2010

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My little girl just turned 1 on the 16th and she sleeps in her own crib and sleeps through the night. I know that it can be hard to get them to sleep in their bed but we just kept putting her in there and let her cry a little bit until she realized that she wasnt getting out of there. My son is 2 and he had a little harder of a time to get to sleep in his crib but fortunately was sleeping by himself by the time that he was 1. I know how hard it can be to just let your baby sit in their crib and cry but it does help to get them to sleep in their own bed. Hope that I could help out a little bit.

Tiffany - posted on 03/17/2010

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yes my son will be 1 on the 31st and even at daycare they have to put him on a lil mattress on the floor b4 he will take a nap

Heather - posted on 03/17/2010

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My son has always liked his crib at night, its at nap time that he hates it and wants to be held or drive in the car. I did however have to do a sleep program with him so he would put himself to bed at night. I would let him fuss for a few minutes and then go in there and sooth him. I did this until he put himself to sleep and it took about 4 nights of this and now all we have to do is go in put him in his crib and he falls alseep.

Heather - posted on 03/16/2010

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My son who was born 2 months early slept in a bassinet right beside the bed until he was 9 months old. He then moved to his cribs and did great. These last few weeks however have changed, he gets up and cries and cries and can not put himself back to sleep. He has broken 4 new teeth recently and he has to sleep in braces on his feet which he hates and the older he is getting the more aware he is of it. He had never used a pacifier but we actually started using one because he seemed to be so uncomfortable and the pacifier seems to soothe him somewhat. He still wakes up crying and there is no going back to bed for him, regardless of how long we let him "cry it out". We have taken turns getting up with him but ultimately end up alot of times just letting him sleep with us, and no this doesn't make his pain go away but he reaches his arms out and puts one arm on me and one on his daddy and when he knows we are both there he doesn't seem to wake up near as much. He takes naps in his crib. You just have to adjust to what works best for you, inevitably someone is always going to tell you that what you are doing with your child is not right or you are spoiling them too much.

Leah - posted on 03/16/2010

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I am a mom of 6, 2 grown sons 23 & 20, twins 15, boy 3 and a 1 year old daughter - all were cosleepers until different ages - (my daughter slept with me regularly until almost age 11) my 3 year old slept well in his own bed, as did my infant daughter until about 8 months ago when their father and I split up, rather abruptly. Baby slept wonderfully in her cradle, but outgrew it safetywise by age 9 mos (and we were pushing it then) she absolutely hated the crib. My 3 year old (then 2) would lay with us in my bed while I would try and nurse baby to sleep, 9 times out of 10 I was so exhausted that I fell asleep with baby, and neglected to put the "big kid" back into his own bed. Now here we are, still cosleeping - but if baby is sleeping in my bed she doesn't wake up to nurse, if she is in her crib she is up every 2 hours (the crib is next to my bed) - odd. So for us, for now - this works, I am a single mom burning the candle at both ends and I actually look forward to our snuggle bug time before we drift off. I will fight the "sleep in your own bed" battle if I ever happen to pursue a relationship with someone else, because it would seem odd to me to have kids in a family bed with someone who isn't their parent. I tried the cry it out method for a week, she cried 15 or 20 minutes the first time before sleeping, 10 the next and the 3rd night after 45 minutes I caved. There is just too much stress in our lives without the burden of expecting them to be self sufficient sleepers at this point in time. I like being the last thing they hear, see and smell before sleeping as opposed to crying and feeling abandoned. Just how it works in our family - call me wishy washy if you want - but I am their parent and want them to know that I am ALWAYS there for them and that there isn't ever a time that I will shut them out. So far, everyone is very self sufficient, happy and overall well rounded.

Jill - posted on 03/16/2010

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My daughter is a year old and slept in her crib starting the night she came home from the hospital. However I was hit while holding her and she was having night terrors and wouldn't sleep alone. She finally went back into her crib after 3 months. Thank God for that I could sleep again. Her crib was in my room but I never was able to get a full nights rest because I heard every movement that she made so she now sleeps in dining room which we are converting part of into her own room.

Jackie - posted on 03/13/2010

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my son will be one on the 20th of march and he has been sleeping with me since he was 3months old and now he refuses to sleep in his own bed at night, he sleeps in his crib during the day tho and doesnt mind it its just when night time hits he noz hes ment to be with me, my own fault

Theresa - posted on 03/11/2010

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of course, i think we all go thru that! LOL, my son will be 1 on the 24th and still like sleeping with me! he just hated being in the crib, i finally decided to try a toddler bed, that way he wouldnt feel confined and he can get in and out himself. he just loves it. he takes his naps there and will start off sleeping there at night, but he is still breastfeeding and likes to be right next to mom!!

Molly - posted on 03/11/2010

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Do you want to keep co-sleeping or do you want your son to sleep in a crib? At whatever point you decide you want him in his own bed, you will probably have to let him cry since he's so used to being with you. Like others have said, keep the same bedtime routine (or if you don't have one, make one) every single night and that will help. My son is 12 months and has no problems sleeping in his crib, but tha'ts because I started him out there from the beginning. We moved him from a bassinet in our room at night to his crib at 3 months old but he napped in his crib from 2 weeks old. I know it was harder on me at first since I was up all the time to breastfeed, but it was easier on him since I never had to let him cry it out. The sooner you start the transistion for your son, the less of a battle it will be If you want to end the co-sleeping, don't wait until he is old enough to climb out of his crib (17 months for some) because that's a whole new set of challenges when you have no way to keep him in his bed. Good luck!

Jenny - posted on 03/11/2010

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my 11 month old son got into a habit of it for a couple of weeks. We took the "easy" option and brought him in with us. I then decided, after advise from a close friend, to persevere and keep putting him back down in the cot. After an hour, which seemed like 10, he finally went back to sleep and has slept through every night since :)

Anne - posted on 03/10/2010

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I am a huge fan of co-sleeping. I have nursed all four of my babies and had them in the bed w/ my husband and I until they were ready to go to their own beds (usually by age 4). My daughter is 11 months old now and very independent but she is our last so I am actually hoping sher stays a little longer than the boys. They are only small once. Cherish the tender moments you have!

Deanna - posted on 03/10/2010

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my son is 11 months old and i let him sleep in my bed from birth till he was 9 months old i had a hard time getting him to sleep in his bed so i talked to my doctor and she said to put him in his bed and let him cry it sounds mean but it works u keep going in eevery now and then to reasure him its ok and your still there if he needs u then u leave again its harder on u then it is 4 him but it truely dose work good luck with ur son

Amanda - posted on 03/10/2010

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My daughter is almost a year old and she would never want to sleep in her crib until just recently! Now she sleeps majority of the night in her own crib...only wakes up if her nukie decides to leave her mouth while shes asleep. Lol. :)

Tamara - posted on 03/10/2010

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Yes my daughter is going to be 1 year in a few days and i just started to put her in her own crib, she still wakes up in the middle of the night and will not go back to sleep unless she is in bed with me, its only the last few nights she has been sleeping in her crib on her own....

Judy - posted on 03/10/2010

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Hi, my name is Judy..I had my last child at 41 yrs..now that my youngest daughter is 18yrs old..LOL..I can recall her having a problem sleeping in her crib...I found out that she didnt like her crib at all but tolerated her playpen..so that is where she slept..when she became a toddler and was walking and was too big her her crib, guess she was two by then, we got her a toddler bed or a juvenile sized bed with the safety railing on the side..She would sleep in that bed too but would get up in the middle of the night and get in bed with me and her daddy..LOL..which she continued to do until she was 5..Most of the time she would go to sleep in her bed and then get in bed with us and we wouldnt even know it until the next morning..LOL..If it doesnt bother you with your baby sleeping with you then I would let it be...because I missed my baby not being in the bed with me when she turned 5 and was ready for kindergarten..I did tell her that she needed to sleep in her own bed because she was a big kid and other kids would laugh at her if they knew she slept with her mommy and daddy, so from that day on she slept in her own bed..even her daddy missed her being in our bed..LOL..they do grow out of wanting to be in your bed..I guess they just feel secure..My daughter was a thumb sucker also..She is a very bright and wonderful person and I am glad I let her stay in my bed for a while..When my husband and I wanted to be alone we were able to do that too..LOL...Will your baby sleep in the crib if it is in your room?? or maybe try the play pen?? I would let my daughter go to sleep in my bed then put her in her crib and she would sleep most of the night, if she woke up and started crying, I would put her in bed with us because I wanted to go back to sleep too...Don't let anybody tell you that your child shouldnt sleep with you..I think it should be up to the parent how they raise their kids..My daughter would sleep through some thunderstorms also when she got older, nothing woke her up..LOL..all I know is I didnt mind her sleeping with us and her daddy didnt either..some people might think that is not nice or whatever, but two loving parents that care about their children want to make them happy and if it means they fall to sleep in our bed, by all means let them sleep there..They do grow out of it..Hope this has helped...each baby is different..so who kows..just try different things..Your baby loves you and wants to be close to you and that is great..that is my point of view...I have two older children and didnt have this problem with either of them, they slept in thier cribs and rooms a lone just fine, but my last one did everything the opposite of them. LOL..Just hang in there and I am sure you will come up with something...Maybe even staying in their room until they fall asleep or letting them go to sleep in your bed and putting them in their crib...make sure they have played themselves out and is tired so that the will sleep easily and longer..or try another bed. or a play pen.....Have a great day...Judy

Brandi - posted on 03/10/2010

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Thank you. I sleep better with my son in the bed with me. He's all I have & I'm all he's got. Not to mention that I feel safer considering the 'birth' father has been telling people he's going to come back & "put an end to us"(My son & I). Also, I sleep a lot lighter when he's in the bed with me. And people have been getting on my nerves about saying cosleeping is unsafe. Back in the day people didn't have cribs... Heck I didn't have a crib just because my mom couldn't afford one. My son has a crib & uses it as a play pin.. He naps occasionally in it but that's it.

Brandi - posted on 03/10/2010

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my son will be 1 in four days. He refuses to sleep in his crib & actually he's awake right now!! He fights his sleep something fierce and it takes all my energy just to get him to go to sleep. He fell asleep around 2 & slept for an hour & of course I had to be right beside him. I don't know what to do to get him to sleep in his crib or to sleep alone for that matter-I've tried countless things so good luck to you... =)

Aley - posted on 03/10/2010

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My lil boy just turned 1&& stil doesn't sleep a whole night in his cot. He's never in there for longer than a couple of hours && than ends up in bed with us.
Iv been trying to get him to slleep in there longer but just cnt seem to do it.
Other suggestions wud be amazing also.
Sorry I didn't help.

Shannon - posted on 03/09/2010

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Our daughter has slept in her crib since she was 6 weeks old. Prior to that she slept in a bassinet. We put a fan on in her room (not on her) and she started sleeping for longer periods of time. We all started to sleep better. She also loves sleeping in sleep sacks.

Quiana - posted on 03/09/2010

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my daughter just started in her own bed about a month ago. she'll be 1 in 2 weeks. i had to let her cry it out. she was waking up every 2-3 hours to bfeed. couldnt do it anymore. i started on friday night she cried for about 30 min then i would hear her wimper every few minutes and she was completely out in 45 min. whatever you do DO NOT go in there until you know he is asleep. i went in after an hour she was past out hunched over so i fixed her and she slept 5 hours. by monday night when i laid her down she cried for not even a min. i get so much more sleep now!

Good luck

Hillary - posted on 03/08/2010

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My son is almost 1 and he will not stay in his crib during the night.. he wasnt feeling good about a month ago so he slept with us in our bed and now he hates his crib he will wake up during the night atleast 2-3 times and we bring him in our bed and he falls right asleep and will stay asleep as long as we keep him in our bed but if we take him in his crib he wakes up.. so yah your not alone there Im tryin everything he did this once before and we just stayed consistent and kept putting him in there and he finally got used to it and slept through the night so Im hoping that will work again.. good luck!

Sandy - posted on 03/07/2010

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im not pressuring anyone into doing anything. I personally need my own space; especially when I am trying to get my SLEEP, so it works best for me to have my son in his own room. in the crib is safer as well, for when i used to let him sleep with me, he fell right out of the bed. i was still asleep and heard him crying from the floor. i had pillows up, but he still managed to roll over them and fall off. that was the point when i said no more, your going in your crib. i just feel waaaay "safer" knowing he is in his crib. does that make sense? this is no way pressuring anyone to put your baby in their crib, just my experience.

Mala - posted on 03/07/2010

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Let ur baby be really tired before putting him to sleep in his crib, have something that plays music or has colorful lights, he will enjoy going into his crib to sleep. My little one loves his crib, I make it feel like its his little space to relax. He only sleeps in his crib and no where else.

Sandy - posted on 03/07/2010

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I used to have a problem with my son only going to sleep in bed with me, but I finally just set a time that I wanted him to go to bed. So starting back at 8 months I made 8pm him bed time. So when 730 rolls around I start bath time, PJ's, nursing, then lay him down in his crib. Oh also, when I start to nurse him I turn the light out in his room so he gets in the "bed time" mood. At first he would scream and scream, but you have to just let them scream it out. After a couple days he was used to it and went down in his crib with no problem. I would not let him sleep in the bed with you anymore because it is just going to get harder as they get older. I would reccomend a routine, if possible, and don't give in too easily once you hear him cry. He will eventually fall asleep. It is hard, but worth it once he is used to sleeping by himself. hope this helps!

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Nope! Never had her sleep in bed with us (a huge SIDS risk/suffocation risk), and from the time she was 2 months old she slept in her crib. Never wanted to get into a habit that would be too hard to break. Much easier that way, IMO!

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My son AJ is also 11 months. At night, I let him lay with me until he falls asleep then I will put in him his own bed. If he wakes up I will do the same. If I just put him in his bed, he will just play. So I just find it easier to do it that way. The only time I let him sleep with me is at nap time and if he is teething. When he is teething he gets extra clingy.

Amber - posted on 03/06/2010

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My daughter likes to sleep with me too... but neither of us sleep well when she does, she wakes up every 2 hours to breastfeed and cuddles 2 close and neither one of us sleeps. when she sleeps in her own crib she sleeps through the night. i usaully put her to sleep in my bed then put her in her own crib as soon as shes asleep.

Debi - posted on 03/01/2010

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Our daughter is 11 months too and for first few months she was in her basket but now she in our bed and yeah u feel like u are doing it all rong but at end of day they are sleeping, you are sleeping...every1 is happy xxx

Sadie - posted on 02/28/2010

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my daughter will be a year in two weeks and she refuses to sleep in her crib. idk what im doing wrong...

Becky - posted on 02/28/2010

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my daughter is 11 months and wil only sleep in my bed started leting her fall to sleep in my bed then put her in her cot its working abit

Leah - posted on 02/27/2010

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I enjoyed reading everyone's thoughts and experiences. My son is 11 months old. He has slept wonderfully in his crib up until the last week or so. Clearly, he is having some separation issues. I will try some of the suggestions. I definitely want him to sleep comfortably in his own bed. :)

Drifa - posted on 02/26/2010

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My son is going to be 1 on March 11th and when he was a new born and until he was about 6 months he would not want to sleep in his crib at all. He would fall asleep in my arms and I would put him in his crib and because their sleep is very irregular at this age he would wake up and cry until I would pick him up. I had to get help from a sleep expert to fix this problem or he would never sleep in his own bed. Well, they told me that the best thing to do is to give him a bit of warm milk right before bed and then just lay him down in his crib and have a seat next to him to let him know your there. You can sing to him, but if you do, you wanna sing the same song every night to get him used to one certain song that says "bed" or you can play him a song, read him a story or just let him play a bit with his sleepy toy. He will scream or cry and it might take 1-2 hours for him to fall asleep but do NOT pick him up unless the crying gets serious. Trust me, it's worth it. I should only take about a week for him to get the point and start falling asleep when you ask him to. After I tried this method, my son now almost 1, like I said before, goes to bed almolst immediatly after I lay him down. I don't even have to stay in the room anymore. All it takes is A LOT of patience. :-) Hope this helps. Good luck!!!

Liz - posted on 02/26/2010

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yea my daughter is 11 months. she used to sleep in her cot but then she was ill so we put her in with us then she played up when i put her in her cot now we get her off to sleep downstairs gently place her in her cot when she asleep.

Kia - posted on 02/25/2010

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my daughter just turned 11 months old as well & all of a sudden about 2 weeks ago she would just cry and cry all night! & i am still in highschool so its very hard to be up all night & have to wake up at 5:30 for school. so one night i had her in my bed & she's been sleeping through the night ever since. not that i dont mind but ever since she was a month old she's slept through the night by herself. i just hope its a phase she is going through & i hope it is for you too :)

Donna - posted on 02/25/2010

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My 11 month old Son also sleeps in bed with my Husband and I. We started putting him in his crib around 8 months but when he and my husband caught a cold, we kept him with us so they could both use the humidifier. Plus, we were worried since he was so congested. We love having him sleep with us. My Husband gets great sleep because the Baby cuddles with me, which I absolutely love. He sleeps pretty well. Although, I'm not thinking it's time he starts sleeping in his crib. He does take naps in there. Good luck everyone!

Sabrina - posted on 02/25/2010

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My baby girl is 11 months also and from birth shes been on the bed with me she has never liked her cot or moses basket she slept in a travel cot for a few weeks but we have a cotbed now we've left one side off the cotbed and its right next to the bed next to me and she sleeps in that now so my partner is now able to sleep in our bed again, I've had to put somethings inbetween though cos theres a gap but it seems to be working at the minute.good luck

Nicole - posted on 02/25/2010

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i have a 3 yr old who sleeps in my bed since my partner left and before that my 11 month old was up and down all night felt like i was barely getting an hours sleep at night. when my partner left 2 months ago i was so exhausted ended up putting baby in cot as soon as i finished b/feeding him and after 10 mins he was asleep for about 8 hours then was up about 4 am to play for an hour then back to bed, getting up at 4 started to bother me so for a few nights left him to cry and now he goes through 12 hours a night and i feel a lot better for doing it as i am getting proper sleep like iv not had for 3 years.i will eventually move my 3 yr old out of my bed but 1 i dont want him disturbing his brother (they share) and 2 i like the company at the moment.

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