Sleeping habits BAD!!!!!!!! Born 3/16/09

Katherine - posted on 10/01/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My daughter born 3/16/09 will not sleep. She wakes up screaming, she won't sleep during the day....her Dr. basically says stick it out. OMG does she know how sleep deprived we all are??? How can I pinpoint what is causing this? Has anyone dealt with this? If I'm not crazy now, I soon will be!!!

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Carol - posted on 10/03/2009

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I went through the same thing with my son, I spent hours and hours walking around the island in our kitchen with him. It was sooooo frustrating and I would try one thing until I thought I would go nuts, and then move on to something else......that only frustrated him further. He would kick and scream and wriggle and thrash around. As soon as I would lay him in his crib (or shortly after) he would wake up really upset. I finally realized that there was nothing I could do to "stop" it or "solve" whatever was making him toss and thrash around. It is just what he does. As soon as I changed my mindset and accepted that I felt so much better. I started putting him in his crib AWAKE and I didn't pick him up at all. I swaddled him and sang to him while patting or stroking his chest and eventually he dropped off......and stayed asleep!!! It only took about three days before he started to settle really quickly. Stick with one method/routine ALL the time and she will start to understand when it is time to go to sleep. It will get better, she just has to learn how to settle herself in to sleep. It can be a lot of work but it is worth it. Try not to focus on what is "causing" it. Just like dogs circle around before they lie down, babies have their way of settling in too. Just sit by the crib with her and let her know you are there to comfort her until she falls asleep on her own. As soon as you change the way you look at it you will feel much more relaxed. I hope you get some sleep soon, get your hubby to make you some tea! ;)

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Ruth - posted on 10/15/2009

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My son was born on March 14th also and so far he hasn't slept through the night, but we are getting a LOT closer. He was taking all his naps in the swing and sleeping with me at night. He woke up almost every hour and I would nurse him because I was worried that he wasn't getting enough to eat during the day( He would only nurse for about 5-6 minutes at a time) First, I started getting him on a good scedule for naps. He wakes between 7:00-7:30 each morning. By by 9:30 I have him back in bed for his first nap. It seemed too early at first but he was really ready by then.(watch the signs) Then I continue on that scedule feeding him when he wakes up instead of before he goes to sleep so that he doesn't rely on the feeding to get him to sleep. I try not to let it go more than two hours of wake time before he goes down again for another nap. Finally, I moved him out of my room and put him in his crib to sleep. I did it all at once with his naps also, and put the swing right away. I thought it would be harder on him than it ended up being. He took the transtion quite well. Mostly, I think the conistancy was the key! Start a program you feel like you can stick with and then stick it out doing the same thing everyday. My son is making great progress everyday. Good Luck and sweet dreams (soon)

(HINT) Whenever I got really desperate I would get my sister to come over and stay with the baby for the night. I would go in my room and turn on a box fan so that I could not here anything and I would sleep. This really helped me when I felt like I was going insane because of sleep deprivation. Believe me EVERYTHING feels overwelming when you are soooo tired. Hang in there!

Victoria - posted on 10/07/2009

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Although my daughter has been a good night sleeper since she was 8 weeks, I used to have a lot of trouble during the day, she did not have any naps and my days were really hectic and crazy and she would scream at night at about 6-9 until she finally fell asleep. During this time I did not have a feeding routine and was feeding on demand, so niether of us really knew what was going on. Once I established a feeding routine I found it easier to tell that when she got grumpy it must be because she is tired not hungry. I found that tightly wrapping her using a cot sheet (as it is large and easier to tightly wrap a baby in) and putting on the radio and rocking her in my arms worked. She doesnt want to go to sleep and usually gets a bit angry and sometimes cries, but I persist and she goes to sleep. If she gets really upset I stop trying to put her to sleep and play with her a while and try again a bit later. I only let her sleep for 1/2 hour at a time during the day as long naps stop her sleeping through the night. I hope this helps you. Good Luck! :)

Leigh Ann - posted on 10/07/2009

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Have you tried letting her cry it out? I know it is so heart wrenching to listen to, but I have several friends that finally tried that method and usually after one time it works!

Heidi - posted on 10/07/2009

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Hi girls, I can try and help with the daytime napping issue. My little girl was doing exactly the same and was driving me completely insane!! Eventually I put in my mind right enough is enough you need to nap in the day time, so, I started putting her in her cot everyday at the roughly the same time, usually about half an hour after a feed. I'd follow her bedtime routine (except for bath time) and she would lay there screaming but I had enough, so got to the point where I just let her scream and went and found something to do to take my mind off of it, i'd just go in occassionally and give her reassurance I was still about. Eventually she learnt that I wasn't going to take her out and she started to get the idea she needed to nap, it started off at 20-30 mins naps at first but gradually this has got longer and longer and now some days she will have 2 hour naps at a time :) I know it seems harsh letting her cry and cry, I hated every minute of it, but now I can put her down in her cot wide awake and she'll drift off, she has done just now, and this helps putting them down at night as well. One key is to look for signs they are getting tired like grumping, especially if they are clean and fed, and rubbing eyes, that was a big sign for me, as soon as she started rubbing them I'd take her up to bed. Hope this helps in some way x

Kristi - posted on 10/07/2009

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Wish I knew some good advice but my daughter was born on the 14th of March and is doing the same thing. I know exactly how you feel!!

Jennifer - posted on 10/06/2009

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Katherine,

My son was born 3/16/09, too and he doesn't sleep well either. Well, except at day care. He doesn't nap for me and he DOESN'T sleep at night. I am EXHAUSTED!!!! At night, I often take him to bed with me to help him feel secure. I put him back in his crib after he's fallen asleep. I refuse to let him cry it out.



I figure eventually he will sleep! He might be teething/growing/cold/hot/whatever! He can't talk to tell me, so I just try to please him best I can. And hope I don't lose my sanity, either.

Robyn - posted on 10/06/2009

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Hi Katherine,

oh shame man, I know how you feel. my baby boy was born 3rd March and for the next 3 months he had hectic colic. it was very bad. eventually a routine specialist told me to give him Bennetts colic mixture befoe and after each feed for a week, then just before each feed and then every 2nd day etc until you totally wean him off it. he formed very bad sleeping habits but once he started settling down with the colic I started him on a brilliant routine and was very strict with it. basically just after 3 months he I got him to go on all 4 bottles during the day (250ml) each and weaned him off it night bottles. he only woke up for his dummy or when the gums were itchy, and of course if he was ill. anyway, if you want to, why don't you try and bath him as late as possible, as babies always sleep best after a lovely warm bath. play instrumental music in his room and room must be very dark whenever he sleeps, that includes daytime sleeps.

have you asked the doc whether or not he's ruled out reflux. If not, perhaps you need to go back and just make sure as this causes havoc with kids' naps and night time sleeps. If you'd like more info, let me know. but ja, I was also at that stage where I would just sit here like a zombie cos I was so sleep deprived.

Oh and if he's not sleeping during the day, this causes havoc at night as they're totally overtired. he's a bit younger than my son, so he should be getting at least two naps a day, even 3, and then 12 hour sleep at night.

Katherine - posted on 10/05/2009

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Quoting Alexis:

"Healthy sleep habits Happy child" by Marc Wassbluth. I cannot tell you what a lifesaver that book was for me and my daughter. I would highly recommend every mother read it, and I have read a ton of different sleep books. You can get it at any bookstore.


Ha ha I probably have it, I think I checked out every book in the parenting section of the library!!!!  Thank you!

Alexis - posted on 10/05/2009

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"Healthy sleep habits Happy child" by Marc Wassbluth. I cannot tell you what a lifesaver that book was for me and my daughter. I would highly recommend every mother read it, and I have read a ton of different sleep books. You can get it at any bookstore.

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