9 weeks and not holding toys yet

Sara - posted on 05/17/2010 ( 32 moms have responded )

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I keep reading in all the parenting books that my baby at this point should be holding SOME toys for at least a few seconds. Her hands are still in little fists most of the time.



Anyone else in the same boat, or are other babies holding things?

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Brandi - posted on 05/18/2010

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Anyone else think that parenting books are full of crap. they look at one baby who may be a little advanced and say that all babbies should be at that stage. As long as your baby can hold their head up for a bit when on his tummy, and can folow you with his eyes when you move in front of him your fine. My daughter could roll over from front to back at 9 weeks, but my son is no were near tha yet.

Michelle - posted on 06/13/2010

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my son is now 13 wks and he didnt show any signs till 10-11 wks when we saw him with a toy in his hand, since then he just keeps reaching for things but he doesnt really have the hand control to grab yet so he just punches or slaps them lol. but if i put a rattle in his hand now he will cling on to it till he falls asleep. it did take me a long time to find an ppropriate toy that was light, colourful, noisy and small enough for him to hold tho. i would not worry, she will do it in her own time

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Erin - posted on 06/04/2010

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My daughter is 9 weeks and she hasn't held anything either. She did have a hold of her binky the other day but I don't think she realized it and I think it might have just fallen into that position. Most of the time her hands are in fists as well. She does grab a hold of the neck of our shirts but that's about it.

Trina - posted on 06/04/2010

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my son is 12 weeks old he holds blankets to his mouth and chews on it, sometimes he will pick his passy up and try to put it in his mouth but abut 5 secounds later it falls.

Lauren - posted on 06/04/2010

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I had this problem with my 10 week old son Jack, a few weeks back. I asked my mum for advice and she told me they will stay like that for a while, unless you encourage them to hold things, like open her little fist and put a toy in there, or let her grab your finger...kinda regret it though now lol my son grabs his blankets up off his legs and slams his teddy about lol. Even if it is for a second, they do start to grab things themselves, like I was saying about the blanket. Hope this helps.Oh and don't follow books religiously. I have three and they all say different things. Trust your instincts. xx

Jesyka - posted on 05/31/2010

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Yeah, I wouldn't worry about it, lots of babies can't hold things yet, my daughter is all about clenched fists. Lol.

NICOLE - posted on 05/30/2010

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Every child is different n developes at different times. Don't worry about her not holdin toys @ this time, toys aren't that important. My son is 12 wks old he holds his washcloth, clothes r blankets when he is ready but not for a long time. I'm just glad that he is healthy n growin everything else will come into play when d time is right. Don't stop readin,that is knowledge you're gaining when d time is right what u have read will fall in line. Just keep lovin her. GOODLUCK

Simone - posted on 05/30/2010

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Aww dont worry my little fella doesnt either and he's over 11 weeks now. He grabs his blankets and clothes and holds muslin squares close to his face, but anything solid like toys or even his dummy is only eve grabbed by accident!!! And he sort of looks at it as if to say how did you get there?!! His hands are all fists and in his mouth more than anywhere else so looks as though we're in the same boat... a long with lots of other mums too!! :-) x

Zoe - posted on 05/30/2010

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my son is 9 weeks old and he holds his clothes and his blanket but i think that them books are rubbish as every child is different ..... i used to fret that he is not into toys yet but now i dont worry

Mandy - posted on 05/29/2010

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My son is going on three months. His hands are still mostly in fists. He has been opening and closing them a lot though. If your baby can grip your finger, then they are fine. I don't do parenting books because all children develop at their own pace. Liam will push his binky out of his mouth, but doesn't really grip it. I asked my doctor, and he said that babies usually can take up to six months before they have complete control over their muscles from head to toe and sometimes it takes a little longer. Don't worry, your baby is fine. Good luck hun! :)

Amber - posted on 05/28/2010

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YES! Reese keeps her hands in fist most of the time and she's 11 weeks. She'll hold onto some things, like clothes and blankets but not toys yet. I don't think you should be worried, all kids develop at a different pace. If say she wasn't at like 6 months, then I would be worried.

Megan - posted on 05/26/2010

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If you pry her hands open shove the ring of her dummy in there she will hold it for a few seconds. The ring is small and a dummy is light and it looks so cute.

Kristina - posted on 05/26/2010

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hi sara,,,,my son is also 9 weeks old and he does not hold/grip toys yet so dont worry.. books are just a guide every baby is different... :-)

Jessica - posted on 05/26/2010

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my baby is almost 10 weeks old and 4wks premmie is is normal for him not to be smiling yet.

Joanne - posted on 05/25/2010

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My Clairebear is 11 weeks old and has started staring and following my movements, especially when i am wearing bright-colored shirts like red. She has also started staring at the toys hung infront of her but she's still closing her fists most of the time. Although we've noticed that she has now started smiling a lot with open eyes and sometimes giggles! So don't you worry, our kids are still very young to be put into so much pressure!!!! let's just enjoy each milestone.... ;-)

Rachel - posted on 05/25/2010

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Remy will only hold things if actually put it in him hand and clutch it round for him, but all babies are different you should never compare I've found that they will either be active first or vocal never both equally

Emily - posted on 05/24/2010

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My son is 8 weeks and is no where near holding a toy. Most of the time his fists are all balled up. We couldnt even get a cute ink hand print of him because he wont open them! He can grab my fingers and will grab his ears (only to SCREAM because he doesnt know how to let go....LOL). Both my other kids didnt relaly hold things until the 3rd month.

Shelley - posted on 05/24/2010

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my son is nine weeks and will only "grab" something if it happens to end up in his hand, but he watches things and is just starting to bat at the toy on his stroller so I don't worry. It's true, they all progress at different speeds.

Bianca - posted on 05/23/2010

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my 11week old boy doesnt grab toys on his own and his hands are usually in fists but if i open his hand up n put a toy in there for him to hold he will hold it for a while just depends sometimes hell hold it for a couple of seconds sometimes up to 10mins. every child is different and will develop at their own rate, dont listen to what a book has told you there sposed to be doing, she will hold her toys when shes good and ready to :)

Thalia - posted on 05/23/2010

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My son is 10 weeks old and he doesnt grab anything either. He loves to kick so I just get him toys that he can kick and make sounds and he seems to enjoy that.

Tuyet - posted on 05/22/2010

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Hehe, i was wondering about the same thing. my 9 week old daughter is still mostly fists also and like Jessica's son, she mostly grabs onto things by accident. I've seen her start to grab at one of the little toys on her baby bouncer though :) I have a habit of reading too much, too - does your head in at times! Don't worry about it - alot of us are in the same boat

Melissa - posted on 05/21/2010

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There not strong enough yet. Those books go on an average study. Don't worry. Mine is 9 weeks and she started grabbing her blanket and hair. she still has fists. usually at 4 and half months there hands will stay open

Jessica - posted on 05/21/2010

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My son opens his hands and waves his arms around, and if he grabs anything I think it's by accident. When he's really hungry he'll chew on his fists (which makes it difficult to get the bottle in his mouth!), but I don't think he's doing it on purpose.

Heidi - posted on 05/20/2010

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my little girl isnt holding toys at min shes onli hold a spoon from the tub of baby milk shes 9 months all children are diffrent some children are quicker and more advanced than others

Renee - posted on 05/18/2010

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My daughter is 2mos old and will not hold toys yet either. She keeps her hands in little fists most of the time as well.

Ashley - posted on 05/18/2010

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Mine's 8 weeks and only holds the rails on the changing table. It sounds like yours is coming along though, regardless of what you've read! I wouldn't worry.

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My son is 8 weeks and isn't into anything at all. I read that they might take notice if the toy is introduced to them from the side and not directly at them.
The new thing we are working on this week is getting him to open his hands around the bottle with my hands so that he can make that connection of holding it like I do.

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My little guy is 10 weeks also, he can hold little rings if I pry his fists open and put something else there. He will now grab and hold his clothes and hold our fingers, but as far as grabbing toys on his own, he mostly hits at them with his fists. He's actually connected a couple of times! :)

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My son is 10 weeks old and doesn't hold anything yet. He will reach for things and grab for them, but my ped said he won't actually be able to hold things till he's older (and has more coordination).

Amy - posted on 05/17/2010

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I saw my daughter grab hold of her binky the other day but like you her hands are mostly little fists. She's 8 weeks old, I'm not really worried though!

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