Cassandra - posted on 12/07/2010 ( 35 moms have responded )
I need your advice my fellow moms. I am 24 yrs old mother of 9 months old baby. I and my husband go to school.Iam a third year, full term university student. My husband will graduate next year june. So here is what is happening in my life right now. First of all, i have been trying to get baby a subsidized daycare since i and my husband are both full term students. we have been on the waiting list for 5 months now. it has been tough semester for both of us. we had to pay for our son's daycare about 700 a month. we really can't afford that much money. on the other hand i didnt do well in my courses and i actually had to drop one of my courses coz i failed. I found hard to juggle school and baby.
so my mother inlaw who lives in another city offered to help. she wants the baby to stay with her for the school term and when is school is closed, the baby can come and stay with us. This would have been good for both of us and for the baby too since he can get 'full attention'. I could also study well, get good GPA to qualify for a graduate school.
however, i don know what to think. I want to see my baby everyday. I dont know if i can study without him. but i know it is good for both us.
so ladies tell me what you think.
Okey ladies. Thank you all for your advises. You all have given me different perspectives and different ways to handle it. thank you so much!
One thing though, almost all of you made me look like I am a bad mother/irresponsible and that mother-ln law is some kind of a strange person and that some of you cant trust their babies with mother/motherinlaw.
First of all, I have known my mother inlaw since i was 4 yrs old. my husband and i went to same elementary, same high school, same university. we have fallen in love when we were young. I have never dated any other man and he has never been with any other woman. We have been together for nearly 10 yrs. our family became one. We are very close family, well knit family. I have known his mother, his father and all his brothers and sister.
My mother in law is not stranger to me. I feel she is like my own mother and I have no doubt that she will take care of my baby just the way she took care and raise my husband to the man he is today.
For those who suggested I leave/postpone school: i and my husband have always been top achievers and we both have a 4 yrs/full scholarship. One othe requirement is that we have to finish school in those four yrs. I am already 1 yr behind but my hubby is graduating in June. my plan is to finish school next yr June. In order to do this i have to take 5 course and that's a lot especially when you have a baby. we don't have a lot of web options classes, at least for my program.
My mother in law is a certified child care provider. she is not doing that for a leaving anymore but she knows what to do. she has taught me a lot when I had my son. I have no worries at all about my baby. I know he is in good hands.
It was not very easy to leave the airport to be honest. I have been crying for almost a week.
I call them everyday/sometimes 2 a day to see how he is doing. My MIL understands me. She would put the web cam on and leaves it on so i can watch him all day. basically the web cam is on all day and she doesn't mind it.
Anyways thank you alll for your support.