Baby shower for second baby??

Karlee - posted on 01/20/2010 ( 26 moms have responded )

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I am pregnant with my second baby, it is a girl. My son is almost 18 months old, so not very old. Most of the big stuff we got for him is gender neutral as we knew we were going to have more kids. The only things we really need are a pack n play (never got one with my son, but we are gonna have my daughter sleep in there since we had borrowed a bassinet from a friend) and some girly stuff...blanket, clothes, etc and then they usual diapers, new nipples for bottles, pacifiers. For the fun of it do I have a baby shower or is that too much asking people for gifts when most people got me stuff for my son just a year and a half ago??? I was completely spoiled and the 2 showers I had when pregnant with him (one for work friends and one for church friends).

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Baby Shower - posted on 01/02/2013

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If I had a nickel every time I heard this question, I'd be having a great meal at my favorite restaurant right now! Yes, yes and yes is my answer. This is the one rule that can be broken in the baby shower etiquette.

Baby showers are created to shower the mother-to-be with baby items she doesn't have.
Now with that being said you will have some changes to make. For instance, you already have lots of baby gear from the first baby, what you really need are accessories like baby bottles, bibs, bath items, organic baby lotions, beautiful designer baby girl clothes , Personalized Baby Gifts and my very favorite the second time around are baby gift baskets full of these items.
Gift cards and certificates are also very appropriate the second time around.

Another great idea for a second baby shower is to pamper the mom-to-be with gifts such as Natural and organic skin care for the mama, beautiful jewelry, gift baskets, gift certificates, and mommy items especially made for after pregnancy time. If you should need any help with planning your next baby shower come see us at http://www.babyshowerstation.com

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Michelle - posted on 02/15/2010

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For me with my 1st the place I was working for threw a surprise shower for me, my husband work threw a shower for him, my family had a shower for us and my husband's family had shower for us (they live in a different state). With our 2nd kid the same place that I was still working for but planning on leaving after my maternity leave threw a baby shower for us and my husband work got a collection together to buy some baby stuff for us (our 1st was a girl then 2nd was a boy). Third we didn't have anything, 4th our church threw a baby shower for us (all of these showers were put on by other people not us) and now with our 5th child we don't expect anything. We already have 1 girl and 3 boys, recently got rid of the girl stuff and donated her stuff and kept the boy stuff cause we know for sure we are having a boy.

With my one sister who about 2 years ago already had 4 kids and was expecting twins we threw a surprise baby shower cause we knew that already got rid of their baby stuff, mainly donated their baby stuff to those who really needed it so we knew they were going to need help with having twins. Then her SIL threw a shower for her too.

She is now expecting another baby and we won't be throwing a shower this time. I have already given her a baby of baby girl clothes to her and if she has a boy I can pack up what my new little guy outgrows and send it over to her.

I don't know why some people think it is a taboo thing to throw a subsequence baby shower. I see it as a celebration of a new life. If others want to do it and people want to bring gifts for the new little one then let them. I would just leave it to others.

I am thinking that I might just have a party to celebrate the newest addition cause I consider him a miracle for our family. Since I was diagnosis with breast cancer in Oct 2008 (was cured by the mastectomy) we didn't know if we would be allowed to have another child. Even when we were told it would be okay we ended up having a miscarriage last year in Jan. So, I definitely would like to celebrate his birth!! Good luck!

Andrea - posted on 02/15/2010

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I'm expecting my third boy March 16th, and my first is 19. But my second is only 22 months. My sister is hosting another baby shower. She wouldn't have it any other way. She has been planning to do so since we found out I was pregnant. I am a single mother and have given away or given back a lot of the stuff I/we had for my middle boy. It's not necessary, but fun. And if you're old fashioned then just call it something else. I think you should celibate each child and have pictures for you and your family's future.

Nicsnnals - posted on 02/06/2010

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Hiya, yeh we also are faced with the same situation. I had a nice baby shower for our son (20 months) and Bub2 is due March. This time around we're going to have a "Meet & Greet Bubba" (as previous post also suggested!) afternoon tea kind of deal AFTER bub arrives. This is for 2 reasons, 1-we already had a shower for Bub1 and didnt want to seem greedy, but the Main reason is that lots of friends didnt get to meet Bub1 till he was at least 3-6months old or even older in some cases, for lots of different reasons...mainly lack of time! =) I don't care about gifts or anything, but it's sure fun to invite people over for a bite & chinwag. (Oh and lotsa bubba cuddles!!) =)

Cheri - posted on 02/05/2010

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I had 2 baby showers with my first, I did not have one with my 2nd baby even though there was a 6 year gap. I still had a lot of the main things left from the first, plus a lot of clothes. My mom only believes in throwing a baby shower for the 1st one. As no one else had offered, I have always felt throwing one for yourself is considered rude from things I have heard from others. I did still register at Babies 'R Us, so it would remind me of things I really needed or wanted, and then if anyone asked what I needed I could let them know I was registered. That worked out well. If someone offered to throw me a shower I definitely wouldn't refuse one, and those who want to could go. I am having my 2rd now, with just under 2 years difference in age. I haven't heard anyone mention throwing me a shower, so I am definitely not expecting one. I did register for things we needed or would like. We will have another "Welcome Baby" party after the baby is born, which is where we ended up getting a lot of the gifts from the registry for the 2nd.

Annette - posted on 02/03/2010

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I had a second baby shower even though my 2 pregnancies were boys. I still had some baby things from my previous son, but i had lots of complications with the pregnancy. We all new i was going to have a preme baby and i was right. barely over 4lbs when i brought him home. So the 2nd baby shower helped me out a lot, greatful he had clothes that fit him. Was in preme-newborn size for at least a month or so.


Now im have my 3rd baby and this time its a girl... What am i going to do LOL

Hallie - posted on 02/03/2010

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I think it's ok to have a second baby shower. My sister had one for every kid she had and she had four. Things don't always stay in good shape to use again and a again and plus Now when your children have children they could get the stuff they used instead of what the other one got. It just seems more fair that way.

Charli - posted on 02/03/2010

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My MIL & SIL are throwing a shower for me. This is my 2 little girl, but there is a 4 yr gap. The reasoning is that we borrowed a lot of stuff from my SIL. When she had her last baby we gave it all back, then she got rid of it when the baby grew out of it. Also, we were living in a TINY house with no storage, so we had to get rid of many things that we just couldnt store. That being said, my MIL loves throwing parties, she has done parties for mothers day, quarterly birthday parties for the entire family, and other baby showers. So I think she may be doing this b/c she enjoys it. Plus, it gives her pics for the scrapbook. But I see no problem with a second shower, especially if you are having a girl after a boy.

Chanté - posted on 02/03/2010

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Hi

My son is 19 months and I'll b having another boy in 7 weeks. I had a baby shower with my first and last Saturday I had a baby shower for this one. Those that don't mind buying you something will attend. I got loads of goodies on Saturday and it was great to celebrate our second son's fast approaching arrival.

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Colleen - posted on 02/02/2010

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I am having my second baby and one of my friends offered to host a shower for me. I thought you only had a shower for your first but it's whatever happens I guess. This one was smaller and mostly just for friends. Also My husband and I are planning to have a "Meet and Greet" at our house for church friends and family shortly after the baby is born.

Lacey - posted on 01/31/2010

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i had a shower and this is my second baby. my first was a boy and this one is a girl. we are using most of my sons stuff. i honestly didnt expect anybody to get me anything and i didnt care about the gifts. i just wanted to have a celebration for her like i did with my son ya know?

Jenna - posted on 01/31/2010

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its not unusual anymore to have a baby shower for your second child, especially if youre expecting one of the opposite gender. my daughter just turned 3 and im expecting my son in late march, we had a small shower for him =]

Michelle - posted on 01/31/2010

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Most people don't agree with showers for the second baby unless there is a big age gap. If you want to do a diaper shower or meet the baby party some people might come with gifts for the new baby.

Jannessa - posted on 01/31/2010

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i had one wit my boy whos nearlly 19months.....this time round im having a welcome the baby party :D

Julie - posted on 01/30/2010

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My kids will be over six years apart and my first was a boy, plus we had a housefire that destroyed most of the things I was saving. But I am not having a second baby shower because its just a taboo subject. My MIL told me it was tacky and selfish to have a 2nd one even though its been years. So I decided to just have a chick flick afternoon with my girlfriends before the baby comes and if they bring gifts ok and if not i get some r&r with my girls before baby arrives. I want to celebrate my little girl and I have to have something to put in her baby book.

Chey - posted on 01/27/2010

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I think the "proper" (what does that mean anymore??) thing to do is only a shower for your first, unless they are far apart. Although I know people who have 3 or 4 kids in a very short period of time, with showers for every one of them. It really depends I guess on your family and friends and how they feel about it. My cousin had a 2nd shower, for her 2nd boy, after only 2 years, and I know a lot of my family resented it. Even though they planned on taking a small gift over after the baby was born they felt that she shouldn't have registered and asked everyone to buy her something. Personally, as my son is 20 months, and I'm having another boy, I've just made a list of things I do need (mainly- DIAPERS!) and whenever someone asks if I need anything I tell them something off that list. But I'm not asking anyone to buy anything, or throwing an official shower. Traditionally my family will drop by little by little- there are a LOT of us- in the week after the baby is born. But ultimately it's whatever you're comfortable with.

Jennifer - posted on 01/24/2010

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Rule of thumb around where I live is.. no shower for the second baby unless it has been a LONG time between births. I am due in 6 weeks and my daughter is almost 10, so I've had to start over. So, it is appropriate in my area to have a second shower.

Susan - posted on 01/23/2010

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I cannot believe how many people's stories sound the same as mine. I didn't have a shower the first time around because we were married in the same year. We did get a lot of baby stuff from friends and family members. As much as I loved receiving the gifts I really missed the cheesy baby shower games.
I told me husband that I wanted a surprise shower and hint at it every couple of weeks. My daughter will be two, four days before the new baby. I think what he might end up doing is having it after the baby. I have also dropped hints to my mom. Since we don't know the sex of the baby.
What's wrong with having a second baby shower. Most of the people that you are going to invite would probably be ones that would get you something anyways, like close friends and family! Possibly instead of saying its a shower have a 'meet and greet'

Stacey - posted on 01/22/2010

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Do what you feel is appropriate. I never had a baby shower with my first (a boy) and I wont be having a baby shower with my second either (also a boy). I'm just not into them that's all but I have attended a few and I think they're an amazing way to celebrate. No harm in putting the invites out there and seeing who turns up! =)

Melanie - posted on 01/22/2010

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Side bar - if your second child is the same sex as the first- don't count on it!

Melanie - posted on 01/22/2010

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A lot of times for your second baby people have either a diaper party or something similar. Since you doon't need a lot of items, you could also have a 'meet the baby' party after she is born! (most people would definately like to help you welcome your daughter into the world) I suggest holding a open house type of deal or having someone in your family aor a close friend host it for you. Appetizers would be sufficient and you could choose to register or not. Generally, letting people know what you might need will get you some gift cards - which is sometimes better because it gives you an excuse to get out of the house and you can choose exactly the items you would like! Good Luck and i hope this helped!

Jaclyn - posted on 01/21/2010

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My sister said if we had a girl this time, she would throw us a shower, so we can get girl things.I told her that either way I wanted some kind of gathering to celebrate our second baby. Now that we know that it will be another boy, I don't think that she will thow one for us, so I was just planning on putting a card in with the birth announcements to close family and friends to invite them over to meet the baby and leave it as just a general welcome to the world gathering. I figure that the people that give baby gifts for each baby will and the people that just want to see the baby are welcome to do so.

Ashlee - posted on 01/21/2010

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we have also been wondering about this. Our son will be 16 months when the new baby (a GIRL) arrives but there are still things that we need, not sure though as our 1st shower was thrown for us, you don't actually put it on yourself do you?????

Caitlin - posted on 01/21/2010

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I didn't have a shower the first time around, but that's because we got married earlier that year and didn't want to ask people for gifts twice in one year, although the gifts we got when she was born made up for that! I know close family will give gifts again, and i've made a list of things that I need that I didn't need for the first one, like a baby monitor. Luckily most of our clothes are gender neutral as well, but we're having another girl, so it doesn't really matter. Good luck!

Jaclyn - posted on 01/21/2010

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It's becomming more popular to have a baby shower or some type of celebration for each baby. Many times when you have a baby of the other gender, then a show for girls items in your case is appropriate. I have a friend that had a girl and then a boy, they were only 2 1/2 years apart and she registered for everything brand new, all gear and everything. I think that was a bit much, since she did not need it and she already had duplicate items. I'm expecing my second boy, we have all of the main items and clothes and don't need much. However I still want my second son to be celebrated and after he is born I plan to have a open house gathering for friends and family to meet him and it will be their choice to bring him a gift, but not required. Also for each baby there are some items you may need. We will need nipples for bottles, diapers, baby medicines and to replace anything that is no longer working from your first child. Since they are close in age you may also need a double stroller. I suggest that you register for what you need and have another shower for girl things. Good luck.

User - posted on 01/20/2010

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Normally you only have a shower for your 1st child. We had a shower for my sister's 2nd pregnancy only because there was a 7 year gap and she no longer had the baby stuff.

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