help!

Elizabeth - posted on 09/25/2010

try to have him sing to her, maybe have her stay in your arms while he sings a lullaby to her an slowly get her to not be so scared. it may just be a faze but then again you also dont want her never want to be around males or her daddy.

Michelle - posted on 09/23/2010

I would just let any male know that right now your daughter is not comfortable having them hold her right now. She is going through a phase and I wouldn't push it. You have the right to refuse people to hold her and they will/should understand.

Gemma - posted on 09/23/2010

Some babies tend to feel safe around a female. I think its the softer features and voice. Dont worry yourself too much, it is a totaly normal stage of development. But if you are worried, and her reactions are so bad its upseting her too much, then speak to your health visitor or midwife.

Stacey - posted on 09/22/2010

i get what you are all saying.. but we will go out an she will meet new people all the time even a new female she still smiles at any female even if she dont know them but soon as a new male holds her even if im standing right there she will still screem??

Michelle - posted on 09/22/2010

I agree with the ladies. It's a phase and daddy will need to take it slowly when he is trying to interact with your daughter. Definitely hang around where she can still see you and feel reassured that you are not leaving. it is best for daddy to lay down on the floor so that he is at her level and maybe start off observing while you play with her on the floor. Then he can offer her a toy and a smile and then wait for a cue from your daughter that she is ready for more play with him. It's going to take time and patience on both your parts for your daughter to warm up to daddy.
It's nothing personal against daddy or that he did anything wrong. Just remember it's a phase and she will out grow it.

Jaiy - posted on 09/22/2010

Just a suggestion. My daughter did that with her daddy once. We had this game where I would blow on the top her head and she'd giggled. Only one day her daddy did it and she started crying and wouldn't stop. For hours, anytime he touched her, she started crying. I had read somewhere that babies are very sensitive to smell and touch. He was chewing a new kind of orange and strawberry gum and she hated it. Once he'd brushed his teeth and blew in her face again to show her it wasn't there, she was fine with it. I don't know if this is a new thing, but if it is, find out if her daddy is maybe wearing a new cologne, washing with a new soap/shampoo, even maybe washing the clothes in a different detergent/drying sheet.

Gemma - posted on 09/22/2010

My 6 month old daughter is like that too...but not with people she sees daily. We visit my sister twice a month....so when we go in, ill sit with Amy on the sofa, my sis will sit next to us and just chat to her until she starts to smile....then she will take her to sit on her knee and play with her....once shes happy and not stressed...ill move away. You need to understand, that this is such a crucial time in thier development. They have so much going on in thier head, and little bodies growing so fast.... they are just starting to develop social skills, and at times new faces can become overwelming. You need to slowly introduce them to new people. I think men scare some babies because of the height & facial hair. Although my daughter loves her grandad & uncle who she sees 4 times per week. As for you daughters dad, have him play with her on the floor, and feed her....you would need to stay close by so she can see you until she feels relaxed enough to let you out of her sight. It can be hard for dads when thier kids go through this stage, but he needs to stay positive and understand that his daughter does not hate him, and hes done nothing wrong, its just a thing that most babies go through, and she will come out of it herself.

Sheila - posted on 09/21/2010

I think this is something that she just will need to outgrow...which she will. maybe daddy could just play with her while on the floor instead of actually holding her for a while. she will realize that daddy is fun and okay, too.