Pregnancy worries

Becky - posted on 10/03/2009 ( 25 moms have responded )

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Ok.. so the last time i saw my little one, I was only 8 weeks pregnant. Then when i was 12 weeks, i only got to hear the heartbeat and didnt get to have an ultrasound.
my next appointment is this next friday Oct 9. I will listen to the heartbeat again and then on Nov 6, I will get to see the baby via ultrasound and learn his or her sex.

My worries.....
maybe Im a paranoid person...but i haven't seen my baby for 8 weeks now because I've only been able to get the doppler sound and no ultrasound... I read "What to Expect When You're Expecting that there are instances called "missed miscarriages". Im scared to death cause you dont even know you have one.
I have had no problems at all in this pregnancy... no bleeding, no heavy cramping, nothing.
I feel my tummy growing...I cant even fit into my pants now without a rubber band...

why am i so paranoid something can go wrong? I wish i could just see the baby so i could know everything is all right.

Is there anyone as paranoid as I? What can I do to get rid of this paranoia so i can just enjoy my pregnancy?????

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Morgan - posted on 03/11/2013

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I feel the same way. As of today I am 16 weeks and 3 days pregnant. When I found I out I was pregnant I was only 6 weeks but I ha no clue until I went to the hospital on December 28 2012. They told me I was pregnant and did a blood test to see how far along I was and it said I was a little over 4 months, but this time I was puzzled and couldn't believe what I was hearing. They then got the Doppler so they could listen to the heartbeat and I was devastated when she said she couldn't find it. I started crying and couldn't think straight. I then called my doctor that Monday and made a appointment and that date was 1/4/2013. They did and ultrasound and confirmed I was 7 weeks exactly and she listened to the heartbeat and it was 156. And I asked if that was good se said yes very good. And then she said everything looked great and to come back in 4 weeks. My following appt was 1/31/2013 and all they did was the heart Doppler and again she said everything is fine come back in 4 weeks. Well the next appt was 2/28/2013 which was just 2 weeks ago she did the Doppler and counted the beats per min and said a guess that the heartbeat was in the 150s and everything sounded good. She said the next appt which is 3/27/2013. And they will do the anatomy scan. I'm excited and ready to learn more about my baby. But I've been reading so many stories about girls having a miscarriage in their 2nd trimester and I know I'm being paranoid but I just can't go through the lose they went through I couldn't handle it. I just need some reassurance that everything is ok. Because that's one thing that scares me is going in for my appt and them telling me something's wrong. This will be my first child, I am 20 years old. In the beginning I had bad morning sickness, which is why I went to the hospital in the beginning I thought I has some food poisoning or something but instead I was pregnant. Now I'm getting to the point to where I can eat and not get sick, having more energy and my boobs are bigger than ever and very veiny. I know TMI haha sorry. Also every now and then I get them round ligament pains but its not that bad at first it scared because I didn't know what it was. But to me I've had a good pregnancy so far. I just hope I go trough the rest if this pregnancy with no problems and that I have a healthy baby to bring home with me at the end. Do ya'll girls have any advise as to not to worry so much and just enjoy my pregnancy. Oh and one thin I forgot to mention is I had no bleeding or severe cramping, like I said the only pain I've had is round ligament pain and I know now that its normal. Any advise would be greatly appreciated. Thanks everyone. You can email me at wall_e1592@yahoo.com, this is my email not real sure how to get back on here and see what ya'll have said

Lacey - posted on 10/03/2009

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i've been pretty paranoid this pregnancy as well...the last time i saw my baby on an ultrasound was 13 weeks and 4 days..im 16 weeks 5 days right now. granted that it wasnt too long ago..but im still scared because i thought i would start feeling movements by now, considering its my second. im probably just worrying for nothing..but i dont really feel pregnant anymore and i dont feel like my belly is growing anymore..
ah! i have an ultrasound in less than 2 weeks..so hopefully that will ease my nerves.

Christine - posted on 10/03/2009

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Your paranoid because you love your child from the moment you concieve and it scares you to death to think that something could go wrong. You worry because most people are aware bad things can happen to good people. Its hard to not worry. You might be thinking that because your pregnant you should feel awful and tired and all those typical symptoms you see on tv. While stop it! If you are 12 weeks and you are miscarrying you bleed and cramp and pass clots. If you heard your babies heartbeat you chances of having a spontaneous miscarrage have gone down by more than 50%. ITs hard not to worry believe me until i felt my son move i worried every day. Just don't let it consume you give yourself a few minutes to a few hours everyday to worry and then remember no bleeding , no cramping things are good. Pregnancy is hard to enjoy . I didn't enjoy my first one because i worried all the time about everything. Just do the best you can and remember soon you will feel little wiggles and the full blown kicks and rolls. That will be your reasurance. Until then breath, reasure yourself and try to do something nice for yourself and your baby everyday.

Julissa - posted on 11/03/2013

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I'm in the sane situation ill 9 weeks tomorrow and I have my first ultrasound tomorrow too. I am scared to death that they'll tell me my baby has stopped growing or has no heart beat. I'm a first time mom and I've heard so many stories gone wrong. Idk if I'm just been paranoid but just thinking bout those possibilities tears me down! I hope I get good news tomorrow!

Tracy - posted on 10/23/2009

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I am 17 1/2 weeks pregnant with my second child. I seen my baby at about11 weeks just to confirm my due date. I get my regular ultrasound on nov 3rd which they usually do between 18-20 weeks. Other then that unless they are worried about the size or something, at any other appt I only get to hear the heartbeat. It is very normal to worry but try not to stress out too much about it. If you're getting to hear the heartbeat then you shouldn't worry. And if you are really worried then mention it to your Dr. I was paranoid with my first one and a bit with this one..but I did have a miscarriage before i got pregnant with my first one. I would think if you haven't had any problems and your Dr isn't worrying then you should be ok. Good luck!

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Lauren - posted on 05/20/2014

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How helpful it is to read all of these posts. Whomever came up with a mommy blog for "batsh$t" moms was brilliant. My husband is always telling me to stop worrying, everything will be fine, but I am absolutely terrified for my early ultrasound on Thurs. I will be 6.5 weeks so I know that a heartbeat can be seen. I have had two miscarriages and one lovely healthy little two year old. It took us two years and a ton of fertility tests to get pregnant again, so I truly believe this was meant to be, but I'm still so scared that something is wrong. Also the miscarriage rate after 12 weeks with a healthy heartbeat is less than 2%, although I know that wouldn't help me settle down and didn't with my one successful pregnancy. I did buy a doppler online from ebay for a decent price and that was my saving grace. My "little" (she was 23 inches long and weighed 10lbs") didn't move as much as some so I was always worried too. Thanks again for helping me realize that It's normal to be this worried and scared. I think I'm scared because I don't feel pregnant, but I'm only 6.5 weeks so I understand that everyone is different and I didn't have any symptoms during the live pregnancy, but I am still going crazy.

Vita - posted on 12/19/2013

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I am almost 11 week I went in for my first app. About a week ago and they only took my bp and weight no exam didnt listen to heart beat nothing and they didn't do an ultra sound because I had 2 done in the er ( that I wasn't aloud to see) the first one was to see how far along I was and idk y they did the second one cuz I just went in cuz I had a yeast infection (didn't have a doc at the time) but I'm so worried that something is going to be wrong the first tome I get to see it or that they won't be able to find heart beat. And my next appointment is just so the nurse can tell me the does and donts so I still won't get to see or hear anything and idk how much longer I can take the worrying idk how to not worry

Domonique - posted on 02/07/2013

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i am 5 weeks and a couple of days pregnant i had a ultrosound this monday i eard my baby heartbeat everything was fine but sometimes i am worried and i overthink like is my baby going to stop growing inside of me am i still pregnant soemtimes i feel pregnant soemtimes i dont i take my vitamins everyday and also sometimes my breast hurt real bad then soemtimes they dont is that normal ?? im just very worried and this is my first pregnacy

Tracy - posted on 10/22/2009

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lol. Im glad your feeling better about the baby.. I had the same problem!! Today i got the sonogram- and i feel much much better.. but my worries were EXACTLY the same.. I too have been reading what to expect.... and yeah.. im having a boy- and he is very healthy! Good luck and congrats!

Phoebe - posted on 10/11/2009

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First off glad your mind is at ease. I went to doc last tuesday the 6th. Heard the heartbeat again. I hate the fact that I can;t see everythinghappin with the baby. We go for out ultrasound on the 19th. We don't want to know. We think that it's all part of the miracle of life. We will find out the first part of March. Good luck!!

Becky - posted on 10/09/2009

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I went to teh doctor today! Baby's heartbeat is strong and much, much louder :) it got up to 165 bpm at times! Thank you all for helping me with your kind responses :)

We find out if we are having a baby boy or baby girl on Nov 3! Can't wait!

Becky - posted on 10/08/2009

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I got a really nice doppler...but my doctor says none of those are affective until you're in you're 3rd trimester cause their not strong enough.... im scared to see if thats true or not cause if i hear no heartbeat, id freak out :P



my appointment is tommorow at 8:30am....once that is over ill be better :)

Sabrina - posted on 10/07/2009

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Heyy! A few weeks ago I was just like you! This is my first pregnancy and I kept thinking things like "what if the baby stopped growing" because it happened to one of my friends. I had two ultra sounds and I still continued to worry between appointments - those 4 weeks really drag on!!! If you're super worried - you can buy a doppler at Babies R Us and Baby Depot and other stores like that -- i think even targe has them -- where you can list to the babys heart beat from home! I heard they actually work!!! .. Once you feel the baby moving (I feel mine on a daily basis now!) you'll stop worrying as much. I think its just part of the experience.. ! Good Luck! & don't worry so much! Stress isn't a good thing!!!!

Becky - posted on 10/05/2009

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Quoting user:

Girl, you sound exactly like me! I saw my baby at 11 weeks and now am a little over 16 weeks. I go to the dr tomorrow and will get to hear the heartbeat but not ultrasound. I hate to wait 4 more weeks to see the baby again. I haven't had any problems either, but I still worry all the time.



My appointment is this friday and I get to hear the heartbeat again...



thank you all for your responses...



again im starting to freak out though..



my coworker lost her baby when she was 4 months pregnant!



 



im so scared that they wont find a heartbeat..



i need to stop worrying..



my husband and i are in the process of job changings and moving and I havent been able to eat the way i want to really ever since i got pregnant.



 



do you think not eating extremely healthy could hurt the baby???



i have a glass of milk everyday and i do take a prenatal everyday too. .



 



i need to stop worrying. but Im so nervous about my appointment on friday!

Cassie - posted on 10/04/2009

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Girl, you sound exactly like me! I saw my baby at 11 weeks and now am a little over 16 weeks. I go to the dr tomorrow and will get to hear the heartbeat but not ultrasound. I hate to wait 4 more weeks to see the baby again. I haven't had any problems either, but I still worry all the time.

Angela - posted on 10/04/2009

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I think it is completely normal to worry :) I know that I do! I am almost 16 weeks and I still worry all the time. I get advice all the time not to read all that "stuff" on the internet cause it will make you crazy and it's true.... but it's so hard not to read! I think the thing that keeps me calm most of the time is knowing how different each and every pregnancy is.. What is normal for one may not happen to another and so on. My advice would be try not to worry too much because I believe your mental state affects your baby too. If you need to see your baby, then you should request an ultrasound appt with your doctor and see your baby. If you have insurance, it will be covered. I got into a minor car accident a few weeks ago. I got hit right in my drivers door! I was worried, obviously. I had just had an ultrasound the week before but I called and asked if I could come in and have another one. They did it no questions asked and the insurance covered it. And everything was fine thank God. Im sure your little one if just fine. :)

Jacqueline - posted on 10/04/2009

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I read that too! it scared me so much but if your hearing the heartbeat then I think you are fine for sure! I think it is a first time mom thing I have been freaking out too constintly! I am 15 weeks so I totally get what your saying!

Lacey - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Jannessa:



Quoting lacey:

i've been pretty paranoid this pregnancy as well...the last time i saw my baby on an ultrasound was 13 weeks and 4 days..im 16 weeks 5 days right now. granted that it wasnt too long ago..but im still scared because i thought i would start feeling movements by now, considering its my second. im probably just worrying for nothing..but i dont really feel pregnant anymore and i dont feel like my belly is growing anymore..
ah! i have an ultrasound in less than 2 weeks..so hopefully that will ease my nerves.





im exactly in the same vote :( ...thank god im not alone! this is my 2nd pregnancy im now 16 weeks n my first born is nearl 16 months... i thought i would of been able to feel movement as surposivly ur tummy is still streched from the first  pregnancy. n i dont rekon my tummy has grown at all well some days i got a bump other days its just fat lmao



 



 





 



haha..oh man! i feel fat too! psh..i always feel fat anyway, but now its just worse. hahaha..like you can tell i have somewhat of a bump goin on but i just dont feel like its getting any bigger. i hope this baby moves soon. with my son i started feeling him at 16 weeks..i thought i felt this one move before..but i dunno. ugh!

Jannessa - posted on 10/03/2009

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Quoting lacey:

i've been pretty paranoid this pregnancy as well...the last time i saw my baby on an ultrasound was 13 weeks and 4 days..im 16 weeks 5 days right now. granted that it wasnt too long ago..but im still scared because i thought i would start feeling movements by now, considering its my second. im probably just worrying for nothing..but i dont really feel pregnant anymore and i dont feel like my belly is growing anymore..
ah! i have an ultrasound in less than 2 weeks..so hopefully that will ease my nerves.


im exactly in the same vote :( ...thank god im not alone! this is my 2nd pregnancy im now 16 weeks n my first born is nearl 16 months... i thought i would of been able to feel movement as surposivly ur tummy is still streched from the first  pregnancy. n i dont rekon my tummy has grown at all well some days i got a bump other days its just fat lmao

Tanya - posted on 10/03/2009

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Quoting Becky:

Pregnancy worries

Ok.. so the last time i saw my little one, I was only 8 weeks pregnant. Then when i was 12 weeks, i only got to hear the heartbeat and didnt get to have an ultrasound.
my next appointment is this next friday Oct 9. I will listen to the heartbeat again and then on Nov 6, I will get to see the baby via ultrasound and learn his or her sex.

My worries.....
maybe Im a paranoid person...but i haven't seen my baby for 8 weeks now because I've only been able to get the doppler sound and no ultrasound... I read "What to Expect When You're Expecting that there are instances called "missed miscarriages". Im scared to death cause you dont even know you have one.
I have had no problems at all in this pregnancy... no bleeding, no heavy cramping, nothing.
I feel my tummy growing...I cant even fit into my pants now without a rubber band...

why am i so paranoid something can go wrong? I wish i could just see the baby so i could know everything is all right.

Is there anyone as paranoid as I? What can I do to get rid of this paranoia so i can just enjoy my pregnancy?????


Hi Becky.......NOT to worry hun, you`ve heard the baby`s heart beating, more than once after your first sonagram (ultrasound).....and you probably noticed they found it because it beats well over 100 beats per mintute....which is a very good sign, if the Doctor had any concerns what so ever, they`d imediately send you for an ultra sound, they also measure your belly, and the growing tummy from you diophram to the top of your pelvic bone gives a measurement that matches the amount of weeks/months you are...it`s kind of neat....but if your belly is growing, and you`ve heard the heart beat, that a granteed indication your baby is just fine, at 18 - 21 weeks is when you`ll know *DAILY* that your baby is alive and *KICKING* , Although for first time mom`s/pregnancy`s, it`s common to be afraid of everything until the day that baby is in your arms @ home.....You`ll be OKAY!!!! I promise....your C/M`s friend, ƸӜƷ Tanya ƸӜƷ

Emma - posted on 10/03/2009

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p.s everybodies babies move at diff times I do feel a little movement here and there but nothing major :)

Emma - posted on 10/03/2009

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Yes, with my 2nd some things have changed from when I had my 1st. I am now diabetic and I am also at risk of developing pre-eclampsia and HELLP syndrome again and I am constantly worrying that 1 day I'm showing and the next I'm not. It's normal if I'm honest. I have only seen my baby once and that was on the 2/9/9 and I have to wait until 22/10/9 to see him/her again and I have not yet heard the heart beat. I'm always worrying I'm not doing things right lol .. I couldn't eat properly in the 1st trimester and was extremely worried that my baby wasn't getting enough nutrients. Also, I knew I was pregnant before the missed period and positive pregnancy test because I had all the signs but since then which was in august I've had nothing so it seems as though I'm not pregnant at all but we all know and can tell that I am ... good luck o everybody :)

Dawn - posted on 10/03/2009

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Quoting lacey:

i've been pretty paranoid this pregnancy as well...the last time i saw my baby on an ultrasound was 13 weeks and 4 days..im 16 weeks 5 days right now. granted that it wasnt too long ago..but im still scared because i thought i would start feeling movements by now, considering its my second. im probably just worrying for nothing..but i dont really feel pregnant anymore and i dont feel like my belly is growing anymore..
ah! i have an ultrasound in less than 2 weeks..so hopefully that will ease my nerves.



I go to my 1ST ultrasound on the 20th and I am 17 weeks...And I have pre-cancer of the utris...I still haven't felt baby move yet..but its normal not to feel it so soon...usually you'll feel it around the 20th week mark or a few weeks after that....Don't worry too much about it! I don't feel prego either...therefore I NEVER had morning sickness with both of my pregnancies, but I have only gain 2 LBS in the 17 weeks that I am, but that normal as well!

Dawn - posted on 10/03/2009

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I am 17 weeks with my second child...and When I was pregnant with my 1st...I was so paranoid with people poisoning my food at work...it made me crazy!!! I always hid my lunch and was alwalys keeping an eye on my food and drinks.....Now with this pregnancy I am not too worried or paranoid with much of anything...its hormones! just keep on getting your daily nutrition and rest..and I am sure that all will be fine! Try not to look at the negatives, but the positives!

Good Luck!

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