Very, Very frustrated

Rebecca - posted on 02/03/2011

I have a friend whose baby was doing the same thing at 12 months as mine was at 6 months. They have sent him to a special school where he gets physical therapy two-three times a week, and it seems to be helping. But for mental evaluations, any diagnoses really can't be made until they are about three years old, because babies devleop differently, and it is harder to pinpoint a diagnosis this early. I would call your doc and ask more detailed questions, like what kind of specialists they can refer you to, to help your baby, and really specify your concerns, and whatever you do, keep playing with your baby. All she needs right now is encouragement and love!

Andrea - posted on 02/02/2011

She sounds totally normal to me. My first didn't pull up, cruise or stand until over a year. He did everything else but walk until almost 17 months. He's a perfect 2 1/2 year old. Mt second who is 10 months is doing everything his brother didn't do and then some. He'll be walking before he's 1 for sure. Babies just develop at different rates and with different things. Don't stress yourself out. Just see what happens and I'm sure your worries will be for nothing. My son was March 26th so close you your daughter!

Taylor - posted on 01/31/2011

right now my daughter is ahead developmentally, but i will say that she didnt do hardly anything at all and then all of the sudden once she figured out how to get up on her hands and knees and rock back and forth, she figured everything else out in like a month or two!
so maybe once she starts, everything else will come
i think you and her will both be fine :)

Geraldine - posted on 01/31/2011

I no its hard not to worry but your daughter is only a mth younger dan my son and by the sounds of it the only difference between them is he can hold his btl (wen he chooses to,lol). My son had his developmental check and all was fine. Even reading your post makes me think shes stil only 9mts -plenty of time to do alot of wat ur worried about.

Amy - posted on 01/30/2011

I would not be worried at all. my daughter will be 10 months tomorrow and she still has not crawled she starts to try but just sits back on her but. she cant clap her hands or blow kisses, She can say mom mama daddy da da nana and up. she gets around the floor on her but or in her walker. she will hold her bottle when she wants to and she also sleeps 12 hours a night and has 2 1-2 hour naps each day. she will pull her self up when she hold my hands but thats it she wont pull up on anything else she will stand when you hold her hands and will walk across the floor when you hold her hands. my daughter also just got her 2 bottom teeth, both at once she just woke up one morning and they were there no signs that they were about to pop though. all babies are different dont stress your self out if your baby is behind then I guess my baby is to and my dr thinks she is fine and hitting her stages as she hits them. before you know it she will be doing every thing and there will be no stoping her lol :) take her to see another Dr. Every thing will be fine :D

Shauna - posted on 01/30/2011

IT doesnt really sound that bad to me either. Im in school for early childhood ed. And one of the classes on infant development said there really is no such thing as "Being delayed" untill after 2 i belive? b/c babies just develop at such differant rates! i had a little boy in my daycare that didnt do those things untill almost his first b-day! then all of a sudden out of no where he did them all at once!
Keep your head up :)

Sherry - posted on 01/29/2011

my son was also born on March 25, he is not mch further on developmental things than your daughter. He just started sitting on his own last week. He started scooting last week also. Today he managed to get on his hands and knees and move one knee. He was born 3 months early, our pediatrician and NICU doctors say he is right on target with his adjusted age of 7 months.

Annamaria - posted on 01/28/2011

my neice barely rolled over at 9 months and then did one thing after another very quickly. She's a perfectly healthy little girl. My ten month old does all these phsical things but has less developed social skills. You babies social skills seem very advanced if she's clapping and waving and blowin kisses. i honestly wouldnt be worried if i were you.

Emily - posted on 01/27/2011

I'm honestly shocked they said your baby is delayed! Everything sounds well within the normal range for babies. My daughter didn't start crawling until 9 months old and is just fine because she preferred rolling. I've actually read that crawling technically isn't even a milestone since many babies bypass it. I would honestly seek a second opinion before you start to worry.

Renee - posted on 01/24/2011

My daughter will flap her arms like she is trying to fly...my 2 year old son did this too when he was little. My daughter just said her 1st word a week ago which is "Mama". I watch a 7mos old little girl and she can already say Mama, Dada, and gog (dog)". My son's 1st word "Da-dee" was at 7mos then at a year he was actually talking in 2-3 word "sentences" if you wanna call it that. "What's that?" "Where'd it go?" "Der it is!"
Both of my kids had constipation issues with their formula. My daughter spit up a lot and was under weight until she figured out solid foods are good to eat. Now she is at weight and actually getting a little bit of chunk to her. She used to be in size 6mos for length and 0-3mos for waist :) Your LO might need a soy formula. I used to use DARK Kayro syrup in there bottles to help with the constipation issues. 1tsp per 4oz until they started to go, then slowly ween it back. That is what my ped at recommended and it worked well. It took a few bottles to get things moving, but it didn't upset her stomach and she would drink it. Prune and other fruit juices just gave her explosive diarrhea and stomach aches. In regards to holding bottles...My son held his own at 3mos old, my daughter held hers at 7mos. The little girl I watch doesn't hold hers at all yet. My sister's little boy NEVER held his own bottle.
She will also sleep 12 hrs at night and take 2 2-3hr naps during the day. My son used to only sleep 2-3 hrs at a time over night and take 3- 45min naps during the day.
My son didn't crawl in the traditional sense until 3mos AFTER he learned to walk. He was a butt scooter. He would refuse to even get in the crawling position and would cry if I would put him in it like it was hurting his knees or something. My daughter on the other hand Army crawled for a few months then crawled "normal".
So I guess what I am trying to say, along with a lot of the other Moms here is that each child develops at their own pace. Give her time. All of a sudden one day she will get the hang of it and will be off and running before you know it.

Marilyn - posted on 01/23/2011

My daughter is almost 10 months and she JUST started crawling! And before that she really wasnt able to sit up from the laying down position either. She says Mama, Dada, baba and every now and then daddy or dad, She tries to clap and say, "yay" but she kinda sounds like a monkey, lol. Jaycee will hold her baba but if I touch it to help her she will let go and not want to hold it out of lazyness. Her first two teeth are coming in now. Don't listen to those people! Every baby is different! Yours is like two weeks behind mine. All of the sudden, Jaycee started crawling and since then she is hitting all of these crazy milestones at once!

Michelle - posted on 01/22/2011

My son is one day younger than your little one and is at about the same stage as your daughter. He doesn't crawl and I don't think he will (he will go right to walking, I think). He just started cruising the furniture, but can not pull himself up or get himself into a sitting position yet. I think the reason my little guy hasn't moved from the different positions (back to sitting to standing) is only because he doesn't want to fall and when he gets frustrated I help him. He had started to roll around on the floor, but once he could sit he just preferred to sit and now that he can stand up with the help of the furniture he wants to do that all the time. He does walk with the push cart walker and holding on to fingers. I told his doctor that I don't think he knows how to use his arms and he checked his arm strength and said he was okay.
As for the speech he says the same sounds except dada, but babbles some other sounds. He does have teeth and he just started the arm flapping and can clap as well (no blowing kissing though - lucky :0)).
He hasn't mastered any kind of cup and won't take a bottle now that he has teeth (still breastfeeding). He doesn't use his thumb and forefinger at all yet. Starting to figure out that he has fingers though. He doesn't have any major bathroom issues, but my doctor did suggest adding olive oil to his diet to help his bowel movements.
Since they are so close in age I thought I would let you know that they seem to be at the same stage. I'm not worried about him. I just think he will figure things out in his own time. You do have me thinking though. I will check with my doctor to see his if he feels he is behind. I can't say don't worry, but as I said I thought I would share my son's development with you to maybe put your mind a little at ease. Good luck!

Karen - posted on 01/22/2011

It is easy to sit here and write to you to tell you that ALL is alright and "normal" with your child and to "not worry about it." Obviously, something is going on or your child wouldn't be getting all the therapy, etc. My daughter and I have been battling brain cancer for the past 8 months. She is also 10 months and is delayed to about an estimated 4-5 month old in physical development. We have gone through chemo and a bone marrow transplant just to name the hi-lites, lol, and she is now out of the hospital on home isolation for the next 6 months. She only breastfed for 2 months of her life and then has been getting tube feedings and TPN. I am TRYING to teach her to eat. We are in all kinds of therapy. She IS making progress but its small progress.
Again, I read most of the responses above and its soooo easy to say "don't worry" when its not your child. But the reality is EVERYONE needs to worry. YOU know you baby the best. If you think something is going on, talk to your doctors. Make them listen. Make them explain to you in language you understand and not to blow you off and make you feel not important. Trust your instincts. Because the bottom line is that YOU and only YOU are going to care and love your baby the most! I wish you and your baby well. Be strong because no matter what road you are on, "healthy" or not, children are ALOT to worry about.

Ashley - posted on 01/21/2011

my girl is WAY advanced for her age and tended to everything on the earlier side - wish she would slow down! - however the arm flapping my girl does too (march 11th) - so dont think anything of it - my girl also sleeps 12 hr a night and either 1 long nap 2-3 hrs or 2 small naps at 1- 1 1/2 hrs -

I wouldnt worry too much - some kids NEVER crawl - some do other things- enjoy her childhood and every moment - you cannot change your child and it will all come in time!

my daughter was also "overbaked" as i call it and came way way late

Elisabeth - posted on 01/14/2011

She sounds perfect to me. At our 9 month appt. my pediatrician actually said that it was good thing that my son does not want or attempts to hold his bottle because this shows little attachment. Since then he has taken upon himself to do so and he drinks from the sippy cup, started clap, wave and really only says hey and da-da and whole bunch of babble. He cruises and play very well independently. My point is he did all this in one month- he is now 10 months... so, do not compare your child nor under estimate her ability. it all comes along. Think about it how many college students do you know that crawl? Relax, enjoy and best wishes.

Michelle - posted on 01/12/2011

I am a mom of 5 kids expecting number 6. I have 1 girl & 4 boys with this next one being another boy. I also have been running a daycare since 2004. I have personally experienced autism with a daycare kid and from what you have been describing about your child it doesn't sound like autism. Your child sounds normal. The guidelines out there for where your child should be at are just guidelines. Just to give you an idea where kids should be. Some start early other's start later. It sounds like she is doing other things so I wouldn't be too concern. It is good though that you are being proactive about it, but I think I may get a second opinion from a different dr.

My 1st child (girl) develop normally, 2nd (boy) was delayed with his speech and didn't start saying sentences until 3 1/2 yrs old and we couldn't understand him until then. With our 3rd child I thought he was the same way, but when he failed his preschool screening at 3 1/2 yrs old he was furthered evaluated by the county and qualify for assistance in developmental delay and speech therapy. He went to preschool for 1 yr twice a week and he is doing better. He is in kindergarten but still receives assistance.

Our 4th child just qualify for speech therapy and goes once a week(he is 3 yr's old) and they believe he should do fine. Our 5th is 10 mo's old but I know that when he is 2 yr's old I will have him evaluated to make sure he is where he should be.

You generally don't have to get really concern until they are 2 yr's old. Just keep an eye on your baby, keep in mind that your child will do somethings but not all things and that they all develop at different times. It sounds like your child will be doing more things soon.

Melissa - posted on 01/12/2011

I dont think she is that far behind at all!! Our son started crawling and standing up at 9.5 months and just now at 10 months started clapping and giving kisses! He still wont hold his own sippy cup...It is wierd she is constipated on Nutramigin...our son took that and it went right through him! Also she has probably grown out of the colic by now maybe try switching to the regular formula. Alos feed her food that start with "P" ...But I would go to another doctor aswell! I really dont think she is that far behind! Please stop worrying yourself!! She is advancded in somethings a slower at others but I think she is absolutly going to catch up very soon! If she doesnt start crawling at 10 to 12 months then maybe there is a concern. Take the stress off and just enjoy her kisses!

Becky - posted on 01/12/2011

if i were you... please go to another doctor, at least for a 2nd opinion. I did that with my son for an illness and found out my doc had been wrong all along, now he is off to get blood tests!
just try another doctor, get referrals from friends, or go to a the good pediatrician at the hopsital.

Becky - posted on 01/12/2011

wow. your baby sounds honestly fine to me. My son sat up a little bit before he started crawling but always still fell over. it wasnt untl he was crawling that he actually could sit up well on his own. as for crawling, a LOT of kids don't even ever do it. as for autism... no child EVER shows signs that early on

Amy - posted on 01/12/2011

My daughter doesn't do any of those things either and my doctor isn't concerned at all! She just started rocking like she is going to crawl but is apprehensive so returns to sitting position and scoots on her butt to whatever it is she wanted. The only words she says are hi and dada, but when you tell her no she stops what she's doing and looks at you and looks at you when you call her name. According to my pediatriction who I trust he says that more and more kids aren't walking till well after their first year and some aren't walking till as late as 18 months. I don't want to tell you not to worry becuase you're going to worry anyway but all babies are going to do things at their own pace but I can 100% tell you my daughter does everything your daughter is doing, nothing more and she doesn't roll over and I am not worried at all!
Here is a great website for information on autism http://helpguide.org/mental/autism_signs... A little ways down the page it lists bullet points of what to look for, does your baby smile at you? Does she babble back and forth when you respond? Does she respond to her name? Does she not follow you with her eyes when you walk out of the room or watch a ball that rolls across the floor? If she isnt doing that stuff then you should be concerned, but not because she isn't talking. So to answer your question it's normal to me but I know that there are moms on here who 9 month old is walking every baby is different, just like no one is the same as you! Good luck and try to relax.

Liesl - posted on 01/12/2011

I really don't think you have anything to worry about, she sounds fine to me. All babies develop at different rates, so its difficult to compare one child to another. Even books won't give you exact dates on when your little one should have mastered certain developmental tasks. My son will be 10 months on saturday, and when he just turned 9 months, he hated to be put in a sitting position, he would just flop over. A few days later, he did it all on his own, and sits perfectly. His vocab is not very extensive either...he says "mama", "dada", "baba" and what sounds like "yes". Ethan also used to lie on the floor on his tummy and flap his arms like a bird, which was before he started crawling. He hasnt mastered crawling yet, but slithers around like a snake at the speed of lightning. 2 weeks ago he began pulling himself up on the furniture as well as using his dad and I as a jungle gym. If I kept comparing Ethan to his cousin, who is 2 weeks older than him, I would have lost my mind, as he was crawling at 8 months, and already has 8 teeth!! Babies do things in their own time...and some are just lazy, like my little one is. Give her some time, she will get there. Also, a friend of mine's child only got their first tooth when they turned 1. Keep encouraging her and enjoying her and don't stress too much. If you don't notice any improvement in her skills over the next 1 to 2 weeks, then maybe you should contact your pediatrician. All the best!!