Jodi - posted on 09/27/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )
So, the same day I found out we were having twins, my husband's cousin miscarried. (I was not even aware she was pregnant and did not know she had miscarried until about a week or so later.)
Then I find out, that a few days before we found out we were having twins, another one of my husband's cousins found out her baby had died at her ultrasound. (Again, I had no idea she was even pregnant and found this info. out the same time as the above info.)
I am a huge facebooker, and now I guess, behind my back some of the in-laws are calling me insensitive and that I shouldnt' facebook anything about the twins to spare their feelings. I havn't put anything about the twins on facebook since I found out, and only passing comments about pregnancy hormones/swollen feet when other people post to my status's asking about it.
This doesn't seem fair to me! I am trying to be sensitive and not bring it up, but I will be finding out the genders soon and I want ot facebook it as I have family all around the globe literally, and facebook is a great way to keep people updated. BUT, I don't want the in-laws saying bad things about me behind my back just because I am excited to be pregnant!
I guess I'm looking for support...and what would you do? Nothing has been facebooked about his cousin's tragedies and I'm not sure I'm supposed ot know, we're not "close" and I don't know if I should apologize via private message or just keep quiet???? It makes me feel bad that they lost their babies and I'm having two...