telling toddlers about a new baby?

Christy - posted on 08/14/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )




I have a 26 month old son. He will be almost 3 when the baby is born. Wondering what your plans are for how and when to tell your toddlers (if you have one) about the new baby.


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Jeanna - posted on 10/15/2010




Well done christy! that is indeed a good angle

My daughter is only 16months old and i dont think she fully understands when we say there is a baby in my tummy.
We got a really good book from the library (she loves books) called "Mummy, Mummy what's in your tummy?" and it goes through several things that could be in mummy's tummy that is making it grow so big. we have been reading it to her everyday and she loves looking at the pictures and stuff
Today just after reading it my mother (oma for her) told her that there was a baby in her mummy's tummy just like in the book. she looked at the book, looked at me, i rubbed my tummy, she looked at the book again and then at me, and i light seemed to go off in her head. she pointed to my tummy and said "buba"
I almost cried. it was a lovely moment.

Christy - posted on 09/19/2010




Thanks for all the thoughts ladies. We told our son when I was about 12 weeks. We showed him pics of me with a big belly when I was preg. with him and explained that he was in my belly, and showed him pics at the hospital of him. (he loves looking at pics of himself at all stages, so we thought this would be a good angle). Then we told him mama has a baby in her tummy again and that he was gonna be a big brother. Also that it could be his job to tell people his 'special news'. He has loved telling people!! So cute ;)

Alexis - posted on 09/18/2010




McKenzie will be 33 months when the baby is born so I am trying to prep her. She is super attached to me, so it will be interesting! I asked her the other day if she liked babies and she said "Babies cry, mommy." Hmmm, lol. I did read a good idea that was to have the "baby" give the big sibling a present in the hospital. Kenzie does love gifts!

Anna - posted on 09/18/2010




My daughter is a year old, so we are going through the same dilemna. I'm not really sure if we should tell her now, since she doesn't know what a baby is yet, but at the same time I don't think we should wait too much longer so she has time to get used to it.

Naomi - posted on 09/17/2010




My daughter will be 4 next month. She's pretty excited about being a big sister... she totally gets there is a baby growing in there, but doesn't understand why it takes so long for the baby to come out... just about every day she asks to feel the baby kick... can't wait until she really CAN feel the little kicks. So cool!

Fiona - posted on 09/16/2010




My daughter is 12 months old, so she dosen't understand at all! But we still talk about the baby and about her being a big sister.

Elizabeth - posted on 09/14/2010




Daddy tells our 16 month old that "Mommy has a baby in her tummy" and he lifted my shirt and started looking in my belly button, then he looked up at me like... "Where Mommy? I don't see it?" it was adorable. I don't know if he'll truly understand until the baby's here... but at least we'll get him used to the idea of being a big brother and not being THE baby anymore.

Kaleena - posted on 09/09/2010




i told my 3 yr old son straight away he didnt understand straight away but is getting there he asked the other day if we can go get bubby now we had to explain that we cant just go get bubby we have to wait til its our turn

User - posted on 08/31/2010




I have an 18 month old daughter who will have just turned 2 when our next baby comes along. We are already talking to her about the new baby being in my tummy and all, and it's adorable because she always looks for my tummy now and lifts up my shirt just to kiss it! So definitely the goal is to keep talking about the new baby to make it an easier transition.

Miriam - posted on 08/29/2010




My son was only 16 months when we told him I was pregnant, and he happily said 'hello' to my tummy etc. This time round we say 'mama has a baby in her tummy' and he goes 'haha, no baby'. Prob when I start showing he'll realise.

Alyssa - posted on 08/28/2010




My son is only 15 months so I know its a concept he can't grasp but I tell him he's going to be a big brother and what not. He went to my first ultrasound with my husband and I and liked looking at the screen and hearing the heartbeat. I'm hoping I can get him to understand by March!

Sarah - posted on 08/19/2010




My daughter is 30 months old. I think she understands that there is a baby in my 'tummy.' My sister just had a baby in March. So I slightly taught her the baby thing while she could see my sister's big baby. Then to see the baby later, I think started to connect things. She also went to my prenatal appointment and saw the ultrasound. I have showed her where the baby is in the picture and she gets to show all family and friends.

Jodi - posted on 08/16/2010




My daughter is only 18 months old, but we talk to the baby in my belly, talk about the baby in my belly, kiss the baby, and talk about being a big sister. I know she doesn't understand, and at this age, she just won't understand no matter how I explain it! But, I figure I will make this baby a part of her life now to maybe make the transition a little bit easier.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/15/2010




My daughter is 33months and I have told her she doesn't completely understand but she has an idea. I plan on signing her up for a sibling class but i think that she has to be three to go to that.

Alissa - posted on 08/14/2010




Too cool, I have a 26 month old daughter ;) We have been telling her and so has my mom. I don't think she gets it just yet fully but it's funny to hear her say she has a baby growing in her belly, lol. Until then we will just keep telling her she is going to be a big sister. I was also planning on printing out a sonogram picture for her and explaining it too.

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