Did you marry quickly, small ceramony?? Then regret not having a big day years later?

Kitty - posted on 10/04/2011

no we had a quickie in 93 and church in 94 was great i was preg then to LOL

Jay - posted on 10/02/2011

Ya we eloped, with no family there, my family were not happy about us being together then. But when I told everyone I was pregnant they all got excited and gave my Dh a chance, now I wish we had waited, we want to do it again and no-one even knows we are married so we are hoping that we can do it in a church and pretend its the 1st time! I feel childish keeping it from them but I think it would break my mothers heart as I am the only one of 6 children who are married.
Pregnant with number 2 now so it will have to wait again,
My DHs family know about us being wed so it is easier on him, I feel very lonely sometimes and regret it, but I love my husband and I am glad we shared our love especially before our first born! xx

Erin - posted on 09/29/2011

My Husband and I were going to get married April 4, 2010. the day of our fist date. however, my husbands visa expired and the USCIS were looking for him. So we had a choice to get married that night or lose him. So we made the decision to get married that night at our lawyers office at 11p. We told my parents the next day. They were shocked but we didn't have a chance to make it special. 6months later we had a small reception with all our friends and family. But i really wanted our day to be special. But hopefully in 9 years we can make it happen.

Trish - posted on 09/27/2011

I married very quickly. Most of my family and friends had no idea I was married until a few years after. It was sign the papers in the office..my parents and my in laws were the witnesses and that was it. I don't have any regrets. When you're in love having a big wedding is not important. Just being together is enough.Sometimes I don't understand how some people can blow thousands of dollars on one day when they could use that money for the start of their future. But I guess if you got the money...do a big wedding...but if you don't...don't sweat the small stuff.

Tarren - posted on 08/09/2011

My husband proposed a month before he was due to leave for Iraq, and at the last minute we decided to get married before he left. JP, just us and a friend for a witness. We were young and didn't have much money, nor the time to plan a big, elaborate affair. BUT we renewed our vows on our fifth anniversary, with the church, the dress, the whole nine yards. I was six months pregnant with our second child and wouldn't trade that memory for the world. I think it meant a lot more to us than it would have in the beginning. I say go for something like that- it was wonderful!

Carolee - posted on 07/03/2011

We were in the middle of planning our big, outdoor, Spring wedding when I found out I was pregnant (literally, I waited until I took a pregnancy test before buying my dress, and it ended up positive). I knew I was most likely going to be on bed rest for at least part of the pregnancy, like I was when I was pregnant with my son, so we decided to get married on New Year's Eve. My mom and sister planned the entire thing (with my approval) in 2 weeks, and my sister got ordained and officiated the ceremony that was held in my mother's dining room. Some family made it, but most didn't. I don't regret the size of the wedding, but I DO regret not getting a bachelorette party, wedding reception, and honeymoon!

Laura - posted on 06/17/2011

I married very quickly; I got hitched in november 2009 when i was 25 and my husband was 31. our daughter was almost 1 year old. i went out and did what i had to to get married i found a justice of the peace which cost 250 dollars and we applied for a marriage lisence which was good for 3 months and thats all we needed to get married we didnt wait too long after he proposed it was like a few weeks and than we were married on november 28 2009. we had a few family members that we knew could be there and I found a cheap dress which I now think is ugly as sin but it worked for me at the time and my husband wore a old suit that he had and we were married in his aunte back yard which would have been great except it was freezing cold and i could barely feel my hands or feet but that didnt bother me because i was marrying him. there was his mother and step-dad, and his aunt and uncle and there kids and my one sister and her husband her there kid and thats it my mom and i dont get along so she didnt come and my dad passed away when i was pregnant with Maddie. Everyone who was there we wanted them to be there and anyone that wasnt there or couldnt be understood that weddings are expensive and we felt there was no reason to spend all our money on something like a wedding since it was only going to last a few ours...lol and thats that .

Becky - posted on 06/02/2010

My experience is the opposite. We got engaged after only 3 months but it was another 15 months before our wedding day arrived. We planned a beautiful but very simple ceremony but it ended up turning into a much bigger wedding with 3 bridesmaids, nearly 80 guests, etc. We have decided to elope on our 10th anniversary, just us and the kids, and do it all again the way we origonally wanted.

Elisabeth - posted on 05/29/2010

I don't regret it. Me and my DH got married in a small ceremony, only about 20 of his family members/friends. None of mine as I am from the other side of the country. We had planned it that way for about 6 months. It was still nice but not expensive, didn't have a reception or anything. Most of the time I love the fact we did it that way and if I had a choice I would do it like that again. But in saying that sometimes when I see photos in mags or weddings on tv or friends and see how beautiful everything was (especially the brides) I get a bit sad that they spent so much more on making themselves beautiful then I did, but then I think look at how much attention they placed on themselves they prob forgot what the day was actually about, the two of them, not the guests or food or place.

Lisa - posted on 05/10/2010

Hi! Yes my husband and I met in Feb. of 2001 and we were married in May of 2001. We eloped to Las Vegas and I knew at the time it felt right and we simply had a reception when we came home. We just celebrated our 9 year anniversary, and it has been good and bad. I do not regret having the small ceremony because it was so much cheaper, but I sometimes wish I could have had the "big day" with all my family there. I really wish now that I would have got to know him better before jumping into the wedding so soon. I found out some things after that I did not like, but we have worked them out, by God's plan. We still are having communication issues and that is really why I am on here, but thought I would share my story with you since I saw it! God bless you and your marriage!

Stefie - posted on 04/30/2010

I found out I was pregnant, told my then boy friend, made him come and meet my family the next weekend, and the following weekend I drove down to where he was stationed and we were married. My younger sister bought me a dress and a veil. I bought myself a bouquet at Wal-mart:(
We were married at the court house and my husband could not even spend the night with me since he was in the Navy and they did not recognize our marriage until the next day. Some of our friends did take us out to dinner (good thing too, because we only had like $50 left after the cost of me driving to him and having to stay in a hotel until after we were married)
The next day we did get housing and were able to spend the night together. We lived for a few weeks on blankets on the floor with a computer as our only source of entertainment.
We have been happily married for two and a half years now. Our wedding story is kind of sad but our marriage is so happy.
Some times I do wonder what it would have been like to have a wedding, but I am so happy with our life, missing that one day just does not seem important. I am proud we celebrate our love everyday and not just one single day.

Lori - posted on 03/24/2010

My husband and I were married on a beach in 2006 with just ourselves and our three children. It was worry free, stress free, regret free. Still is. :o) We were disappointed that our family and friends were not able to be there but I will never regret NOT doing the great big thing. My husband and I made an agreement that we would host a small reception for our immediate family and closest friends when we were married five years wedding cake included. None of our family and none of our friends took offense.

Rochelle - posted on 03/09/2010

I got married at the JP and don't regret it as hubby and I prefered to save that money for a trip. Hopefully, when we renew our vows we will have a big cermony....hopefully we have enough money at that time as well. LOL

Addie - posted on 03/05/2010

Yes and YES!!!!

DH and I got engaged in January, and despite the fact that I am an only child, my parents couldn't have cared less.

We progressed making wedding plans for October - picking a church, shopping for a dress, etc. By March/April, when we realized no one even cared, we figured, why spend the money to feed and entertain a bunch of people that dont even care??

In July, we drove to Las Vegas and eloped....got married at the courthouse, 11PM at night in the same clothes we drove into town in.

I dont regret the timing, nor the fact that we saved a lot of money. I DO regret not having anything to show my kids & grandkids about our weeding story....no photos, no family-shared memories, and I never got to walk down the aisle in that pretty white dress. And of course, no parents there either.

I'd love to have a do-over someday, but now, DH is the one who could care less.

Caitlin - posted on 03/04/2010

My husband and I were engaged, and found out I was pregnant a few months later. Our wedding was planned for 2012 so we could save up enough money to pay for the entire thing ourselves, but with a baby on the way, we decided to do a JP wedding. We hope that one day we will be able to renew our vows, and be able to have a huge wedding like we originally planned!