Leah - posted on 02/26/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )
i have been married to my husband for 5 and a half years. we are totally against divorce except in the cases of abuse or infidelity. that being said we are going through a very rough patch right now.
the worst part of it is that he doesn't seem to think that anything is wrong. when we were dating we talked about marriage as a partnership and that it only works when both people give 100%.
i feel like i do everything. he works 2 jobs and is gone 12 hours a day 4 days a week (and i am super grateful to be able to stay home with our girls) but when he gets home he does NOTHING except play on his x-box. he won't even make 5 minutes to talk to me about his day or anything else. i feel like i'm just his maid/nanny. we don't have the relationship we used to. we used to spend hours just talking and goofing around.
we had two miscarriages last year which is part of the problem since he doesn't think they were "people." he thinks the losses were no big deal and that i shouldn't have been sad for so long. i don't think i would have hurt as bad if he had felt like they were his children too.
i get so sad and angry sometimes, but i think it is just because i want him to love me the way i love him and the way he used to love me.
has anyone else been through this and stayed married? how did you make things better when he doesn't think anything is wrong?