Lynne - posted on 05/25/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )
My Daughter & her Husband hate my Husband. This has been going on for 7 years. I used to visit her & family (Husband,2 Granddaughters) by myself (they live in another State). I used to see her when she came to my State , but my Husband was never allowed to join us & she refuses to visit me in our home because of her hatred for my Husband.
For seven years, I have been compromising, groveling, pleading, but nothing has changed. (all this because her Husband's family invested in my Husband's company which failed when dot com happened & they think my Husband is a "crook.")
I was being pulled in half & in so much pain, so I recently wrote my Daughter & told her that I would not visit her without my Husband & would not see her where I live unless she comes to our home.
I just couldn't stand the pain my Husband has been under anymore.
My Daughter did call me on Mother's Day. But, we used to talk on the phone alot, Now we don't , though I send her messages, like Hi, etc.
I think I did the right thing, but it is very, very hard. I also worry about their kids learning not to be compassionate and forgiving.
What do you think? Any advise? Anyone with a similar story and what you did? (I pray a lot).