Lisa - posted on 04/16/2009 ( 26 moms have responded )
We are newly weds married in August 2008. been together since June. 2005 I'm 28 and he's 27. We have an 11 month old son together and he has an 8 yr old son from a previous marriage.
We have been at each others throats for a few weeks now. i don't know what to do....
my husband works and i stay home with the baby he doesn't think that what i do equals to what he does. its not fair
What usually starts our arguments its either me asking him to help with the baby then he immediately tells me how easy my life is
his job requires him to work 25-30 hours a week. He leaves for work at 7am and sometimes he his home by 9:30 am but still tells me he doesn't have the energy to help or he tells me that he worked soo hard that day and that he needs a nap or there is some other excuse he gives me. BUT when he wants to do things he has all the energy in the world. for example. this week he worked long hours til 4pm (not usual at all)((i know he isn't cheating b/c my brother worked with him all this week.))
but monday and tuesday were hard days for him and both days got off work around 3pm but he has the energy to go to the bike park? he would rather drive to the bike park about ten min away than walk to the park 2 blocks away there is more things for the baby at the park right by the house.- and the bike park has broken glass all over the ground b/c the skateboarders don't want the bikers on the ramps and stuff so it is no where near safe for a baby learning to walk. i can't keep him in the stroller the entire time its not fair to jacob (our son)
another he waits til around 10pm to tell me he doesn't have clean work clothes. well if he wasn't worried about playing video games til bedtime and freaking riding his bicycle he would have clean clothes.
he can complain that the house is cluttery, messy WELL I CAN'T DO IT ALL MYSELF. LAUNDRY, BABY, ETC,. SO when he is home early i do expect him to help me out.
I DON'T KNOW HOW TO GET THIS THROUGH TO MY HUSBAND THAT I'M GOING TO BREAK AND LOOSE MY MIND. i seriously feel like a single parent thats living in a furbished home.
i'm not sure what to do but leaving is NOT an option. I want my marriage to work!!
TODAY i sent him a text telling him we needed to talk about us and that i feel like we have lost respect for each other. i told him i loved him and he sent a text back telling me that he loves me also.
i can say i have lost something for him b/c anything he says just gets under my skin. i hate the way he drives i hate riding anywhere with him, he is such an asshole driver. i feel like i am finding and picking out more and more things that i don't like about him.
i know i can be overbearing and bossy but its because i need help!! i don't know how to ask his help with out seeming like i'm complaining or can't handle it.