Megan - posted on 02/11/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
My husband and I have been married for 5 and a half years. I had two children before we were married, and he's good with them, but I get worried that he'll never have a dad connection with them. But that's a different issue.
He's never gone out without me, because every time he asks I say I'm ok with it, but he can tell I'm really not. He lets me go out all the time without him, and will even watch my friends kids too so we can go out. He's amazing for that. But every time he wants to do the same I get pissed and don't want him too. I think I get upset because I don't want to miss out on anything that has to do with him. Maybe I should give a little more information about me...
I have been depressed since my son was born, he's almost 11. I'm currently on Wellbutrin, and it works great, except before I take it. If I wait until 8 a.m. to take my pill I'm ok, unless he says something to me, and then almost anything he says will set me off, although it's not just him. I'm going to the doctor for that next week, but I don't know if that has anything to do with this. I don't know if the depression even has anything to do with this, but in case it did I wanted to share everything.
My husband has very little tact when saying things to just about anyone, and usually has no idea how to approach something with me. For instance, today.... We were last minute invited to a 1 year olds birthday party, that we weren't necessarily left out of, but they just forgot. Instead of telling me at first that we were both invited he asked if I minded if he went over there. A few minutes later he informs me that we were all invited, but he just thought it would be easier if he went by himself. But I could come if I wanted to. That pissed me off. I know about his tact problem, but it doesn't make it any easier to accept.
I know I'm all over the place in this post, and I'm sorry if it is at all confusing, but if there are any questions I can answer them. I just don't know if I'm out of control on this issue and if I need to get help for it.