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About to go crazy

Teresa - posted on 04/28/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My daughter will be 6 in may, the last couple of months she has wanted to become independent, doing everything on her own even her bath-time. These are all good things but it also seems that with this new independence she have become very over-emotional. she cries at everything- even driving in the rain she cries & wants to go home. in the mornings are worse because if she has to wear jeans bc it's cold it's a major melt down. we don't give into her demands but she doesn't stop crying, we've taken things away from her, we've tried to give good behavior rewards but nothing seems to help. and this is bad but sometimes it gets to the point where i feel myself just getting out of control, i never do- i immediately walk away but i hate having that feeling....someone please HELP!!!! i want my happy go lucky little girl back!!!!

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Kat - posted on 05/18/2011

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I agree with Louise that ingoring the behavior might be the best thing to do. As for the clothing I totally understand... My daughter is in school and she wants to wear dresses and skirts sometimes which i'm fine with when the weather is nice enough but lately the weather has been cold in the morning and then warmer later or has just been cold and she was getting upset everytime she couldn't wear what she wanted so I told her that she needed to set out two sets of clothes and then in the morning we go outside the front door before she gets dressed so she can feel what it feels like and then she chooses what to wear... Letting her having that choice helped so much and now she sets out two sets of clothes and picks which to wear based on the weather.

Louise - posted on 04/28/2011

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I know this is hard but you have to totally ignore her when she freaks out like this. As soon as you sence that she is about to flip then either distract or leave the room. The emotions will not take over then as she has no audience. Crying all the time is getting your attention even though it is not the attention she wants. As soon as she starts give her no eye contact and leave the room. Do not talk to her or even acknoldege she is there until she has stopped. I know this is asking alot but it does work. Then when she has done something good then go overboard on praise. Reinforce the good behaviour all the time and totally blank the tears. This is just a form of control on you so you need to take back that power.

As for clothing issues then let her set out the night before two sets of clothing one for nice weather and one for cold weather then she knows what to ware when she opens the curtains. This removes the stress of fighting to get her dressed. Good luck

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