Amanda - posted on 07/22/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )
My daughter is 3yrs old and is in a pretty tough situation right now. Her father and I split a month after she was potty trained a little before her 2nd birthday. She was doing great prior to us seperating, peeing and poopin on the potty with no issues at all and slowly after we split she started being petrified of pooping on it. She will go into the bathroom all by herself and pee, but when it comes to her having to go poopy she runs to her room to hide and tries her HARDEST to keep it in, I'll try to coach her into the bathroom and sit her on the potty but she is literally petrified of it. Screams bloody murder and trembles like someone is trying to kill her.
I know that she is going through a great deal of stress because of her father and I not being together, although its been almost 2 years now but I also know for a fact that a big part of the blame IS HER FATHER. He lives in an unfinished basement with no bathroom, the bathroom is in the upstairs part of the house and I know he doesn't actively ask her if she needs to use the bathroom so she just goes where ever and when ever she wants in her pants while she is with him. I've asked him time and time again to please work with her, and he denies her even having a problem with him, according to him she poops on the potty fine at his house...which I find VERY hard to believe with the way she acts when I get her back from him.
Please help, any pointers or advice would be great. I've tried everything, sitting on the big potty while putting her on hers, enticing her with rewards such as treats or stickers...nothing is working. It's getting to be a huge struggle and problem especially when we are out somewhere. I'm so lost, upset, and angry (not with her, but with her father) Thanks!