How to deal with 18 month olds tantrums when we are out at a store

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Char - posted on 02/03/2009

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We give her a basket to fill up, and eat snacks on the walk to the store, if she throws a fit in the store I pick her up and give her a hug and then I ask her if she would like to wait until we got home to finish the fit because the carpet is soft at home, and if she says no, we go outside for a quick walk and then come back...

Kimberly - posted on 02/02/2009

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i think everyone has the same problem but i find as long as we are moving my litlle boy is happy but i guess if it a little boy they may just be having a male reaction to complain and whine not letting us do what we need to do



 

Mandy - posted on 01/30/2009

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My son has recently been discovering his body parts. It doesn't matter where we are or what we are doing, when he starts to cry/scream I just simply say wheres your nose? It works everytime.

Amanda - posted on 01/29/2009

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Oh god dont get me started lol. As soon as I step foot into the store my son screams. He loves helping me put items into the trolley so you could try that or he loves bananas and juice so I have started to bring them along too. If I only need a basket full I make sure he is tired when I go lol. Then he sleeps in the pushchair till I finish, its great. x

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I exit the store as fast as I can.  I can't tell you how many times I have apologized to the cashiers and people in line behind me.  My daughter cannot stand to be strapped down...whether it is a grocery cart or a car seat.  I swore I would NEVER be one of those moms with the screaming kids in Wal-mart.  Stupid me.  I do bring a toy, juice, and some kind of snack whenever I go shopping, but sometimes the meltdowns can't be prevented.  

Josi - posted on 01/27/2009

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I'm a stay-at-home mom and I take my son just about everywhere with me. I keep him busy with snacks, songs, talking, peek-a-boo, tickling...just about anything to keep him interacting with me. I'll even drive the cart all crazy to make him laugh. I'll also admit to bribing him. In Wal-Mart he knows if he's good he gets to go see the fish (which he LOVES) after we've gotten all the groceries.

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It always depends on what kind of tantrum mine's throwing although my four year old is worse than his little sister, Mine don't respond to the distraction tactics unless its for sweets  and that doesn't happen too often!!!! If its my four year old I just laugh at him ( mainly because he looks so funny I didn't know you could push your knees together and do that dance!!) he hates being laughed at and being told he looks silly, My toddler is a different story completly she has opinions on everything and if she doesn't want to do it nothing will make her do it I've tried the bye method she just sits down on the floor hands behind her back and grins at me but nothing moves her!!! I know its no help to anyone but if distraction doesn't work try laughing and telling them they look silly. I have however been known on the odd occasion to throw a tantrum myself that usually gets them moving usually in horror lol

Zoe - posted on 01/23/2009

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I agree with the distraction tactics, they usually work for me. The other thing that I do is just say Bye - bye and then start walking away slowly. This gets her attention and resets the tantrum to zero.

Gail - posted on 01/23/2009

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I keep two of his favorite toys in my purse at all times. I also cart around a couple of his favorite snacks. This makes shopping much less stressful!

Amanda - posted on 01/23/2009

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really is might seem mean but just ignore her, she will see that she is not getting your attention and will stop

Aracely - posted on 01/21/2009

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I too have this problem! One thing that has worked is food! My daughter will usually calm down if she is busy putting food into her mouth. This is the reason we'll usually go shopping during her snack time. One activity I haven't tried... is taking my daughter to the park before the grocery store. Going to the park should wear her out, so she'll actually want to stay seated in the cart. :)



Good Luck!

Jenifer - posted on 12/13/2008

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Yep, sounds like us, I think a lot of it has to do with distraction, and just keeping them busy! Zachary also has a comfort item, his Mr. Moo Cow, he takes it everywhere and has to sleep with it, his head looks like its about ready to fall off! I am also a Stay at home mom, and he is pretty scheduled, so If I have to go somewhere it is right away in the morning, or after his nap. At our walmart there is a huge area by the check outs where there is games, candy, toys ect. I have let my children play before, and now he wants to ALL the time, so I have to try to find a checkout where he cant see it!

Megan - posted on 12/12/2008

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Jennifer, that is exactly what I do! My little boy is 18 months also, and my husband works a lot, so I pretty much have to take Isaac with me just about wherever I go. I have found the best thing is to keep him involved... Talk about what we are going to get at the grocery store, letting him hold things, point out interesting things (now is the prefect time- he loves all the Christmas decorations that are in EVERY store now!), even talking about what we will do when we get home. He also has a comfort item, a beanie baby puppy, that he sleeps with and takes everywhere, and puppy also accompanies us on our trips. Some people have looked at me like I'm crazy to drag this dog with us everywhere, but I figure it's better than the looks I would be getting if he was screaming at the top of his lungs! When all else fails, I warn him that if he can't be nice we will have to leave, and have ended a shopping trip early because he refused to stop yelling... Since I am a stay at home mom, shopping trips are a treat for him and he usually doesn't want to miss out on them! Other than that, just try not to be out and about too much over nap time! Hope this helps!

Jenifer - posted on 12/12/2008

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So funny, right after I wrote the first reply, my son did throw a fit in walmart, my first reaction was to distract him....i said, oh my look over there do you see that........and they say the first thing I see, and he calmed right down, I kept talking to him the whole time, asking him yes or no questions, (anything I could think of, like, do you think we should go find some milk, then we are going to get some eggs) and he loves to answer yes or no to me! I constantly talk to him, and explain to him how he has to sit in the cart so he dont get hurt!Then I picked a toothbrush up and let him hold it for me, and hurried!! LOL!

Kathleen - posted on 12/12/2008

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Any little bit helps.... I do the same when I go out, but he just will not sit in the stroller or shopping cart anymore. He may be good for 5 minutes and wants out and he will start arching his back and trying to slide out. I too keep my trips as short as possible. I try not to take him out to a store at all if I don't have.

Jenifer - posted on 12/09/2008

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I havent really had to deal with a full blown tantrum "yet" I always have my son strapped into a cart or stroller. I bring lots of things to keep him happy, snacks, toys, ect. And I just try to make the trips as short as possible. ( I know not too much help! sorry!)

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