Jen - posted on 06/07/2011 ( 21 moms have responded )
The day after our daughter's third birthday, we began attempting to potty train her. initially, we put her in big girl underpants and made it clear to her that her pee-pee goes into the potty, which was readily accessible. While she seemed to understand the concept, she continued to wet and soil her pants, despite the treats, stickers, praise, etc.
After weeks of this situation, we acquiesced to the advice from people who said, "Back off and let her decide for herself when she is ready" We put her into Pull-ups, kept the potty seat accessible at all times, gently encouraged her to go on the potty rather than in her pants and let her decide when she was ready.
After a year of waiting, we finally realized her decision was . . . never.
She knows what the potty is for and what goes into it. We know this because we have asked her if she knows and she tells us.
She is now 4 years old and still not one inch closer to using the potty.
We took the suggestion of simply watching for signs and "encouraging" her to sit on the potty. SHe denies EVER needing to go. She goes 12 FULL HOURS without releasing and saves it for when she's asleep at night and we clean her up in the morning.
We have promised every reward we can think of in exchange for going on the potty and she tells us she doesn't want any of it.
Someone else suggested taking away the toys she already has, she says she doesn't want her toys.
So, to recap, we have tried:
Putting her in "big girl underpants" right away.
-Transitioning by way of Pull-ups.
-Offering Stickers, treats, movies, etc.
-Watching her like a hawk for "signs" of needing to go then taking her to the potty.
-Letting her decide on her own when she is ready.
-Getting down on her level, telling her how much she is loved and needs to use the potty.
-"Tough love" methods such as holding toys hostage.
All to no avail.
Does anyone have any fresh ideas, as we are completely at a loss.