terrible twos..

User - posted on 01/26/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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well, we are almost there, are any of you moms out there seeing the signs yet? Because I sure am!!

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Kyla - posted on 01/29/2009

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If you're not in public, try just letting her scream it out and flail around, as long has she doesn't hurt herself. I find that once they get all of the anger and frustration out they will actually listen after if you sit them on your lap and talk about why they're angry, sad or whatever.

Kyla - posted on 01/29/2009

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Absolutely! My daughter is starting to scream that high pitched scream if something gets taken away, or when she drops things etc. It's hard to deal with! If it's something she hasn't done wrong I just try and console her, if it's something she has done wrong, I let her cry it out for a minute and then sit down and talk with her about it. It calms her down.

Samantha - posted on 01/29/2009

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 like you my child who is 20 months now has had the terrible 2's since she was 1 she hates it when i say no or if i am giving her sister attention she will throw herself on the floor and headbutts it and pulls her hair out in clumps i was getting to a point where i felt like i just couldnt cope like you i  tried the time out on a chair or stairs and she kept moving now i tend to put her in the highchair which she refuses to sit and eat off strap her in tight and tell her that when she calms down she can come out then ignore her now she getting to know when that chair come out she is either good or i wil put her in it it is starting to work for me  

Michele - posted on 01/28/2009

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My 20 mos. old, Claudia, has been having tantrums since about 9 mos. of age. They are now full-blown, throw herself on the floor meltdowns! Several times a day! She is my first, so I am learning as I go. However, I was a nanny for years, for two girls-newborn to 24 mos. and never experienced this behavior with them. My husband blames me, but I have tried EVERYTHING. Diverting her attention doesn't work because she is usually screaming so loud that she can't hear me talking to her. I try walking away from her, but she gets up and follows me. I am trying time-outs, but that often leads to 20 mins of more screaming and throwing herself on the floor. She's up for an Academy Award this year. I am open to any suggestions too!

Cheryl - posted on 01/28/2009

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she is so stubborn it is immpossible. she goes to playschool, even her teachers tell me that. she knows she is doing something wrong but still goes ahead and does it. she starts shouting if she doesnot get what she wants , when she wants.

Christina - posted on 01/27/2009

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Heheheee!!! Yes. I'm starting to see it. Kassidy gets this pout on her face and give a look that could freeze the devil himself. LOL!! She tells me no and tells me and my husband that we are a bad girl when she doesn't get her way. She will also tell us that we are mean. It's so cute that it's hard not to laugh. She's been having tantrums lately but I think that some of it (at least) has to do with her not feeling very well the last week or so. We have had a terrible time with some nap-times, some bedtimes and getting up in the middle of the night and not wanting to go back to bed. She's on an antibiotic but it hasn't made this new sleep issue any better yet.



I have a 7 year old daughter too and I only hope that I learned with her that if she's not the one getting conditioned then I am so it's best to just be brave a bite your lip threw the temper tantrum and not give in to the temptation of giving them everything that they want the moment that they want it. It's not the way the world works.

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oh, I'm not saying mine doesn't have her share of "meltdowns", and when she does, all I can do is wait it out, pray its over fast, and that there aren't too many people watching...



I'm gonna look for the book, too!

User - posted on 01/27/2009

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The book is a terrific read. It is honest and open. It makes you really realize things that you have secretly been stressing.

Josi - posted on 01/27/2009

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oh yes...my son started soon after his 1st birthday. my dr. says some kids start early and my son certainly did. setting boundaries and sticking to my guns helped me with my son. it's hard when they're screaming because they want their way, (especially when it's so easy to give in so they'll be quiet) but i tell myself that i'm teaching him life lessons. i certainly don't get what i want when i want it! i also affirm how he's feeling by saying for instance, "i know you're mad. we all get mad sometimes, but we are not going to watch tv anymore (or whatever)." then, i let him work it out himself by crying. good luck! =) i'm going to look for that book. i love to read too.

User - posted on 01/27/2009

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Of course as mothers, we try as hard as we can to understand what they are going thru... and help them thru life and its challenges. The "moments" is what I am referring to. I am a first time mother, and for my child, giving her blocks or anything doesnt work. Every child is different and I am sure all us mothers have tried every solution imaginable. Sometimes its just not enough for these curious, confused, growing toddlers.. The feelings that they feel, I know has to be strange and new.. I sympathize on the harsdships these little people have to face everyday. I admitt to sometimes, when I know both her and I have had enough, give her what she wants, if all else fails. It doesnt label me as a bad mother, it just means that us adults have our "moments"also, and just dont know what to do. These actions from my my beautiful angel are strange and new to me also. We are both figuring it all out and teaching one another, Everyday will not be perfect, and I dont expect it to be.  Somedays redirecting her will only work with a cookie, and other days as easy as her favorite puzzle. We are not calling our children terrible, we are calling the confusion of the age for both mother and child terrible.

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My little angel does have her moments...and when she does, I redirect her...  If she is mad and screaming because she wants to watch ANOTHER Elmo DVD, I pull out her blocks and start playing with them...she usually joins me right away.



I read that the "terribles" are actually worse on the 1/2's, like 18 months old and 2 & 1/2 yrs old. It said it had something to do with their hormonal changes.  And I know how I feel when I am hormonal, so I try to give her a break.  

Heather - posted on 01/26/2009

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i think im starting to see some signs of whats to come as well! Lately my normally very sweet child is now telling me No! and just in general bein a brat.. I think she's figuring out that she is her own person & does not have to listen if she doesnt want to! we used to be able to tell her dont do that & she would listen!

User - posted on 01/26/2009

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Well, now that Im hearing about terrible 3's, im def worried for the next couple years. My daughter is as stubborn as they come already. Shes an only child, so shes the only experience I have.  I think she assumes that I will do whatever it is she tells me, bc sometimes she does just get her way.. only to get the screaming to stop. And she has learned some naughty things from other children that she associates with, and she is just as bossy with them. How to find common ground with your 1 1/2 yr old???? And also how to get your husband to not undermind you when you are away?? I think that is an issue also, he does what is easiest when Im away, therefore she is a pain when I get back...wow what to do??!!

Natalie - posted on 01/26/2009

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I agree with Kay.  My kids were much worse as 3 year olds- however I am very worried for my youngest- he is already so stubborn and whiny!!  After the terrible 3's in my house, they calmed down until kindergarten when they came home with new terrible attitudes and naughty things they learn from their friends!

User - posted on 01/26/2009

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oh wow. Im trying my best to make life as easy as I can, but it seems everything I do is wrong. example: I give her a drink, she starts crying bc its not the specific drink she wanted. I find refuge in reading (when its possible!!) this terrific inspiring book that I purchased at Target, the book is called "I was a good mom before I had kids." What a life saver that book is. I recommend this book to all moms. Lets hope the saying doesnt change to "terrible 1-5's"  lol, although it seems that way sometimes..

Kay - posted on 01/26/2009

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Yes altho I must say, the terrible 2's seems to have extended to 3's in our household.

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