2nd birthday coming up!

Kim - posted on 04/14/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )

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So we did a huge 1st birthday party for our daughter last year. We invited all our family and friends. We both have large families so the party ended up having well over 50 people that attended. I really want to have a small party this year for her, because well I am just worn out. We got pregnant with twins this last year. My due date was 5 days before my daughters birthday. We lost our twins at 11 weeks. I have been busy planning parties and chasing after an almost 2 year old as you all very well know can get rather tiring. So My question is... How do I throw a smaller party for her this year with no more than 20-25 people and not hurt any feelings? Any and all advice/help is welcome!
Thanks everyone!
-Kim

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Julie - posted on 04/29/2010

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Don't worry about it. The second birthday is not as big of a deal as the first. I'm 7 months pregnant and I told my husband that this party is all his responsibility. I ended up doing most of the first and didn't get to enjoy it much. If anyone isn't happy, they can blame him!

Shaye - posted on 04/26/2010

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I didn't feel like having a big party this year so I am having my husbands family over the weekend before my daughter's b-day and we will have her b-day with my family Memorial Day weekend. That way I only have to make dinner for a few people and will do something small on her real b-day. Kids have no idea of dates at this age so she'll never know the difference and less stress on me.

Marilyn - posted on 04/26/2010

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I would have just a few freinds with kids and the family can throw another party if they would like for your daughter. Being a parent is hard work and sometime families dont make it easy on us some of them make it more difficult.

Brandy - posted on 04/25/2010

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SOMTHING SMALL WILL BE QUITE FINE IF THE WEATHER IS RIGHT PLAN OTUSIDE TIME IF NOT PICK A WEEKEND YOU AND YOUR FAMILY CAN DO SOMTHING FUN AND IF HIS/HERS B DAY IS IN THE WEEK GIVE HIM/HER A CAKE ON THEIR B DAY AND WAIT TILL THE WEEKEND

Brandy - posted on 04/25/2010

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WELL JUST INVITE CLOSE FRIENDS AND FAMILY YOUR 2 YEAR OLD IS STILL SMALL AND IF PEOPLE DON'T UNDERSTAND JUST TELL THEM THAT HE/SHE IS STILL SMALL AND DOESN'T NEED ALL THE EXIMENT RIGHT NOW THERE WILL BE PLANTY OF TIME FOR BIG PARTIES

Marie - posted on 04/24/2010

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There were several young ladies in my church that we've had 1st and 2nd children around the same age.So about 5 years ago until there is a true TRADITION of us getting together. Birthdays are for children and not adults. My parties include family members from both sides withe children the same age. It has been great!! But struggling with an idea for my daughters 2nd birthday. It is two weeks away!!

Kathleen - posted on 04/23/2010

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I had the same wonderment as my darling 23 month olds first birthday was insanely big. I have decided to do a cupcake and pizza party at home I only invited 7 kids and 20 adults, much smaller than the first birthday... Also, the kids can decorate their own cupcakes to eat, and having pizza for food. I also requested everyone to bring a book, for a kids bring a book take a book party, no gifts necessary. I am looking forward to it!!

Annmarie - posted on 04/23/2010

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I agree with Aubery,
We have a big first birthday party, for our little girl and plan on having a small family get together so the 2nd birthday,

Marlene - posted on 04/21/2010

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I too have a large family. For my son's 1st Birthday we had 45 kids and the rest were adults which was over 120 people (all family with the exception of about 10 close friends). As you I am worn out chasing an almost 2 yr old and also recovering from shoulder surgery. We are doing his 2nd birthday at a bounce out place and are only inviting kids that we interact with. To me 1st birthday is the most important because the child made it thru the 1st year. My grandmother has 150 grandchildren so in our family the 1st B-day is big the rest is celebrated without requiring everyone, plus there are so many birthdays in our family that it can get costly.

Monica - posted on 04/21/2010

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With having such big families it is hard. As it is in my family of eight aunts and uncles, we always have the birthday parties with the parents and siblings when they are younger. Once they are older and spend more time with cousins then we all have a party for just the kids to attend that way there are no hurt feelings on anyones part.

Paula - posted on 04/17/2010

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Hi Kim! i agree with the other mom's in the circle..something small and dont let your family/friends make you feel guilty.we had a small party just my husband,my son,and myself for his 1st and it's gonna be the same for his 2nd as well. i think you'll find it to be the most memorible. i too am sorry for your loss.double hugs[HUG!HUG!]

Aubrey - posted on 04/17/2010

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I like Alison's response...you can host a small one, and then if a family member feels its necessary, let them do a family one for you.
But honestly, I think Two year old Parties are more for the parents, and getting presents. Just my opinion. First Birthday's kind of are too, but that's a HUGE milestone. After that, it's my belief that parties are a bit worthless until the child is old enough to understand, remember, and appreciate. Now, that isn't to say that having some close friends and family over for a "Grown Up get together" wouldn't be nice, but to have it be a "Birthday Party" per say, isn't for me. And I LOVE entertaining. For my First Daughter's 2nd birthday we had planned on it just being my husband and I, period. But our next Door neighbors asked what we were doing for her bday, so we invited them over for Cake. This year, My husband is deployed, and we have very few friends with toddlers, so IF (and that's a HUGE if) I do anything, it will be to invite a couple of neighbors over for cake again. But I'm honestly not even thinking about doing that!
My first daughter had a 1st bday party, and then didn't have another party until she was 5. It was perfect! :)
I just think you should do whatever it is you and your husband want, and forget about everyone else. They aren't the ones planning, buying for, etc. :)
I'm sorry about your loss. I lost a baby in 2006 at 11 weeks as well. {hugs}

Alison - posted on 04/15/2010

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I would say invite your close friends with young children for your smaller party, then let a family member host another party if they feel it is necessary for the whole family to do something. Your kid, your party. If a big party is too much for you, so be it. Don't let your family guilt trip you.

Another idea is to have a potluck in the park. Ask everyone to bring a cold dish and tell them you are taking care of cake, drinks and dishes (you can even delegate the drinks and dishes if you like). Your 2 year old wants nothing more than to play at the park and eat cake.

Sarah - posted on 04/14/2010

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Kim- I am trying to figure out the same thing... My daughter's birthday falls ON Mother's Day this year. AND I will be less than 6 weeks away from my due date with our second baby... I don't know what to do... We too have large families, and had almost 70 people at her first birthday party. I think I'm only going to invite our parents, grandparents, siblings, and a FEW close friends (most likely those with kids... and I will probably end up with around 30 people instead of 70 and do it on the Saturday before Mother's Day instead of ON Mother's Day... People have to understand that you can't have EVERYONE over every time... and it's not like the kids know the differance at this point! I think it can get too big too fast! Good luck!

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