Almost 10 months and won't sleep thru the night and wont go to sleep on her own either.

Andrea - posted on 03/19/2009

My 10 month old has started to want to stay up later as well and won't go to sleep without me holding her. She used to go to bed around 8-8:30 and we could lay her down while she was still awake and she would fall asleep with no problem. Now all of sudden she is like a different kid!

Meghan - posted on 03/19/2009

My ds is 10.5 months and has been going to sleep on his own (at night only) since 9.5 months. Honestly we did the Ferber method (which killed me). My son has slept in his crib since he came home (very rarely and for only a couple of hours at a time has he slept in bed with us). We give bath at 7pm, bottle (if time) between out of bath and 7:30. At 7:30 we head to room to read 2 stories and have about 5 min of cuddle time and then he lays down. The first night it took an hour and a half for him to go to sleep. The first time he cried my hubby went in after 5 minutes, told him that he was okay, laid him back down (he was standing), covered him up and tells him that it's time for bed and to close his eyes and have sweet dreams. We noticed that it was important that the words and tone be the same. We added about 2 minutes to the time before we went in (7,9, 11, etc) before he was asleep. The next night, took about 45 minutes, the next 15, and by the end of the week he was putting himself to sleep at least 5 nights out of 7 without any additional assistance. Putting himself back to sleep in the middle of the night and naps are completely different stories. A book I found helpful was Solving All Your Sleep Problems by Ferber.

Magda - posted on 03/18/2009

My little one goes to bed at 8.30-9pm..he has a bath at 6.30 and a bottle about half an hour later, he stays awake and plays until his bed time and has another bottle to drop him off to sleep in his crib. He wakes during the night like clockwork at around 3am for a bottle and sleeps til 6 30am. He has a bottle upon waking and plays til about 10.30 where he has a solid feed and a quick nap for about half an hour. he is then awake until 1pm where he naps for about an hour. How do you overcome the waking in the middle of the night? He is also not too happy about taking solid feeds and blatantly shuts his mouth and you can not budge a spoon past his lips! Any ideas???

Jodey - posted on 03/17/2009

My boy is 10months. I have a routine bath at 6pm bottle at 6.30pm have a cuddle with a lulaby or story put him in his cot with the mobile on it has lights and songs playing if hes dos not settle i leave him for ten mins to cry or to at least let him try to go to sleep on his own if that dont work go in and settle him down then leave the room again, i repeat this till hes asleep, most nights hes out like a log. my only problem with my son is he gets up very early about 5.30 and 6.30 but he has a long nap in the afternoon.

Jessica - posted on 03/17/2009

my daughter is the same. she is 10 months too. She still doesnt have a regular pattern no matter how hard we try to get her into one. So far she has 2 that she switches between. She will either have 2 naps a day one around10ish and then again around 5. But then she wont fall asleep again till 9-10pm. And thats only if I breastfeed her till shes asleep, but as soon as I go to put her down, she will wake up and wont go back to sleep until I laydown with her in our bed and go to sleep as well. She wont put herself to sleep at all! I seriously can not do the CIO thing because she works herself into such a state that she litterally cant stop herself. she wont take a dummy, just holding her and rocking her isnt enough either. She will wake up 3-4 times a night for feeds even though shes on 6 solid feeds a day, still still nurses at LEAST 10 times during the day! I dont know what to try anymore! PLEASE HELP ME!

Nadine - posted on 03/16/2009

Hi I'm having the same problems with my ten month old and I did try the crying it out method however my little man cries and cries until he throws up. Any suggestions also?

Lora - posted on 03/11/2009

My son kinda does the same thing. He's 10 months old and goes to bed at around 9 or 10 and gets up at 4am to eat and just goes right back to sleep and then we get up around 7-8 am. He takes 2 naps during the day! But he has no problem going to sleep on his own, i just give him a bottle in his crib and he goes right to sleep, sometimes i rock him though! Maybe just make the nap times shorter.

Katie - posted on 03/11/2009

I would suggest letting her cry it out for a week. Start by letting her cry for 5 minutes, go in check in on her, walk back out.. do this for at least 30minutes.. and do it for a week then bump up the cry time to 10 minutes.. it is extremly difficult but it will come to an end eventually. i had to do the same thing with my son (started at 8 1/2 months old and is now 9 1/2 months sleeping thru the night).. took a few weeks and it was so difficult. I had to go into the kitchen and run water to drain out his cry.. He now sleeps thru the nigth(switching him to formula also helped). Also, I put 4 extra pacifiers in his crib so he has more of a chance to find one and soothe himself. Sleep training is trianing for the baby and the parents.. it's not fun or easy but well worth it.. and the longer you put it off, the harder it will be as your baby gets older. Good luck.

Tania - posted on 03/08/2009

10:30 is kind of late. My 9 1/2 month old daughter is in bed at 7- 7:30 and sleeps straight through the night until 5:30-6am. She eats dinner at 5, has a cup of juice, bath by 6, playtime till she starts rubbing her eyes around 7, then she's out for the night. She takes 2 naps a day 1st around 10am, 2nd around 3pm.

Martie - posted on 03/07/2009

ok she can put herself to sleep at nap time it is at night she has a problem.  We just started to put her in her own room and she is doing better.  Dh made me do cry it out the last three nights and I feel like a terrible mother but it seems to be working.  She cried 1 hour the first night, 40 min last night and tonight she feel asleep after 5 min but woke back up and cried for 30 so I guess it is getting better but I hate this.

Whitney - posted on 03/07/2009

I NEVER had any of these problems. I put her in her cradle, she put herself to sleep. She woke up 2 times per night from the beginning. Around 6 weeks was sleeping through the night. And at 3 months was in her own room in her own bed. Now she will sleep nowhere else. It's a battle of the wills. There's night she cries, I let her cry it out. At first that was hard. When she was newborn..I couldn't do it. But now I have no problems letting her cry. 5 mins she's done and asleep. Sleeps from 8 or 9 til about 8 in the morning. With 2 naps per day.

Martie - posted on 03/06/2009

OMG my daughter only takes one nap a day for 2 to 3 hours and she does the same going to sleep at 8 or 9 and waking up a hour later and does not want to go back to sleep.  We just started to try the CIO method because we just have nothing else to do!  We have tried everything.  Where is the Sleep training Mommies at?

Jennifer - posted on 03/06/2009

Everyone here is invited to join a community I just started called Sleep Training Mommies! It's a supportive place for sleep deprived mothers and those that want to help.
Sleep is one of the biggest issues when it comes to raising very young children and babies. As mothers we can help each other find the right methods that work for each family :)

Phuong - posted on 03/06/2009

I have the same problem. My daughter has 3 naps a day, eats solids and drinks milk, goes to bed a 10-10.30pm and wakes during the night for milk. She also refuses to sleep in her cot, even though it is in my room and sleeps with me in my bed!!!! I've tried letting her cry it out, but she just goes on for hours. I'm going to try and decrease her to 2 naps a day starting next week, but if anyone can suggest any ways to get her into her own bed i'd be grateful. Good Luck

Karin - posted on 03/06/2009

Quoting Shae:

Thanks for all the replies. Cadence naps 3 times a day. She usually gets up around 9am and then wants to go back to sleep around 10 or 10:30 for an hour then gets back up and stays awake til around 3 then naps for an hour or less. Up again til around 7 then naps no longer then a half hour then up til 10:30 and sometimes later. I would love for her to go to bed earlier then 10:30. My ideal time for her would be 8 but every time i try to get her to bed earlier she just wakes up after a hour of sleep then wants to stay awake. As for where she naps i usually throw her in my bed or her portable crib/playyard. And i don't know how to put her down while she is drowsy because she always drinks her bottle in my lap and passes out during. Should i stop her from drinking it before she falls asleep?

I knew it. 3 naps/day is definately too much for a 10 mo old. Babies need training. Once you change the routine it will probably take 3-7 days to take effect. Baby wants to stay awake at 8pm because you're letting her nap around 7pm. When baby shows signs of being tired around 7pm, keep her awake. Do what is required to keep her awake whether it's putting her in a Jolly Jumper or Exersaucer, or bouncing her on your knee and making her laugh. It takes work.

I agree with stopping the bottle before baby falls asleep. I read that feeding time and sleep time should be separate. I get most of my advice from the book "What to Expect The First Year". I try to nurse my son a half hour before bedtime. Then, the bedtime routine consists of bath, lotion, diaper and PJ's, then a book. My son is usually awake when I put him in the crib. Of course there have been a few nights where routine is non-existent due to other factors (company visiting etc).

Amie - posted on 03/06/2009

Hi Shae



I see Canence take 3 naps a day. I would maybe try to drop one of her naps, and I would wake her up at either 7am or 8am. She maybe sleeping to much during the day.



I would probably not let her fall asleep when drinker her bottle. Maybe try to put her down while she drowsy. Naturally, there may be some crying for the 1st few night, But everything takes time. Hang in there, it will get better. I hope this helps

Shae - posted on 03/06/2009

Thanks for all the replies. Cadence naps 3 times a day. She usually gets up around 9am and then wants to go back to sleep around 10 or 10:30 for an hour then gets back up and stays awake til around 3 then naps for an hour or less. Up again til around 7 then naps no longer then a half hour then up til 10:30 and sometimes later. I would love for her to go to bed earlier then 10:30. My ideal time for her would be 8 but every time i try to get her to bed earlier she just wakes up after a hour of sleep then wants to stay awake. As for where she naps i usually throw her in my bed or her portable crib/playyard. And i don't know how to put her down while she is drowsy because she always drinks her bottle in my lap and passes out during. Should i stop her from drinking it before she falls asleep?

Christy - posted on 03/05/2009

I used the babywhisperer methods with my now 91/2 month old girl but used Crying with my others. They both work :) Both take time... there is a website for babywhisperer with a forum - babywhisperer.com...

The earlier to bed the better your baby will sleep... though it doesnt seem like that could be true.. i found out it is from all of my babies :)

What you can do to get your baby in her own crib is even laying on the floor while she got used to it. I used patting to teach my daughter to sleep in crib and i eventually just patted less and less each time.

Good luck

Christy

Nicola - posted on 03/05/2009

hi. i had this problem too, my son is 9 and a 1/2 months and was not able to fall asleep by himself, i had to put him to sleep in my bed and then transfer him to his cot. i just put him in his cot at 7pm and let him cry for 5 minutes then go in kiss his head and lay him back down and leave again, do this every 5 minutes until she is asleep. i did this alone as my husband is in kuwait with the army so it is more than achievable. no naps after 4pm. he has tea at 5pm, bath at 6pm then bottle and straight to bed, he takes about 5 minutes of shouting at me and then goes to sleep. it really does work though xx

Jennifer - posted on 03/05/2009

This book is life saver. It talks about sleep training ( cry it out, controlled crying, no cry).
It will also give you a good understanding on baby sleep cycles and habits.
It's called- Happy Sleep Habits, Happy Child - by Marc Weissbluth.

She needs to go to bed much earlier (around 7pm) and learn to go to sleep by herself. It will be very hard the first week or so of training (I cried alot)- but it will be worth it when your baby has all the sleep she needs and you've taught her how to soothe herself.
We had alot of similar problems and it helped us out.
Feel free to send me a message if you want to talk more in depth.
Best of luck!

Amie - posted on 03/05/2009

Hi Shae,



I'm not sure how many naps your little girl takes during the day, or how late you let her sleep. My daughter is 9 1/2 months. She get 2 naps a day. One in the morning for about 1 1/2 and one in the afternoon for 1 1/2 to 2 hours. I never let her sleep past 4:30pm from her nap. She goes to bed between 8pm and 8:30.



As for putting her in her crib. You said she's still sleeping in your room, is she in your bed? I think the less stressful way would be to bring the crib into your room. I know it maybe a really tight fit but that way she get used to the crib, and still have you near by which is what she is used to. Also where does she nap?



Every parent does things different. If you find it just to hard to let her cry it out, which I did, I tried it once and just couldn't do it. What I ended up doing was I picked a time like 30 seconds to start with. I would let her cry for 30 seconds, then I would go in. I would not pick her up but I would tell her I love her and it was ok cuz mommy and daddy where right here I would lay her back down and rub her back for 30 seconds to a minute, then I would leave the room again. If she cried again I would add 30 seconds to the crying time. so I would wait 1 full minute. Then go in and do the same thing again. I won't lie does take a little while, But it worked for my daughter with alot less crying for hours on end. I hope this helps good luck hun

Karin - posted on 03/05/2009

How many naps does she take/day and for how long? This might be a factor.



Also, 10:30pm bedtime seems late. My son goes to bed around 8pm and he is up before 7am. He has a nap around 10am for 1-2 hrs. If he has a long afternoon nap it usually affects his nighttime sleep.



If your Daughter is taking 2 naps/day or a long nap, I suggest that you decrease nap time or remove 1 nap).



I hope this helps :)