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Amanda - posted on 09/14/2009

Ohh yes! My son is 14 months old and has the biggest temper ever! He gets so frustrated that if he cant hit, headbut, or bite someone else he will bang his head on the closest object, slap himself in the face or head. Its heartbreaking. I dont know how to stop it, I just try to stay calm and not give him the attention he wants. My mother in law said its only because he doesnt know how to express his anger. Its still awful to watch though.

Shannon - posted on 09/13/2009

We are currently going through the toddler tantrums with our 15 month-old daughter. She seems to get upset at the drop of a hat, and for apparently no reason at all, at certain times. She will cry/scream, and throw things on the floor. She'll also sit down and throw her head back on the floor. Very frustrating. My husband and I have found that ignoring this little outburst seems to do the trick almost every time. Pretty soon, she's up and playing normally again. Saying "no" or "stop" will work about half the time. The other half, she will just grin, as she knows she's not supposed to be doing something, but is just trying to test her limits (and mine!) Hopefully she will grow out of this "stage" once she learns how to express herself in words.

Renee - posted on 09/08/2009

When my son gets frustrated with things he tends to throw something. If he throws his sippy cup after we correct him 2 times, I take it away. Then he normally will grab something else within reach and throw that. He will also hit his head 1 time on the floor, table, wall, or something like that when he gets mad or frustrated. We try to figure out what is making him mad/frustrated and correct the issue if we can. I try not to say "no" to my son as it really has no effect on him. I found a sharp "Ahh-Ahh" works better then tell him why he can't do that or touch that...it's hot, owies, that's Ma-Ma's, be nice, etc. I will also ask him if he is "done" with his tantrum and tell him that Ma-ma knows he is mad. If all else fails just remove them from the situation and continue on.

Cathralynn - posted on 09/08/2009

Might be misunderstanding, but my daughter doesn't hit, she does slam and throw things when they don't do what she wants. We calmly tell her to try again and don't do it for her unless its just impossible. Like she has her car jammed sideways in the doorway! We also try not to say no, and instead say stop or not yours. I don't mind if she's just frustrated, she will learn how to express herself over time and she's not hurting anything. I hope to teach her patience by just trying again. If its anger at someone telling her no, its normally a crying fit on the floor which I just ignore. Hitting or wrecking things in that situation would warrant a stronger response, like a time out.

Megan - posted on 09/07/2009

I noticed this right about 14 months with my son. We tried switching from the word "No" to "Stop". For some reason he responds much better to "Stop". Also I take his hand and show him how to be gentle and I explain that it hurts mommy. But be prepared my son got very sensitive when I told him he hurt me. I think a combination of teething and frustration from not being able to vocalize needs or wants plays a role in this form of aggression.

Haley - posted on 09/07/2009

hiya, my little boy has taken to temper tantrums to. when my wee one hits etc i just pick him up while he is throwing his tantrum and take him away from things he can hurt himself on... keep and eye on him but dont give him any attention. if he hits again i tell him no and put him in safe area so he can continue until his frustration is out.

because they cant talk they find it hard to understand how they feel let alone express it. so the tantrum is there little way of doing this. My 3 year old still has them but not often so it does come to an end eventually.



i hope this helps. i just take it a day at a time and deal with it as it comes.