Does anyone have problems with a angry 19 month old???

Cassandra - posted on 01/04/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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My 19 month old son has started stamping his feet grabbing a hold of everyone and shaking them with anger, i do not no what i am doing wrong anyone got a 19 month old like this and does anyone no how to calm them down as i have tried time outs but this had made it worse as he just crys and crys then starts being angry at everyone again. thanks cassie

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Jodie - posted on 01/07/2010

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oh my god it just like mine. Dont worry though i have been through it with my first. I dont know how is urvived but i did! I guess thats my only consolation. I know it will pass. I think the best thingis to just do what you are comfortable with. I use taking away the toy/ or removing her from the situationa dn a frim no, but sometimes that doesnt work. I do know that i have also had to just wear the storm as they say. good luck!

Kim - posted on 01/05/2010

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Yes my lil man is now 19 months and does it he clenches his fists screams and then throws anything within reach so don't panic we are all going thru it with you.. :)

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Kristin - posted on 03/25/2014

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My guy is only 19 mos old and tells me when he's mad. I'm surprised he can actually communicate that to me. But how do I react after he tells me that?

Alison - posted on 01/09/2010

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Our 19mth old daughter was starting to become really aggressive, especially towards me. I friend suggested that we not give her citrus for a few days and see how that goes. She is still a bit of a typical tantrum-y toddler at times, but for some reason this old wives tale worked!

Crystal - posted on 01/09/2010

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My son is 20 months now and he still does this (can't wait for this phase to end!!!!)

We make him sit on the couch with no toys, etc, until he's calm. Usually works well. Also removing him from the situation seems to work, b/c most o fthe time he's overstimulated. If he's tired, he'll do this too and then a nap or bed is in order (but until he's calm, good luck wtih that.)

Most of the time we ignore it. Hitting I don't allow - I hold his hand and say firmly "no hitting" and he always stops immediately. When he realizes we aren't impressed with his tantrums and he's getting a bath, getting ready for bed, whatever anyway he always stops and goes back to normal.

Veronica - posted on 01/08/2010

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My daughter does the same thing, mainly when she's tired. But she also does it when I pay more attention to our son (5 months old) and not enough to her. I know it's hard to keep the balance, but he might be wanting more one on one time. Just something to consider.

Tiffany - posted on 01/08/2010

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Hi sounds just like my little one.We have started making her lay down on the couch when she acts like this. Then we ignore her until she calms down (sometimes it takes a while).

Karen - posted on 01/07/2010

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Hi Cassie, My daughter is like that, but what I do and it really calms her down is just ignore her, the more you pay attention to her the worse it became, so whenever she starts something like that, I just ignore her and we talk each other with the other person involved, we start laughing and making jokes (not of her of course). Try that and also talk to him tell him that is bad to do that. I do that with my baby when she is not mad, she listens and I am sure with the time she will really understand what I am telling her now.
I know is not easy to deal with an angry baby, but I am sure that with love and "patience" everything will be better. Good luck

Sonali - posted on 01/07/2010

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My little girl(19 month ols) tantrum are at a peak now..she screams and thows things when mad..before I used to get really flustered but now i have learnt to just ignore it and look the other way..this has seem to work when she notices Mommy is paying no heed:)

Leatha - posted on 01/05/2010

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My 19 month old gets angry also and cries and will scream "I'm Mad"... My husband and I just laugh and actually ask him why he is mad and he will point at something and say "That" he communicates pretty well. I think it makes it easier on us once we started asking him why are you mad, it also helps him associate talking out his anger! :)

Michelle - posted on 01/05/2010

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Oh yeah..... My son does the same thing when he gets mad. It's just the age I think, I've heard this from so many people. I COMPLETELY ignore this kind of behavior. Also, one thing I just discovered is that he's very overstimulated when he does this, so I just take him into his dark room, no music, and just sit in the quiet and dark and rock with him. After a few seconds he calms down and then after a couple minutes he's back to being my sweet little boy!

Joanne - posted on 01/05/2010

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i have a19 month old daughter who has started having tantrums and screaming when she cant get her own way,i have found putting her at the other end of the living room away from everyone else and the tv and walk away from her it seems to shock her and she stops it ! good luck !

Cassandra - posted on 01/04/2010

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thanks for the help its much appreciated, my 19 month old doesnt talk at all he used to but then stopped its so hard specially when i have a 4 month old daughter too and trying to play with my son whilst feeding or changing my daughter does not work as he throws things to get my attention. i will try what you have said and pray it works... thanks alot lisa :D

Lisa - posted on 01/04/2010

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Hi Cassandra! I'm having issues with my 19 month old throwing things and smacking things when he's mad! The best advice I was given: try to get his mind on something else! I also talk very calmly to him and help him understand that hes mad and its ok ... but that hitting and throwing isn't ok. I also think that some of this results in the inability to effectively communicate. I have taught my son some sign language so that is able to "tell" me a few things here and there ... time to step that up at my house! Also, just be patient ... working in child care for years has taught me that these stages will soon pass ... lots of love and hugs and kisses in the mean time!

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