I need HELP!!

Emily - posted on 03/03/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )

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So my 21 month old son has taken an attitude change for the worse! He used to wake up all happy and smiles, and just in a good mood all the time. The day was seriously perfect with him and I. One day he all of a sudden woke up in a bad mood, crying, whining, tears, snot, the whole shee-bang! And its been this way for weeks. Not only is he a grouch in the mornings, but its an ALLLL DAY thing now. He doesn't tell me what he wants or that he even wants anything, he just runs through the house screaming & crying until I pick him up. The only thing that makes him happy is when I hold him. He has given up naps and sleeping at night. For nap time I tried letting him cry it out. That didn't work, he just stayed up and cried for close to an hour until I went and got him. The second I put him on the couch and popped in Shrek, he was OUT! He never used to be this way. And his 5yr old brother was never like this. I honestly dont know what to do to make him happy. Other than give in to his demands, but I dont want him to use me. Any ideas??

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Sara - posted on 03/18/2010

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my son was just like that! only his turn for the worse was back in november. i noticed he had a slight fever for a few days and called his ped. he had ear infections in both ears! he never pulled his ears at all, and with such a low grade fever (99) his ped was suprised i even thought to bring him in! but was glad i did! they kept coming back as soon as he got of the antibiotics. in jan he saw an allergist (he had a severe anaphylactic reaction over the summer and was finally old enough to be tested in jan) and he discovered his sinuses were full of gunk even though he never really seemed conjested! so after 3 months of claritin, and tubes in his ears my sweet little boy is back! his ped said with all that chronic pain of the ears and sinuses she was suprised he was ever happy at all durning that time! might think about those things...they don't always present with 'classic' symptoms! hope he gets back to his sweet self soon for your sanity's sake :)

Rebekah - posted on 03/16/2010

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Is he trying to get his back molars? They are exceptionally painful and bothersome. Sounds like he is in some kind of pain perhaps....

Marisa - posted on 03/08/2010

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If the teething thing is not the problem, I would suggest speaking with an advice nurse from his pediatrics office. It still is cold season, so he could be just suffering through the normal cold stuff.

Jessica - posted on 03/07/2010

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Just a suggestion but could it be that he is cutting teeth and or is not feeling well?

Crystal - posted on 03/07/2010

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IS he teething????? makes my usually extremely happy 21 year old fussy! and for long time i did not know why, now that i do and give him ibn (only when really needed) and homeopathic teething tablets when he seems "crabby" he is back to my wonderful baby boy!!

Emily - posted on 03/06/2010

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Could he possibly be teething? My son is the same age and he gets like that when his 2nd year molars start bothering him. I give him Ibuprofen, and distract him with lots of toys. Good luck, I hope things get better soon.

Emily - posted on 03/05/2010

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No, nothing... Thats why I am lost? =) I havent changed a thing. He does like to go outside, but we are in Kansas and the weather has been horrible here. Today was actually REALLY nice out and we went outside for a bit. It actually helped because he was in such a great mood AND took a nap! Hopefully the change in weather has a change in his attitude as well..

Amy - posted on 03/05/2010

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Has anything changed in his schedule? Our son went through this a while back, when it started to snow and he couldn't go outside every day. We got a YMCA membership so he could run around and it's made a HUGE difference. Does he spend much time outside or running around somewhere? Kids really need it! Our son recently gave up naps too, but he'll sleep pretty good at night now as long as we get him moving around more during the day.

Emily - posted on 03/04/2010

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I will definitely give this a try. You have been very helpful... Thank you! I will let you know if this works. =)

Pa - posted on 03/04/2010

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What I mean when I say "be stern" is don't yell at him but talk to him in an stern voice and tell him that he is a big boy and that he doesn't need to be held. Give him Pros and cons of being a big boy and acting like a baby. For instance if he wants to pout tell him that pouting is for babies and if he wants to be a baby, Babies don't get juice. And as for putting him in the corner what I did with my son was when he was bad I would put him in his play pen and take away all the toys and tell him to think about what he had done to not get to play with his toys and why he gets to sit in the play pen. So try that. Because I have tried to just put him in the corner and he just gets up and starts running around. Kids at this age don't like being told to stay in 1 spot so he will kick and scream but be strong and wait at least 10 minutes and after that go to him in an authoritive voice tell him why he is being punished and ask if he will be good and stop screaming he can get out. It's not going to be like magic and after the first few times it will not work but make sure to keep this up and he will get better. It took me 1 month, so don't give up and make sure you keep the punishments the same. Kids also need structure and this will give it to him.

Emily - posted on 03/04/2010

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When you say be stern, like how? I have tried letting him cry himself to sleep, but that doesnt work. Its like he knows I will eventually come get him. And I feel bad leaving him up there for an hour. How long is too long? And I know that when I get frustrated, like any parent, I yell. I have cut back on that dramatically and have tried moving his attention to something else to stop the screaming, but then he finds something new to yell about.. I havent tried the corner, I dont know if he will actually stay put. He is stubborn!
This morning I actually got up before him and woke him up. He wasnt all happy go lucky like he used to be, but he wasnt screaming. So that was a plus! Normally he wakes up before me, but he decided to stay awake til late last night...

Pa - posted on 03/04/2010

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My 21 month old was just like that at one time. With him he got like that because I had him and his brother only 10 months apart so he felt that I was neglecting him. All I did was just be stern with him and remind him who the parent was and let him know that I love him too. I just spent equal amount of time with him and his brother and found things that we all could do together. And just like that he got better and less dependent on me. The thing about kids this age is they start tending to grow a little mushy and emotional so you have to massage his ego a little but not to much where he becomes dependent on the attention. Try these things out and let me know how things work out for you. And by the way good luck I know it will be hard but just be stern and remember that you are doing this for him.

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