My 21 month old isn't talking yet, should I be concerned?

Penny - posted on 02/06/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

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My 21 month old isn't saying anything besides Daddy, Mamma, and Bubba. He understands when I talk to him and I talk to him all the time. He can show me where his nose, eyes, ears, and mouth are. He can follow direction and retrieve a object from another room. I've used flashcards for colors, letters, shapes, and numbers for months. We read books during breakfast, lunch and dinner and I also say what objects are to him. Should I be concerned and take him to a specialist?

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Sarah - posted on 02/12/2010

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My husband was always concerned when our daughter was 18 months old because she wasn't talking in sentences & only said around 40 words. Both of his nephews were talking in complete sentences by the time they were 18 months old, so he automatically thought something was wrong - which I knew there wasn't. Her doctor said she was developmentally on track and doing great for her age. Now, at almost 21 months she is trying to form little sentences here and there and learning new words. Some kids develop language skills faster than others. As long as your son understands what you are saying & can follow simple directions, I don't think there is anything to worry about. Sounds like he's doing good. If you are still concerned though, you can bring it up to his pediatrician.

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Tracey - posted on 02/16/2010

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I would not be concerned at all. He has started talking so you know he can. He can understand what you telling him. My daughter has nothing wrong with her i know in my heart there is nothing wrong with her, she is also not saying much her sister does the talking for her. If the comprehension is there (which there is for me and seems to be for you) there would appear to be no cause for alarm. if at two my daughter is still not talking i would. Just in the last week she has been throwing more words out there. They all seem to be at the same stage by two. (I am enjoying that she doesn't talk much as when she does there is no off button)

Crystal - posted on 02/13/2010

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my son will be two in may and the only words he says are momma and dada, my daughter had to go to speech therapy bc she wouldnt talk not that she couldnt but with him its different its almost like he doesnt understand anything.. the doctors say to wait until he is two and see how things go from there but i am really concerned he should be saying a lot by now ....

Tanya - posted on 02/11/2010

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My daughter is exactly the same, 20-21 months of age and she totally understands things but says only mamma, dadda and tickie (kitty.. ha ha) I am not concered at all, she will speak when she is ready. :)

Laura - posted on 02/11/2010

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If he understands what you are saying then I wouldn't be too worried at this point. I have 4 children, the older three all started talking around 1 year. But then my fourth refused! We knew he could understand us very well, sometimes he would slip out a word but then we wouldn't hear it ever again. Sometimes we'd tried to get him to repeat a word (even as simple as Mama or Papa) but he would just purse his lips together. I got a huge shock one day when he at random came out with a whole sentence, when usually I couldn't get even one word out of him. Suddenly he said "Mama, I wanna sit dere", pointing at his high chair. I couldn't believe my ears it was so random. Only recently around 18/19 months suddenly he's talking all the time! He just has a stubborn personality and likes to do things in his own time.
When I was a child I didn't talk until I was 4 years old and started kindy (because then of course I had to). My parents took me to the doctor to see if I was deaf and the doctor told them "No, she's just content and lazy."
Some kids just take their time and then all of a sudden their talking like they've been doing it for ages!
My nephew was about 18 months and wasn't talking or walking at all. Then he met my daughter (who was a few months younger than him) and her name was his first word! All of a sudden he started talking and then he started walking to so that he could keep up with her. So I guess some children just need some special motivating factor to trigger them to talk.
If you're worried then by all means go see a professional. But if your child shows appropriate response to sound and clearly understands what you are saying then he may just be taking his own merry time to get to that point or may just not feel any motivation. Having him assessed may give you peace of mind, and if there is a problem then it is always best to detect it and start getting him the help he needs early.
He'll probably start talking when he feels the need to.

Alison - posted on 02/09/2010

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Don't be overly concerned because this seems to be very common in little boys. You probably do want to take him to a specialist sometime. You could wait a few months until he is actually two, but you seem to be eager, in which case you should do what you can move things forward.

Leila - posted on 02/09/2010

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My son is in the same boat as yours. We took him to his 18 month check up and she seemed pretty concerened with it so she refered us to a speech thereapist. My son also will get things for me from other rooms and totally understands everything that i tell him but has such a hard time talking. He does a lot of "talking" but really no words. He has been seeing the speech therapist for about a month now and already he has started picking up more words. They come to the house 2 times a week and work with him for about 30 minutes a session. They bring books and toys to play with and I wasnt so sure in the beggining if it would help because I do all the same things with him that they are but I guess it just takes an outsider sometimes to help out a little. But keep up what you are doing and dont get stressed or worried. He will talk soon.

Kellie - posted on 02/09/2010

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My son seems to be in the same place as your son. He just went to the dr yesterday and she doesn't seem too concerned yet but she said she wants to recheck his speech at his 2 year apt. Like your son, mine knows his body parts, understands what i say to him, etc, etc.... I think your son will come around when he is ready. One day, he will open his mouth and words will seriously start pouring out. You will be surprised!

Tabitha - posted on 02/08/2010

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My son is the same age as yours he doesn't say much but Dadda and bubba. At one point he was really progressing, but, over the summer my little sister (his Aunt) was home and she talks non-stop. Now we are having trouble getting him to talk again. I really do think it's a matter of time, they'll talk when they want to. My mum say not to worry it can sometimes be genetics, I was a late talker and after talk to my mother-in-law it was the same with my hubby. But like others have said if your really worried about consult your pediatrician.

Renee - posted on 02/07/2010

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My nephew didn't say much of anything until he was a little over 2 years old, then all of a sudden he started talking and hasn't stopped since. Just keep doing what you are doing. It is amazing how much kids store in their brains and all of a sudden it will pop out in words. Just the other day after I say "one" my son said "two", I say "three" he says "nine". If you are really worried talk to your ped about it, and see what they think.

Crystal - posted on 02/07/2010

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Lucky you! Mine will not say anything! My pediatrician told me that if he is not talking by the time he is two, then we will look into therapy or something. Relax, and just go with what your doctor suggests. It sounds like he's smart, maybe he's just quiet.

Wendy - posted on 02/07/2010

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It has been my experience through my own children that you might want to talk to your doctor and maybe have an evaluation done. I am not sure where you are located but if you are in CT you can contact Birth 2 Three and someone will evaluate in your home for free. My son went through the program for a year and at 3 he went into a special speech and language preschool and my daughter was evaluated a few months ago and she is making great progress now. They say children should be saying 10 words by 18 months and 50 words by 2 years old. If you are concerned you should have your child evaluated, it can't hurt and it will make you feel at ease. Hope this was helpful.

Tye - posted on 02/06/2010

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no he will talk when he is ready he know the everything you r showin him jus give him time to put it into words jus keep up what u r doin..... i tell my son to say differnt words repitively then he repeats it thats how he started saying more words

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