My boy just turned one last month, he still doesn;t sleep through out the night. Please help
Clare - posted on 08/19/2009
My 15 month old wakes about 3 times in the night and wants a feed. She screams and throws herself around and grabs at my top to try and pull it down because she wants a feed. It seems impossible to settle her back to sleep without feeding her. I know she isn't hungry but I am so tired I just feed her anyway to get her to doze back off.
However, if my husband goes to her she eventually will settle. She knows I have the feeds but he can't give her anything. Problem is my husband sleeps like a rock. To try and break the habit he has to stay up all night because if he falls asleep that is the end of it. We have broken the habit 3 or 4 times now but we always end up back at square one.
Sheri - posted on 08/16/2009
We have the same problem with our almost 15month old daughter she whines 2 or more times a night and I think its partly cause her crib is right next to our bed as we only have one bedroom on the main floor of our house. If we were able to give her, her own room I think eventually she would learn to sooth herself back to sleep. Also, most of the time I ignore her but my husband will get up and give her a bottle.
Tomi - posted on 08/09/2009
I had the same issue, until I stared to realize the patterns. He would wake every night at 2:30 and I'd change his diaper, feed, him, and rock him back to sleep. He was using me as a crutch out of habit rather than settling himself when he'd wake up in the night. And he was eating more for comfort than any true hunger.
Try to identify the patterns with your son. Then take awa on feeding at a time. When you've removed all night time feedings, start to ween off going into his room, until you don't go in at all. He will scream for a awhile, but he will stop and he will learn to settle himself. It will be the hardest thing you do, but know that you won't damage him and he won't even remember it.
Pamela - posted on 07/25/2009
Ah, elusive sleep. All three of my children have/had different sleep patterns. Nighttime waking has never been an enormous issue mostly due to the fact we eliminated two of the biggest reasons; the crib and the bottle. All three children were breastfed, and co-slept. The other thing you need to consider is a simple question, do you go to sleep at the same time every night and sleep the same number of hours each night? If you are human then your answer is probably no. Your child will have good and bad nights as well. This is such an exciting age for our toddlers, and I think it is hard for them to "turn off", even when they are tired. I personally bring them to bed with me and everyone sleeps eventually. Just remember, this age goes by so fast and you will someday chuckle over thinking that this was such an enormous issue. Just wait until they turn 10!
Crystal - posted on 07/18/2009
Babies are smart! they know if they cry mommy will come in and save them from sleeping. My daughter did the same thing. Bottles work for us but they don't work for them. They are not hungry and shouldn't b hungry during the night. My mother told me to let her cry and the night i did that she cried for ten minutes and fell a sleep. Much better then me going to get her and she would stay up for an hour and a half. I was honestly against the CIO (cry it out) method but it works. Nowshe know bedtime means bedtime thankfully. I know it's hard to her them cry but soon enough your baby will sleep through the night!!
Rachele - posted on 07/17/2009
the only thing that really help us was not talking to them, or turning on the lights when they woke up at night....just use a night light to get around. Also when getting them ready for bed doing mood lighting. We would turn one lamp on so it was semi dark in the room and snuggle with them for a bit before we laid them down. I think it helps teach them the difference between night and day! hope it helps!!
Lisa - posted on 07/16/2009
I am in the same boat as everyone else. My daughter usually goes down between 8:30 - 9:00. She sleeps until 1:51 AM on the dot! I then get up, give her a bottle of water. She falls back to sleep within minutes,but the second I get up to put her back in her crib she wakes up. Then I sit back down with her and fall asleep holding her until about 3:45 AM! I get up put her in her crib and go back to bed. A half hour to an hour later she wakes up again and out of survival I get her and bring her to bed with me. She will then sleep to 7AM - 8:30AM. I try rubbing her back. I tried laying next to her on the floor. I swore when I was pregnant I would never sleep with her in my bed. I have to work and I need sleep too! I know it is my fault b/c I spoiled her. But how do you stop it? When you all figure it out clue me in!!
Monica - posted on 07/14/2009
Hi! I have a 14 month old son who pretty much spoiled me for the last 14 months by sleeping 12 hrs a night! We started him out on a routine pretty early. He eats dinner @ 5pm, gets a bath, change into pajamas, night time sippy cup at @6:30, (we recently did away w/ the bottle) and storytime. It has Not always been easy to get him down. But, once we got him down, he was down for the night. However, the last 4 nights, he is waking up and not wanting us to leave the room. Is it a growth spurt? He is teething but as soon as I go into the room and put my hand on his back, he quiets down. I will keep my hand on his back for 20, 30 min ( until my hand is numb and I can't feel it anymore!) and when I think he's really relaxed and asleep, I leave. He has been waking up shortly after I leave, or starts crying the minute I take my hand off of his back. I have started to pick him up and rock him a little just to get him really sleepy, and then I lay him back down. This worked for a short time. He used to be soo tired that he would just settle himself to sleep. Now, the rocking doesn't work. The hand on his back doesn't work. I Know I shouldn't have picked him up. I live in a Condo and was trying to settle him down quickly in consideration of our neighbors and my Husband's 12 hr work schedule. Any ideas on how I can get him back on track? Any advice would be much appreciated.
well i think ive finally cracked the case of my son never sleeping...fingers crossed he has gone three nights now from half 6pm until 5:30am (big improvement) and all i did was refuse to let him have more than one nap a day and get him out loads in the fresh air (yes even when raining) he is coming up 14months now and its finally paying off......
so fingers crossed this works or may help towards yr problems. good luck and im always here to chat.xx
Huda - posted on 06/11/2009
:) join the club my baby girl still wakes up 6 to8 times for feeding & u know wt i think its normal & u can't help it as long as u breastfeed him .. u can use water when he wakes up .. anyways f u solve it out plz tell me ..i miss sleeping
Whitney - posted on 06/10/2009
I've never had a problem with our daughter on this topic. I mean she will wake up on occasion, but it never lasts long. If it lasts more than 10 minutes I will go in and give her a snack. She usually eats and goes right back to bed. Either way...I don't cave in easily. Good luck!!!
Jennifer - posted on 06/10/2009
My son just turned one and he doesn't sleep throught the night either. He wakes up about 2 am everyday for some of his toddler formula. I tried water because the doctor told me he might just be thirsty. My son couldn't be fooled and refused the water. I don't let him got to sleep drinking the formula or milk because of his teeth and it can lead to ear infections. He usually goes right back to sleep but I don't. I am exhausted. My older three slept through the night by the end of their first month.
well thank god im not alone!!!! my son is one now (just turned) and he has never slept much... ive tried everything possible even meds from the doctor that i only got because i was at breaking point....and even they didnt work. ive come to the conclusion that its because he just doesnt need a lot of sleep..... i only offer my son one or two feeds so he knows when he gets hungry.....so i dont keep him full up as i thought that might have been the problem (if his stomach becomes just a wee bit empty i thought that was waking him) but as it turns out thats not the case.
so maybe yr son is the same and just doesnt need that much sleep, they do say brainy children dont! so you never know we may have a couple of clever clogs on our hands ha ha ha...... but i have been told and read that they should grow out of it eventually but please let me know if you find something that works!!! anyway im always here if you want to chat. x
Nicole - posted on 06/04/2009
Ok so I read in parents magazine that they wake up because they know that you will feed them. So I asked my ped about it, he said just calmly give a pacifier or turn on music to soothe him back to sleep, rub his back. My son has been sleeping through the night since 7-8 months old. I just give him his pacifier and he went back to sleep. But believe me there were some nights where I sat outside his room and waited for him to stop crying. It didnt take long. They know you will come running so they get up. Hope that helps.
Dawn - posted on 06/04/2009
my son just started waking up once a night too. he just turned 1 last week. he is recovering from having a double ear infection and a nasty cold that hung on for a month!! so i''m not sure if that has anything to do with it or not. at first i was just giving him some milk and then putting him back to bed. but i don't want to get back in that habit again!! i know he's not hungry but it gets him back to sleep and for a mom that doesn't sleep that well to begin with it's a good choice for me.
last night i waited about 10 minutes and just let him cry and he went back to sleep. i hate to do it but eventually he will stop waking up again i hope. that's how i got him to sleep through at 8 months. (yes it took him that long to sleep all night!)
let me know how it goes for you.
Cathralynn - posted on 06/04/2009
There's so many ideas on this issue and so many questions I'd have to try and help you out. I only have one baby and she's a pretty easy sleeper so I had only one difficult sleeping period so far. But I will offer my experience and ideas and see if it helps. Has your son always been restless at night, and feed at night or has something changed from a previous good sleeper? You prolly have a lot of changes ahead of you if you want to teach him to sleep better after having not for a year. But also some say that not all babies sleep well no matter what so just do your best.
Make sure he naps well during the day, over tired babies don't sleep well at night. Oppositely don't let him sleep too much. Too long of an evening nap or too close to bedtime can interfere with him going to sleep. I don't let my daughter sleep w/in four hours of her bedtime.
I love routines, and babies do too. Do the same thing every night to signal bedtime and get him relaxed as possible. My routine: evening milk/snack, change into jammies, brush teeth, read book, rock for a min, then into bed with a sound machine. If I do a bath I do milk afterwards. Same bedtime 8:00. I've never done a different bedtime so I don't know, but ppl say earlier to bed the longer they sleep. My daughter sleeps til 6-7 depending on the day.
Try not to let your baby fall asleep on the bottle or you put him to sleep. It teaches him to need that same action to fall asleep instead of soothing himself to sleep. And also if you "sneak" your son into bed after he falls asleep he will wake after his sleep cylce and wonder why your not there. Try to put him in his crib sleepy but awake and let him try to work it out on his own.
Here's the hard part and the part where everyone gets mad at me. Don't feed him at night anymore, however you choose to do it. Its just habit and comfort and he will prolly not stop on his own. When he wakes in the night rub his back or otherwise let him know your there without picking him up or talking. Try music, soft blankets, fav soft toys, things that smell like you, sound machines, whatever works for you guys. And then try to do that less and less until he soothes himself. This is my version of the cry it out method. However this did not work for me. My daughter went thru separation anxiety at night and going in made it worse. She had slept well the previous few months ten hours a night, so after knowing her needs were met I let her cry. It was one night and she slept well the four months since. Hope anything helps. Good luck!
Alicia - posted on 06/04/2009
It is not uncommon to have more frequent wakings as they get older and more aware, but what I think it is important to realize is that it most likely does not mean they are hungry. They surely will eat because that is a calming comfort but, with my son, I am pretty sure he is not really hungry.
We are making some progress w/ my one year old son. I had to make the realization that it is just not possible for him to be that hungry all night long. So, just to ease my mind, at 10 months we started feeding him a good bit of baby oatmeal at bedtime to really fill him up. And I set a time (right now it is 4am but it used to be 2am) that I would NOT feed him before. If he did wake up, we would try and settle him and help him settle himself. Within a few nights he was sleeping much longer before waking. Now for the most part he only wakes at 4, I feed him, and he sleeps a few more hours. We also have decided that if he wakes before 4 to go in, make sure nothing obvious is wrong, and then let him whine himself back to sleep. It seems to work pretty well. We are careful not to rock him or start a new "bad habit." Really he has to learn to get himself back to sleep but it is taking some time.
Slowly, I am going to try and get the 4am feeding to be later and later so it can just become part of breakfast, but honestly, it is just easier to feed him so we can all go back to bed!
Hillary - posted on 06/03/2009
Try patting his back one feeding at a time and don't give in. I also had a problem with my daughter sleeping through the night and I give her a bedtime snack like a bannana or cheese and crackers right before bed and it did the trick, with in a week. you could also leave a bottle of water in his bed.
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