Question for moms of non-circumcised boys

Judith - posted on 08/03/2012

I think your ped is uninformed about foreskin. Your son is only 4, so it's entirely possible he is not ready to retract yet. Have you ever seen him pull back his foreskin? He probably doesn't want it touched, since it's still attached. Doctors telling parents to mess with their intact sons is what leads to problems later on.



And it's good to see other great responses. :)

Amber - posted on 08/02/2012

If he can pee, leave him be! If he's not in pain either, then he's fine. American doctors will look for ANY reason to hack off a foreskin. They sell for over 500 dollars, I'm not joking you. Please just leave him be. It will be fine.

Jessica - posted on 08/02/2012

the only person who is supposed to retract him, is HIM. do not touch/retract his foreskin. The average age for retraction is 10.6 yrs, some boys not until later,

http://www.drmomma.org/

Amy - posted on 08/02/2012

Some boys aren't retractable until the age of 10. Do you do bubble baths? If you do make sure that you are rinsing him very well. Excess soap residue can cause issues down there. Is he still in diapers? Do you give him naked time other than bath time to touch himself when you aren't around? I know it sounds strange but it's completely normal for boys to touch themselves and that is how intact boys naturally retract their skin. There is really no true reason to have to get a boy circumcised with the exception of a birth defect preventing urination. If he can urinate the foreskin is not 'too tight'. Eighty percent of the world's males have intact penises with no issues resulting in having to be circumcised. When our daughters get infections we don't automatically call for surgery down there.

I would suggest finding an intact friendly and educated doctor and getting a second opinion. Also next time (if there is one) he gets a UTI there are other options besides antibiotics that are much nicer for his body. Cranberry With D-Mannose is very effective. UTIs are usually caused by bacteria found in the bowels so make sure you are wiping him thoroughly after he passes stool. If he had a cut anywhere on his body bacteria could have gotten into the bloodstream and found it's way to the urinary tract. People with immune systems that are compromised are more likely to get UTIs (I use to get them frequently (I have Lupus) until I started taking the D-Mannose). When I was a child I got UTIs all the time from horseback riding. Please don't think that is a reason to put your son through a major surgery.

http://www.nocirc.org/publish/pamphlet7....

Louise - posted on 07/23/2012

Yes 4 seems a strange age for your doctor to be telling you to stretch it a bit. Thats not right. Go back and see another doctor and see what they say. If your son is not in any pain and you show him how to clean it, it should not be a problem. If on the other hand this is going to affect him when he is an adult man then you should really deal with the issue now rather than wait. If he has to have a circumcision then it is better to have it done as a small boy as this is rather painful as an adult.

I have raised two boys and never had an issue with either of them. I showed them at the age of two how to clean it themselves. Although eldest son did have one infection about the age of 3. After antibiotics it cleared up and that was the end of that. Get a second opinion.