Born 30th May - Died 31st May

Claire - posted on 07/06/2009 ( 83 moms have responded )

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My second child, Thomas, was born with a severe heart defect. I knew his life would be short. It turned out to be only 33 hours (though it wouldn't have been long enough if it had been 33 years).



I just wanted to say to those of you who are struggling with sleepless nights or babies who appear to do nothing but cry, enjoy every second you have with your precious ones, I would give all I posess to have just one more cuddle with my little lad.

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Leslie - posted on 11/05/2009

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I am so sorry for your loss. Your family willbein my prayer. Thank you for reminding us mos to enjoy our littel ones. I thank God every night the he has given me the orivellage of being Adalyn's mom. Right now we are praying that her father comes home from Afghanistan safely. He has had several close calls lately. I think everyone needs to reminded evrery now and then just how precious life is and to enjoy it with your loved ones.

Laura - posted on 11/03/2009

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What a brave woman you are. I'm so sorry for your loss of baby Thomas.
I also lost my baby brother Tomas, and I remember my mum and my family going through such an awfully hard time.
No more complaining about sleepless nights for me now, I think you will have opened alot of mums eyes with your story.
All my best wishes for you and your family.
Laura xo

Stephanie - posted on 11/02/2009

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Claire,
I am so sorry for your terrible loss.I lost a child too and would do anything to have him with me.My second son is like a gift from god and I will never take time with him for granted.I am a member of a community for Moms who have lost their angels....http://apps.facebook.com/circleofmoms/gr...
Check it out.It has been a great help to me during those days where the sadness takes hold of your heart and squeezes hard.Many moms have gone through hell alone and it is nice to know you are not alone and have someone to talk to who understands.Take care and blessings to you and your family.

Jayme - posted on 11/02/2009

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Hello Claire,

I just wanted you to know that my second child Larric was born May first this year and he is with your son. He passed away un expected May 14th. I had a terrible day yesterday. He would of been 6 months old and this is my first time to be on this site and read about your son. It really reached out to me and wanted to tel you that your son is with mine in Heaven I guess I wanted to say that. Hope is well with you and your family and I totally agree with what you said under your name I think about people that are so lucky to have crying babies at home. With love and peace.. Jayme Wolfe

Miriam - posted on 10/30/2009

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My thoughts and prayers go out to all of the mothers who have lost a child. You were given the greatest gift. I believe you will meet them again.

I had a threatened miscarriage at 12 weeks, too much blood to be okay. My heart was lost and I was desperate for any word from the doctors. I didn't hear anything after the doctor said my baby was still there. I know my sobs echoed through the emergency room. I was blessed to hear his heartbeat and I've never taken him for granted... he was a gift from G-d.

Toni - posted on 10/28/2009

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Im so very sorry for ur loss...im sure you have a lil guardian angel to watch over you and your family for this rough patch of time. all the best - Toni

Jamie - posted on 10/24/2009

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so sorry for your loss, my sister's baby girl never left the hospital from complications, our family sends our thoughts and prayers.

Line - posted on 10/21/2009

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I'm so sorry for your lost. I have a 5 month old little girl and i can't imagine my life without her. It's as if she was always there. Although i've never had a sleepless night or horrible crying so far, i appreciate every moment good and bad. When she was born she was blue and didn't breathe for a couple of minutes and the nurses rang the alarm, i was mortified, lucky enough i heard her cry and that was the most beautiful sound i will ever hear. Thanks for reminding all of us how lucky we are and although it will take time, your heart will heal and the pain will subside. He lives in you forever!

Sandy - posted on 10/19/2009

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My heart goes out to you and your family. My prayers are with you and your sweet little angel Thomas.

Jodye - posted on 10/19/2009

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I am very sorry to hear this. I cannot imagine losing a child that you have bonded with for 9 months. All my prayers and thoughts go out to you.

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My second daughter Kaylee was stillborn and I totally understand what you are saying. I was always so upset when I would hear someone complaining about how hard it was with their baby after I had lost mine. I now have a happy, healthy 5 month old lil girl that I treasure every moment with. Once you lose a child I think you learn to be more thankful for your other children. I am sorry for your loss. I know how hard it can be. It's a pain like no other. It does get better as time goes on but the hurt will always be there. You are in my thoughts ;)

Shevaughne - posted on 10/01/2009

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Quoting Claire: My heart breaks for your loss, I  thank you for your words and for reminding me of my infinate blessings with my Son Aaron born 29 May 2009. Thank you and God Blees you.

Born 30th May - Died 31st May

My second child, Thomas, was born with a severe heart defect. I knew his life would be short. It turned out to be only 33 hours (though it wouldn't have been long enough if it had been 33 years).

I just wanted to say to those of you who are struggling with sleepless nights or babies who appear to do nothing but cry, enjoy every second you have with your precious ones, I would give all I posess to have just one more cuddle with my little lad.


 

Aarti - posted on 09/30/2009

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I am so sorry for your very sad loss. You are very right and do make a good point, to enjoy and be greatful for what we have. I appreciate your post, and pray that God gives you the strength to move on and know that He is taking good care of Thomas in Heaven.

Jennifer - posted on 09/30/2009

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I am so sorry for your loss. I enjoy every moment with my children but you really make a good point about those sleepless nights and diapers. I wish you the best and again I'm so sorry. God Bless

Nikita - posted on 09/29/2009

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I already enjoy every moment with my son but you have made me want to enjoy it even more if that is even possible. I am so sorry about your loss and I know that God is keeping your little man safe in his arms.

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I am so terribly sorry for your loss. It defies nature having to endure what you must be going through right now and I pray God gives you strength to face each new day. My best friend and I were expecting our 2nd babies within 2 days of eachother. On February 9th she lost her daughter to P.R.O.M (premature rupture of membraines) and going through the heartbreak she has expereinced and hearing stories such as yours makes me appreciate every single second I have with both of my children. Thank you for sharing the importance of every moment - the sleepless crying moments as well. It is so easy to get lost in the craziness of bringing a baby home but your message rings so true and your strength to post such a reminder is grately appreciated. Heart-felt sympathies, prayers and hope are being sent to you and your family.

Gennifer - posted on 09/27/2009

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God works in mysterious ways and he needed him much more than you did so he felt he needed to call him home. He knew that in this time he could only try and comfort you I pray every day that my children will be blessed and no matter how mad I get with my kids I always think of people like you who have had children and lost them and how grateful I am to have them and to be able to get mad as something they have done but at the end of the day it wont matter because they are my kids and they are wonderful! I wish that God would take away the pain and bless you with so much laughter and memories even of that 33 hours that you had with him.



My heart and blessings goes out to you

Debbie - posted on 09/25/2009

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I am so sorry for your loss..It brought tears to my eyes..I lost my first born (He'd be 19 now) when I was 4 1/2 months pregnant...still born. That ache you feel lessens with time but it never disappears. Your time with him was precious. My heart and prayers go out to you.

Kylie - posted on 09/24/2009

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Oh Claire, my heart goes out to you. My little Molly has just turned 4 months. She was born with very low oxygen and was critically ill for 3 days and in intensive care for 2 weeks. When I have those sleepless nights and difficult days I just think back on how close we were to losing her and it all seems so much easier. Thanks for reminding me of how precious she is. I hope you and your family can move forward to some kind of peace, I know he will always be in your hearts.

FARAN - posted on 09/24/2009

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I'm so sorry to hear this. My son was born on May 20 with a heart defect and he's now four months old. He had heart surgery when he was six days old and was able to come home 11 days after he was born. My heart truly goes out to you because I know what I've been through and know there's a lot more that I will have to endure. I thank God that my son is doing well and I treasure everday that I have with him even when he kept me up with his colic. Thank you for sharing you story.

Elizabeth - posted on 09/17/2009

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I have two kids and I can't imagine having either one of them takin out of my life forever. I am so so sorry that you had to go through this. I will be praying for god to give you and your family the strength to get through this

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I am sooo sorry for your loss. The pain must be unbearable. I hope you are able to find some comfort in your day. I am up with a baby all night long who just cries at the top of his lungs, and now, after reading your story, I am going to have a new outlook on it and remember your words everynight. While you are in so much pain, you are able to help others with your story, and I thank you! God Bless You Claire

Karen - posted on 09/14/2009

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I too am so sorry for your loss and cannot begin to imagine what you must be going through. I count my blessings every day. It took me 19 IVF attempts (as a single person), 4 years and 2 miscarriages to finally have my little angel and I pray every day for her health and happiness. I am so blessed and treasure every sleepless moment and dirty nappy. My prayers are with you xxx

Kim - posted on 09/10/2009

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I am so sorry for your loss and anyone else out there that has lost a child. I love my son so much and could not imagine my life without him. I am not the most religious person but I feel that when things like that happen God sent an Angel to watch over you for a little while and now he needs them back. I truly feel for you!!! All the restless nights or days where my son wouldn't stop crying I still look at him in the midst of wanting to cry myself & think I am so lucky he is healthy & I have him here. I appreciate him & your story has made me only love him more. GOD BLESS YOU!!!

Brenda - posted on 09/06/2009

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I'm so sorry to hear this. I wish you the best, and hope you heal from the greif of this great loss.

Kerry - posted on 09/06/2009

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I am truely sorry for your loss, my heart goes out to you and your family. I lost a baby 11 years ago, although she was stillborn. It really does feel as though your heart is breaking. Take comfort in the fact that we are all thinking of you and may the memory of little Thomas live on forever. xxxx

Gina - posted on 09/03/2009

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Quoting Claire:

Born 30th May - Died 31st May

My second child, Thomas, was born with a severe heart defect. I knew his life would be short. It turned out to be only 33 hours (though it wouldn't have been long enough if it had been 33 years).

I just wanted to say to those of you who are struggling with sleepless nights or babies who appear to do nothing but cry, enjoy every second you have with your precious ones, I would give all I posess to have just one more cuddle with my little lad.



My heart goes out to you, and your family.  May god send you peace and heal your heart.  I am so sorry for your loss.

Cesiah - posted on 09/03/2009

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i cannot imagine my life without my baby boy..i dont know the pain that you experienced because i've never bn there, but i will definetaly b praying for you. I will forever treasure the sleepless nights, dirty diapers and every second that God gives me with my Josiah, God is in control!

Wendy - posted on 09/03/2009

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There just really aren't any words to offer that can help. I'm very sorry for your loss. I hope you'll be blessed with another baby and an open heart to love that baby with.

Deanne - posted on 09/02/2009

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Hi Claire,

Thomas is bueatiful!! My first two children died in my arms the day after they were born, I found a website called The Butterfly Haven, it is for greiving Mums and Dads, I found it very helpful, and it was good to talk to people who know your pain and loss. It might be worth a look.

From Deanne

Shawna - posted on 09/02/2009

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I am so very sorry. My heart breaks for you & you family. May God Bless You and Comfort you in this your time of need. I'll be praying for you...

Tanya - posted on 09/01/2009

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i am so sorry for your loss of your son Thomas. I can not imagine what you and your family are going through. I'm sorry

Heather - posted on 09/01/2009

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I am so sorry for the loss of your son Thomas i can't say i know what your going through,or the pain you must be feeling.My daughter Alexis was born May20th of this year,she's my third child.My second son Zack had to be born at 37 weeks due to complication with me.He was born blue and not breathing,i can still remember how terrified and scared i was till i heard him take his first breath.from that day on i knew not to take one single day forgranted cause you never know what tomorrow may bring.

My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.God bless you and your family.

Marla - posted on 09/01/2009

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I'm terribly sorry for your loss...:o( My heart is breaking for you. I appreciate your words though and am very thankful for my son everyday - we were told we would never have children so he is my miracle and makes me thankful in so many ways. Hoping for another miracle for you as well...

Marina - posted on 08/31/2009

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My heart goes out to you! My eyes welted up as soon as I read your post, I never take a day for granted with my little peanut.

Cecile - posted on 08/31/2009

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my heart goes out to you all! i just had my first on the the 30th of may, i couldnt imagine being without him!

Amanda - posted on 08/31/2009

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im sorry for your loss but thank you for reminding me how lucky i am, i will think of your words when he screams.

Mary-anne - posted on 08/17/2009

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i dont know whwt to say to this,i knt say i know how you feel nor can i say that i know wat your goin through,my litle boy was born on the 11may 2009,we almost lost both ourlives during birth...after reading this i will keep you,your family and your little boy in my heart and daily prayers,you sound like a strong lady,and i have the upmost respect to you!!!take care and godbless

love the shine familyxoxoxoxo

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