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grandparents who spoil !!

Jessa - posted on 03/08/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have a problem with my husbands father. I am all for spoiling my daughter, but we have two different versions of spoiling. My daughter is going to be 10 months old, me spoiling her is giving her healthy cookies or a yougart, my husbands father likes to give her a little bit of chocolate milk, a couple of chocolate chips, cake, whatever kind of junk food he can find in the house. She only goes over there like once a week, is this ok for her to have that stuff once a week or should i try to stop him from "spoiling" her?

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Andrea - posted on 03/09/2010

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I have the same problem with my husband's family. I don't think it will technically "hurt" my daughter or make her fat for an every now and then treat, but I have put my foot down on the junk food. My husband is an extremely picky eater and I want my daughter to be more well rounded in her menu choices. So now I take the treats I want her to have and have stressed that it's for her benefit and nutrition. I also buy sugar free cookies and things that are a bit healthier. Do what I do, take them out of the package so they don't know. I've even sent over some frozen yogurt and told them it was ice cream. This way I still control the junk food.

Rebecca - posted on 03/09/2010

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It is what grandparents do spoil the grandchildren. But they do need to remember who the parent is. And maybe when you do leave your child with them you can leave some treats that they can give to your daughter.

Amanda - posted on 03/09/2010

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I would be watching out for allergies for sure. That is why the American Academy of Pediatrics says no milk, chocolate, nuts etc until at least 1 year old...foods that are all highly allergenic.

Also- I would think about the bigger picture & what kind of precedent you're setting for the future. This may not be a huge issue in & of itself, but they need to respect what you determine for YOUR child. I would just be worried that letting it continue would lead to lots of other problems later, with them disregarding & disrespecting your authority over your child. It might be better to nip this smaller thing in the bud & assert yourself now so that you don't have to fight this same battle for years to come.
Hope that helps :)

Tawnya - posted on 03/08/2010

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Let me tell you that it is not going to hurt her. My sister does the same thing with my boy. I am a healthy person. I give him the healthy foods. I don't have alot of junk food in the house. But She will be fine. She does not get it all the time and that is what matters the most. She will just see it as a treat for her. I promise she will be just fine. It also opens their taste buds to new foods. My son is almost 10 months as well and he doesn't want baby food anymore. All he wants is people food. Well I hope that helps you out a little. She is lucky to have a mommy that worries about her.

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