How often does your baby get up in the night?

Melonie - posted on 03/29/2010

after reading your post and some of the other moms i dont feel so bad now. My son is 10 months old and has only slept through the night maybe for a week of his life and thats it. We have tried everything and nothing seems to work. On the bright side we only have to give him a bottle and he usually goes back to bed. We are looking forward to the time when he starts sleeping through the night with out him waking up at all.

Beckie - posted on 03/25/2010

My daughter is 10months old and i've been having the same trouble. Caitlin would wake up on average 5 times a night, i made the mistake of giving her a drink of water each time as the dummie wouldn't settle her and then it became a regular habbit with her. She was always right for most of the night it wasn't til around 4am onwards. In the end i just had to try letting her cry a bit and that seems to of worked. I've now had the last 3-4 nights with her pretty much sleeping through. it's only taken her 10 months.
Hope this helps, good luck.

Andrea - posted on 03/24/2010

I am in the same boat as you! My baby is 10 months 2 weeks and he gets up 2-4 times a night. I think his teeth coming in are part of it. When I try to let him cry himself to sleep he throws up. He always has a good dinner and a bottle before bed. We rock him until he is asleep or very drowsy and then we put him in the crib. We are also at a loss. Wish I could help but if you get any good advice let me know!

Amanda - posted on 03/24/2010

How neat! My daughter is 10 month old and was born on May 18th! It sounds like she wakes up scared & upset because she needs you to help her fall back asleep? Mine still does this. I have been trying to teach her to fall asleep on her own and self soothe herself. Somedays are great! Some are complete failures and this mommy can't handle anymore temper tantrums & screaming/crying. Also when do you start putting her to bed? I have my daughter on a schedule. Up at 6:30am (she's up before me..always!), morning nap around 9:30 (til 11am), then afternoon nap around 2-2:30 til 4-4:30pm. Bedtime is 7:30-8pm! This helps us tremendously! That way she's not going to bed too early or too late! I hope this helps you!

Agi - posted on 03/24/2010

I also noticed you say she is in your arms. You must put her down still awake. Also, don't keep her in bed with you. Co-sleeping is going to make it 10x harder on you to break that habit. You really need to put her down without rocking or anything. Again, if she wakes up in the middle of the night, let her cry it out. She will go back to sleep. It may take 45 minutes the first time (or longer) but that time will shorten rapidly. :) Message me on Facebook if you have any more questions or comments :)

Agi - posted on 03/24/2010

My son will be 10months on the 25th. He sleeps from 6pm to 6pm eats then goes back to bed until 8. You need to have a ritual. Bath time, feed then bed or whatever works for you. If she wakes up at night you need to let her cry it out. She WILL go back to sleep. I have had to leave the house because it tore my heart apart! It's hard on some parents. Or, put her in a room where you won't hear her cry. If you don't hear her, you don't know it's happening. After a few days of this, you will notice a difference if not completely sleeping through the night :) This all was recommended to me by several different doctors and it has worked for me. he's been sleeping through the night (6hrs or more) since he was three months old

Kaisa - posted on 03/24/2010

My son doesn't sleep through the night. I'm not brestfeeding or giving him any thing to eat in the middle of the night but he still wakes up and cries. He's a very anctious litle boy and would want to be with mom al the time. I'm not shore what would help but I comfert my self sayng that not many 15 year olds wake up and cry at night. :) For us it is a little bit wierd because our daughter, now four years old, was 1,5 months when she started sleeping all through the night and still does.

Heather - posted on 03/23/2010

my daughter goes through these phases also. I noticed it happening if she is getting a tooth. lately it is seperation anxiety. Yikes! but just keep doing your same routine. when she wakes up i try to not pick her up IF possible if not i rock and calm her put her back down. I just keep doing this for as long as it takes. It usually last a few days then she is back to sleeping all night. Just keep putting her in the crib. try to make sure she gets good naps in during the day. My daughter doesn't sleep well at night if she didn't have good naps during the day

Shawna - posted on 03/23/2010

She is probably going through an attachment development phase. She just needs to be reassured that you are there for her and to be close to you during this time in her development. My daughter is going through the same thing. She is back in the family bed again for the time being.

Casey - posted on 03/23/2010

my little one wakes up once or twice in the night :)

Paula - posted on 03/23/2010

would like to say if you keep your baby awake throughout the day to try to get them to sleep then it will affect the babies development, the sleep baby needs during the day is very important and as long as your baby is kept awake from 3pm, theres no reason you shouldnt have a baby who sleeps from 7-7. i have 3 children, two of 13 and 10 who have no sleep problems and a ten month old who i have tackled her sleep problems. look for sleep clinics in your area, they are great! they set routines with you and give you support and advice.ask your health visitor for info xx

Paula - posted on 03/23/2010

babies have different sleep patterns to adults and therefore have periods of where they are not in deep sleep, which happens approx every 2hrs, in that time of a light sleep they can wake especially if they have a dummy.the trick is to make sure they are in a room of their own, which is very dark, even a cough or movement from mum or dad can wake them during the night which then results in them wanting their comfortor etc.if baby wakes, never take them out of their cot, after a few minutes of them whining they should drop back off if not tap their back then leave the room, only return every ten minutes if baby not calm.you cant do this with a dummy, ive had to ditch my babies dummies to do this and believe me it does work! i took my baby to a sleep clinic for all this info from proffesionals, if you stick to it it definately does work and within a week you have sleepless nights. never put your baby to sleep late at night, a reasonable time for a ten mnth old is between 7-8pm and you should know when your baby is tired! you will also notice if baby misses his/her naps during the day it will affect the night time, you should aim for your baby to have approx an hr in morn and hr in afternoon. if you stick to a routine with him/her then you will definately see improvement! hope this helps!

Amy - posted on 03/23/2010

I agree with Nadira! My son will be 11-months old on April 2 and he thankfully is a great sleeper. That started at about 8 months though, when he finally started eating solid food really well. He was also 14-weeks early (just 2 lbs, 4oz at birth!), but he did great figuring out the sleep thing. My daughter, on the other hand (who will be 3 on April 12), did not sleep through the night until she was 2. We literally tried everything!!! She was just not a good sleeper. She was also a premie (10-weeks early), and had reflux, but even when she out grew that at about 10 months, she still could not figure out her sleep situation. She would wake 2-3x/night every single night, and not at the same time! It drove us crazy! Just a different baby personality. I think people who state that babies "should sleep through the night" just have not come across that type of bay personality, it is very very frustrating and exhausting, but nothing you are doing wrong! Good luck!!

Judith - posted on 03/22/2010

My son is 10months, he takes about an hour to sleep if I do not carry him on my back and wakes up atleast twice in a single night to breastfeed. I have also noticed that he wakes up at the exact time he used to wake up when he was still in the womb (between 3.00 and 4.00am at night i would feel him stretch). I know that one day he will learn to sleep throughout the night.
Just be patient with your daughter.

Leah - posted on 03/22/2010

Have you tried switching the milk at night for water or juice? I did this with both my kids as they slept through from the beginning but then at about 7 months they both started waking up a lot in the night so we changed their bottles, then they stopped waking up. It also helps with their mealtimes during the day as they tend to eat better if they are not full from the previous night. My daughter is also 10 months now and a sound sleeper, we give her milk when she goes to sleep then we leave a bottle of water/ juice in the cot with her at night.

Jodie - posted on 03/22/2010

My son just turned 10mths on the 21st, he goes down to sleep by himself in his cot around 8pm and sleeps good for around the first 3 or 4 hrs then he cries out about 3 or times during the night on a bad night and about twice on a good one, normally as soon as he sees me he turns around and goes straight back to sleep or wants his dummy, I dont feed him again until around 6am. He has two sleeps in the day, he was sleeping for about a hour and a half in the morning and then 45 min in the afternoon, I am going to wake him up in the morning sleep after 1 hour and try to put him down a bit earlier in the afternoon and have him awake from 3.30pm and see if this helps. Ive been told keeping them up later doesnt solve the problem as babies get there best sleep in the earlier night. Im hoping he starts to sleep better soon...

Wendi - posted on 03/22/2010

my son was sleeping through the night at a week old and just recently he started waking up in the middle of the night. the dr told me that it is prob because he is teething. and i have also read that for some reason between 9 and 10 months they can go through a stage of that. just keep a routine. like read to her and hold her before she goes to sleep.

Jo - posted on 03/22/2010

Hi Deborah My daughter was doing the same thing, we use to rock her to sleep it was getting crazy she couldnt put herself back to sleep. So we wrapped her up with 1 arm out and did controlled comforting with her. We did 2mins and then went in and rewraped if it was needed and patted her on the bum for a few pats until she had calmed a little and left the room and then let her cry for 4 mins and so on. 2, 4, 6, 8 ,10 mins and 10mins after. If she got to wound up we would pick her up and give her cuddles to calm her down and start again. Now she sleeps straight away and when she wakes during the night she puts herself back to sleep. The wrapping stops her from waking herself up. It works a treat. We have tried to leave her unwrapped but after an hr she awake and so we wrapped her and she slept all night,

Shaheen - posted on 03/22/2010

my daughter does the same thing and i am so fed up of it now she guna be 11 months in 1 wk.i dunno wat to do???????

Kerrie - posted on 03/22/2010

This sounds so familiar. My son is 10mths and usually wakes 1 time. As a small baby he slept so much better. I am having to use a little tough love and it seems to be working. I go and give him his dummy and leave him. He will sometimes cry other times this is enough. I wont pick him up or feed him because then he thinks everytime he wakes he needs a feed and he doesn't. Goodluck it can be hard to listen to them cry but it is amazing how quickly they learn.

Samantha - posted on 03/22/2010

my daughter is 10months and used to go threw the night shes in bed for 7 and wakes around 11 for a bottle then am for a bottle but goes straight back to sleep she only goes the full night if she as no sleep in the day i keep her busy plus my older daughter plays with her alot to i just giv her bottle for bed with soft music :)

Kelly - posted on 03/22/2010

My daughter just turned 10 months on the 21st. She has been sleeping all night since 6 months. She sleeps til almost 10 am most days. My older daughter has been sleeping all night since 3 months.

Kim - posted on 03/22/2010

My baby has been sleeping through the night since he was 3 months old. I did not realize how lucky I was til I started talking to people on this site. He goes to bed between 7:30-8:00 and wakes up between 7:00-7:30.

Kylie - posted on 03/22/2010

Hi, you probably wont read this cause have so much info already but when I know my bub isn't teething I dont get her out of her cot if she wakes, give her dummy back to her, turn on the projector light and music and walk straight out of the room, no talking either, she cried for about 7 mins first night, then 5 and lately has been sleeping thru the night, bliss.....if she does wake up, its just put dummy in and she doesn't cry. But mostly she sleeps right thru now, you just have to be consistent I think, good luck.

Jayne Marie - posted on 03/21/2010

Hmmm.. SO glad I read all these, I thought it was just me!!. Our Son has never slept through the night, but went from waking once/twice a night, to every hour just before christmas. I'm still feeding him myself, so fell into the trap of putting him into bed with me, feeding him every hour / 2 hours when he woke, and grabbing some sleep that way.. It was only after the 3rd month of my husband being in the spare room, we thought enough is enough. He goes down between 7 and 7:30 each night, if he wakes before 10:30 I'll feed him again to top him up. Usually he wakes between 11 - 12, then 1 - 2, wakes at 3 and it takes an hour to get him back down again. My husband gets up and goes to him now, to prove that he doesn't NEED feeding every hour. He just associates me with feeding. He's never had a dummy, or a thumb / finger. Instead he falls asleep on the breast. then when he wakes again (my husband just hums to him and rocks gently) around 3am, he'll give him water instead. We've even tried putting him down in his cot on this V shaped feeding pillow, as bending over the cot to let him go, he wakes up and suddenly clings to you! So I've learnt not to hold him too tight when he's feeding.. He'll sleep on the pillow for about 20 mins in his cot, but then wriggle about and turn over and I wip the pillow out from under him. Last night was the best night ever.. went down at 7:30, woke at 1, but then again at 5:30 - although from 5:30 / 6 - I put him in with us, as it means we'll get another hour or so if i feed him quickly.. We too have tried the 'let him scream' routine - it didn't work.. just made him hot, sick, and he pulled his ears alot.. He's ok in the night now if my husband goes to him - if he see's me however, he gets uncontrolable.. so I stay out the way (usually with my boob's 'pinging' from where I can hear him upset!!)

I'm hoping it'll be something he grows out of.. But for now, we're doing everything we can to get our sleep, and to stop him being scared of his own room / cot. He has a little string of night lights on all night, aswell as his fisher price rain forest CD on continuous...

Good luck to all those in the same boat as us. x

Chanda - posted on 03/21/2010

My Dr told me to make sure my son gets at least one or two good naps in the day and then for one of the feedings start diluting the bottle... i.e. my son drinks 6 oz at each bottle so she said instead of putting three scoops, put two scoops of formula in the 6 oz bottle and that will help to start weening him off of a night. Not sure of the logic there, but that's what the Dr. ordered. Now for the not sleeping in their own bed, I can't help you... I've trained my son from the beginning to be independent and fall asleep on his own in his own bed... Hope the rest helps.

Heather - posted on 03/21/2010

My son is 10 months old and he was sleeping through the night at about 2-3 months and then since he was 6 months he wakes up a ton of times at night. Some nights he doesnt get up at all but some nights he gets up 2-6 times a night and it drives me and my fiancee crazy! It doesnt matter if he stays up later (actually it seems to make it worse) he eats a bottle right before bed I don't know what it is!

Vicky - posted on 03/20/2010

hi there..my bubba sleeps through the night but has had quite a few stages of waking up before 12 & just crying or being restless a few times through the night- i put this down to teething or seperation anxiety. you should not really be feeding them when they wake up if they have previously slept through the night, water is sufficient as most likely they are waking out of habit rather than hunger- make sure they have a clean nappy & a bit of water & are feeling well & are not experiencing teething pains or need medication. you just have to put in the hard yards & soothe them in their cot after a cuddle. if she is still awake after about 1 hour i do give her a small bottle just to settle her & put her back in the sleep mode. you need alot of energy during the day as this age as you are constantly running after them so the broken sleep wouldnt be helping you either! a few nights of persistent settling will do wonders- it is tiring but afterwards you should be having a full nights rest & so will your baby. i also find a small fabric teddy comforter does the trick in soothing as it doesnt matter which way it is sucked or put in mouth & also a soft night light with a sleepy baby cd on repeat all night helps us get through those nighttime wake ups.

Michelle - posted on 03/20/2010

my daughter will be 10 months on the 24th and she also wakes up all night, sometimes just twice other nights she is up every hour. i have tried rocking her, patting her bum, feeding her, controlled crying, full tummy before bed, extra clothes, less clothes, dummies, blankies, music and i'm just about exhausted. i wish I had a magical cure but all i can say to help is that you are not alone. Hope your little princess starts sleeping well soon.

Bonnie - posted on 03/19/2010

dont worry i am the same my 10 month old was sleeping through great and then he started getting his top teeth and still gets up about 2-3 times i have just learnt not to expect anything as it is always changing its nothing u are doing wrong nessesarly its just what happens i reakon it makes u appreciate the times they do sleep through a lot more.I dont really know about keeping her up to much cause when they r tired they really do wan to go to bed and sometimes its easier than when they r overtired and if u but them to bed when they r tired and not overtired i find they sleep better to.

good luck remember ur not the only one it is fustrating but we will get there!

Debbie - posted on 03/19/2010

I have brought Milea into bed with my husband and I a few times...sometimes she starts in our bed then when she falls asleep I move her to her bed. I dont want her getting too used to that though....its gets difficult on "couples time"! :)

A - posted on 03/19/2010

Listen- Every baby is different. Some are more difficult than others. My baby only slept through the night for about a month. His schedule would also shift constantly- no more than two weeks on the same schedule, no matter what I did. Recently he has just started being on the same schedule, and I attribute it to starting to co-sleep. It's not something I originally wanted to do, but for my sanity and to get some sleep, I've had to and I think we both actually sleep better now. I think separation anxiety is setting in. In past months it would only take a few minutes to cry and go to sleep, and now, it could be a two hour battle to try and get him to sleep in his crib. I would still check on him every 10-15 minutes, but that method just didn't work. It's frustrating when something works for other parents but not for you. :( But the last time he cried, I felt so horrible. He's old enough to know I'm not there anymore, but still in the other room. He was shaking from crying so hard, and that's when I decided I would just ride this phase out. I started putting him in bed with us, and holding him during most of his naps. At night, I was really surprised how well he put himself to sleep in our bed. I just turned off the light. He would squirm around for a few minutes, going back and forth between me and daddy, then he would go to sleep! No crying, no complaining. I think he feels very comforted just knowing we're there and not abandoning him. I'm not saying this will work for you, but thought I would share in case you want to try. I truly hope that he is my difficult child (He's my first) because he is very needy and demanding at times. Just remember that they aren't all the same and to just be there for your baby.

Debbie - posted on 03/19/2010

We've experienced the same thing! I realized it probably was more so from all the teething she has been doing. Cut 2 teeth in 1 day and one more on the verge! That will make a total of 6 and she will be 10 months on the 20th. I must admitt she does fuss some still but most of the time she falls back to sleep on her own. I just would wait for a bit and if she really got fussy I would go in and give her a pacifier and pat her bum..she usually went back to sleep. Patience and ALOT of sleep deprivation on mom's part! I rarely have to get her up and give her a bottle and never have I given one while she is in her crib. I've never tried cereal in her bottle either. But we do rock at bedtime. She usually goes down at around 9 at night and wakes between 6/630 in the morning...naps are usually 1030ish then another around 3. her naps vary in length. Good luck!

Shannon - posted on 03/18/2010

Not at all now that she is 10 months old. It's the dang puppy we got that I have to get up with 5 times a night!! LOL

Carmen - posted on 03/18/2010

I was going to suggest the book, "Healthy Sleep habits, Happy baby," and I see a couple of other moms have already. It really clicked for us once we read it. It has a slightly different take on the CIO method, and really emphasizes routine, routine, routine. AND an early bed time, we went from 9 pm to 7 pm and it is amazing that he doesn't wake up for the day until 6 am, which is when we have to get up for work anyway. He occasionally wakes up in the night but I notice it happens when he's teething. the book is worth a trip to the library or book store!! good luck!

Samantha - posted on 03/18/2010

My son is also 10 months and not a sleeper. I have tried it all and my doctor said some babies are just more difficult than others. It's nothing you are doing wrong for sure. What works for me is having stuff for my son's crib to play with so when he wakes up almost every night religiously at 11:00, 1:30 and 4:00 he can entertain himself most nights and then go back to sleep. Sometimes he won't do that and we get up and read a little something again and rock, then still awake but calm, put him back down. I'll be honest it doesn't always work...but at least we get a BIT more sleep this way.

Rebecca - posted on 03/18/2010

My son is 10 1/2 months and it's hit or miss with him. Sometimes he will sleep all night and sometimes he gets up once or twice.
We lay him down at 730 and he will cry for about 5-10 minutes before he falls asleep. Last night he slept from 730 until 430. He had a bottle and I put him back down. It's 650 and he's still asleep. When he does sleep through the night it's usually from 730-7 or 730. Then he takes 1-2 naps during the day also.

Stacey - posted on 03/18/2010

my son is 10 months l found it help with a vido or dvd on his been inb a 7 30 n gets up st 7 30 his been doing ths sench he was a month old

Ashley - posted on 03/18/2010

My daughter did that for a couple weeks when she first learned to crawl...they just want to play and put their new skills to work...also i had to let her cry it out. i started letting her cry and going in every 5 minutes to calm her down then added a minute each time. it took a week or two but now i can get a full nights sleep...hope this helps!

Stevie - posted on 03/18/2010

my 10 month old wakes about 3 times too, i make him stay up till 7.30 every night even iff he is cranky, then bath, story feed and bed,,
i do the same every night,
also when he wakes up up, i leave him a couple of minutes, before going to him,
hope this helps x

Tabitha - posted on 03/18/2010

Chances are she is going through a growth spurt. My 10 month old (on the 6th) sleeps through the night. But I have noticed a trend the the infancy of all my 4 other children that when they are going through a growth spurt they tend to wake up more often in the middle of the night. Be patient with her change her, feed her if necessary, but give as little interaction to her as possible. Talking to her when only further wake her.

Cori - posted on 03/18/2010

I think at 10 months they should be getting to the CIO stage. My son right now wakes up once a night normally around 4, drinks a bottle, and goes back to sleep. He slept through the night from about 1 month- 6 months which is around the time he started getting ear infections so I don't if thats what interuppted his sleep or what. My husband doesn't like to do the CIO method though and would rather stick him in bed with us lol!

Rebecca - posted on 03/18/2010

My daughter will be 10 months next week and she has been sleeping through the night for about 2 months. She has the odd night where she will get up and not fall back asleep. Those nights I just go and comfort her. We also have a schedule at night where she knows that it will bed time soon. A bath, read a book, and then I breast feed her and then off to bed.

Deborah - posted on 03/18/2010

yup mines asleep by 9 wakes up at 2 then wont go back in crib gets up for good between 615 and 7 for good then naps around 930 for hr and half

Rebekah - posted on 03/18/2010

My daughter is up once to nurse in the night.



I too love the book, "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child." One important fact about sleep, is that when we get too tired, we have trouble falling asleep and staying asleep. We moved my daughter's bedtime from 8pm to 7pm and that's when she started sleeping 8 hours. If your baby is showing tired signs and acting cranky, she's probably overly tired and will need extra help to fall asleep and stay asleep for longer than a couple hours. So, if she is not going to bed by 7pm you might try moving her bedtime earlier... or only allowing a few hours (2-3hrs) between her last nap and her bedtime.

Deborah - posted on 03/18/2010

Ya thats what my daughter does .I give her a bath and nightime lotion feed her some cereal to top her off and I do ususally hold her and shes out in like 5 min ,but then she wakes up around 2 to nurse and will wake up every time I try to put her back in her crib

Krystal - posted on 03/18/2010

My little man is 10 months old and still is up every 2-3 hours all night long. but, we cosleep...so i just pop him on the other boob and were back to sleep.
Good luck!

Charlotte - posted on 03/18/2010

my son is 10 months tomorrow and has been sleeping through since about 12weeks. He kept waking up at 3am for a b/feed and would go straight back to sleep. My helath visitor said it was a habit and i should try and break it.He also had a dummy at the time that he used to cry for in the night if it fell out. I took away the dummy and stopped the night feed in one go. The first night he cried for a while before he fell asleep but i didn't go in to him as he seemed worse if i went in. When he woke at 3am i went in to his room and just hushed him and spoke softly to him to reassure him i was there. I didn't pick him up or touch him, just stood next to the cot. The next night when he woke i didn't go in at all and he went back off within 5 minuts and the 3rd night he made a few noises but didn't wake! I was so happy i had cracked it!! Now he sleps through for around 12 hours a night and even if he does moan a it in the night i won't get up until 7am as i believe he should know that it is not morning until that time. I have also had him in a routine since a few days old. Before he was weaning i used to b/feed at 6.30pm then give him a bath and quiet play time while i got him ready for bed and then another b/feed after his bath then he would go to bed. I still use the same routine now apart from the b/feeds. Around 6.30pm i will run his bath and start getting him ready to go in. He will have a longer play in the bath as he enoys it more now.Then around 7 when he is dressed he will have his bottle then straight to bed afterwards. I try as hard as possible not to let him fall asleep on me as i find he has a more disturbed sleep if i do. It is best for them to see they are going in to their own cot so if they do wake in the night they know where they are. I know i have rambled on but i hope this helps :) xx

Joanne - posted on 03/18/2010

Hi My son is just 10 months old. He is in a good routine at night and during the day and maybe has 1 nap at around 1pm after lunch. He has his bath then a massage then story then bed and goes to bed really well. About half an hour later he is awake and crying. He goes back to sleep but can wake anywhere from 2 to 6 times a night depending on how he is feeling!!. My health visitor put me intouch with the sleep clinic and the lady came out but said i was doing everything correct and therfore did not need him to come to the clinic. I felt good that i was doing things right but it just isnt working so hv is going over her head and is helping me join clinic. Aiden has also started talking a full bottle at about 2am. I have been told i should just offer him water but he has never been a good bottle drinker from day 1 and i worry he doesnt get all the vitamins he should be getting from the milk. So i give him the bottle. He gets it in his cot with me sitting down at the side as i was told to do that rather than lift him out. I would appreciate if anyone has any advice on what to try or be honest if you think im doing something wrong!. I am 33wks pregnant and need a good nights slepp!!!!. HELP!.

Tiffany - posted on 03/17/2010

Mine seems like she's getting worse...she slept through the night at 6 weeks, and now she's up every hour or two ALL night, wanting to nurse herself back to sleep. Hopefully it's related to her teething, and will ease up soon. I'm losing my mind!