In need of encouraging words.

Erin - posted on 06/10/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I've been really down and depressed lately because of my current situation. We've made choices in our past that lead to the way things are today, but that doesn't mean it's not frustrating! We live in a one bedroom tiny (but cute!) apartment, luckily underneath our parents apartment for now. Before we moved here, we were in a two bedroom but I still had our 1 year old in our room because Matt was working overnights and I just felt like I needed it. So she's now one, has never known anything but sleeping in the same room as us. We have a tiny apartment that limits her mobility and curiosity, and we're planning to take an extended trip to England so she can finally meet her grandparents. We're planning on having Matt go to school there, and then me go when we get back. Right now money is really tight and seem to be screaming (sometimes out loud, sometimes not lol) about where the money has gone. I know that in the end this will all become (hopefully) something of the past, but it's so hard to pull through. I'm pretty much a living bad example that's paraded in front of teens during high school. The 'this is what happens if you do this.' Unfortunately, I can't change the past and can only plan a good future. When things get as rough as they've been lately though, my mind seems to shut down and I do nothing. I'm not looking for sympathy, I know I've made my own bed, I just want to hear that someone else has been through this and pulled through. I just need to hear something positive for once. :( I'm so stressed out even my dreams have been nuts lately.

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Rachael - posted on 06/11/2010

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Wow Kim. Thats horrid. I can totally see how we relate. Im still fighting my ex's mom over Grace. My *aunt* kidnapped me with help when I was 3 yrs old. Wasn't supposed to live past age 5. Beaten, neglected and abused. She adopted me and nursed me to health, had me in special needs classes etc to help me catch up. Age 3 /21 pnds/couldnt walk/eat/talk etc. Sad. But look at me now. Mom and Dad got divorced and main reason was because he treated me like garbage. To this day he does and refuses to be apart of my two youngest daughters lives but Treasures my first born. Hurts to the core. I have long since gotten over that, grown up etc. I speak to my biological mother and I have found my long lost brother as well. Fate does work in mysterious ways! But you know, being that low back in the day, going through all I have been through only has made me stronger and a better mom to my own. Us woman are born strong and smart. Hense why we are the moms!! LOL. (yes a lot of dads have it in them too) Always try to see the bright side and don't hold onto the past. Live for today and Look for tomorrow :) ♥ AMEN to all of us great mommies!

Kimberly - posted on 06/11/2010

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Hey ladies, how is everyone. I just want to let each one of you that I know exactly how each one of you feel. I am 26 and I have 4 beautiful children that I wouldn't change for the world. When I was growing up, it was told to me and this stuck in my head and I live by it everyday of my life. Jesus made the promise that he wasn't going to flood the earth again, but he never said that this life was going to be easy to live. You have to have faith in God everyday, and ask him to get you through this hardship.

Right now, I don't have my kids because of my biological mom, she told my husband's mom that she was going to do anything and everything that she could to get my kids taken from me cause me and my sisters were taken from her. Now we are fighting for them back. When I was 19 I had my daughter and when she was 2 weeks old we were living in a homeless shelter in fort worth tx. So, I have been as low as can be. But everyday I pray to Jesus and I have faith that I will get through this. But with the help and love of my family and friends. Im getting through it. Remember this.... " Keep your head up and do your best, and long as you try and do your best for your children then you will get through it, and they will thank you in the long run for being there for them. They need you to be strong for them. They learn from example." God Bless everyone and I hope that this little message about me helped you all. If you need any more inspiration then please feel free to email any time. crisp_kimberly62405@live.com

Rachael - posted on 06/11/2010

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Agreed Kor! I was 18 and pregnant. Kicked out a month before grad,(I moved in with a friend so I could finish and I graduated) then went to living in a scum of appt one bedroom. Things fell apart when Grace was one and his mother Kidnapped her from me. I met a new fellow had another baby. He ended up being abusive, living in another scummy place. Moved again closer to family. Met my future hubby. Now have a 1 yr old :) We live in th inlaws basement suite. Not easy. On goverment assistance too and we are broke atleast 2/4 weeks. BUT... I have arrangements with Grace's dad, My hubby has been raising Jade as his since she was 2 and well tia is just our newest pride and joy. I've made some BAD choices, I've been broke and close to homeless. I am now happily married, hubby got a job last week, kids are healthy and things FINALLY looking up. ONE thing you need to remember, you have a beautiful baby that you gave birth too, and your baby always comes first. Your baby is fed, changed and happy. You have plans for the future and they sound good! (England) EVERYONE struggles at some point with one thing or another. Keep your head up girl! You sound like a wondeful mom that has a great man also. Your time will come. your baby is still young you have time to pursue your dreams and still make a good life for your family. Ppl make mistakes, your kids will understand that things happen but look how you turned it all around? Fate works in mysterious ways. Never give up! Small steps. Plan and persue!! As long as your babe sees mommy and daddy happy and doing the best they could do always remaining postive when it seems at its worst.. you will be an awesome rolemodel and karma will help you out ♥