Is it bad if you put a baby in a crib and they cry for more than 5min?....

Jessica - posted on 01/05/2010 ( 60 moms have responded )

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I live with my family and every time I put my daughter in her crib and she cries for more than 5min I get bitched at. I wanted to know if it is honestly that bad even when I go in and calm her down.

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Janessa - posted on 02/19/2010

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Omg i feel like a bad mom i let my son cried for 4 hours:( i kept checking on him making sure he was alright. But i feel so ashamed everyones stories how there let the child cry for short period of time. My family and my sons father told me to let him cry it out. Our son was sleeping with us and it was really affecting our relationship.Now he only cries for short periods of time but my heart breaks because he is so attached to me.

Tanya - posted on 01/20/2010

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I always change and feed my baby before bed and I used to breastfeed her to sleep but letely she is still awake after her feed so I put her to bed and she cries for about 3-5minutes then stops and falls asleep. It's only because they aren't ready for bed and want to stay up and play but if you let them do that they will still be doing it at 1 year old, 5 years old, 10 years old...

I do check her if she is still crying after 5 minutes though and I check her again when she stops crying.

Danielle - posted on 01/05/2010

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I started placing my son in the crib so he would learn to put himself to sleep, and he would cry and cry until it had gotten to the point that he was afraid of the crib. Every time I would put him in it he would immediately began to cry hysterically! I talked to the pediatrician about it and she said that sometimes this age babies go through something called separation anxiety, and that it was best that i keep reassuring my son that I was coming back, and to take it a little bit at a time. Try putting her to sleep first, or find another place will soothe other than the crib, at least til she gets past this :)

Heather - posted on 01/12/2010

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Crying it out is fine. As a mom, you will know when you baby is just fussing and when they are in pain or really need something. We used to put my son down and he would fuss a bit. Every once in a while, he would have a burp stuck and would either start to shreek when we first put him down, or he would be asleep and then wake up shreeking... believe me, you'll know. Living with other family, be careful to not have too many 'chefs in the kitchen'. You are the baby's mom, and you should make the final decisions and have the final say. If people don't get behind your mothering methods, than the baby may grow up a bit confused, b/c mom says one thing and grandpa says another and grandma another etc... I hope things work out.

Becky - posted on 01/12/2010

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Every baby is different of course, especially at this age since they are starting to develop their personalities. My son is now 7 months. You're not a bad mom for letting the baby cry for 5 minutes especially if you go in to comfort them. As long as you check them to make sure they are not wet, or hungry or gassy before letting them cry a bit. With my son I started at 5 months I'd let him cry for about 10 minutes and then check on him. I'd change him, then feed him because he would usually get sleepy after a bottle and turn the lights low while he was eating. Burp him untilI I got a burp out of him. He had gas problems when he was younger so I'd gauge his cry. I can tell the difference between his pain cry and just a I want you to pick me up cry. At first when I'd lay him down he'd cry instantly, but we got a mobile with ocean sound because I noticed when we went to the beach for vacation he slept the whole time he was on the beach. It also plays music. And I gave him a teddy bear and a blanket my cousin crochet for him since it has holes and if he puts it over his face when he sleeps he can still breathe. I had to let him cry for 30minutes one night since he was sooo tired and really just being stubborn. I had checked him once, patted his back, checked is diaper, he had just eaten. I calmed him down and he was asleep on my shoulder as soon as I laid him down he cried. So I put his blanket next to him turned on his sounds, rubbed his belly a minute, kissed him and walked out and went to bed. I listened the whole time he was crying and stood in the doorway to make sure he was ok, but I didn't let him see me and eventually he went to sleep. After that, he cried 10minutes when I put him down, then 5 minutes. Now when I put him to sleep, I put him down awake, turn on his sounds give him his blanket which he instantly cuddles against, I kiss him goodnight and walk out and he coos and sometimes plays with his mobile for 5 or 10 minutes and then goes to sleep. Occasionally, when he is teething, or just cranky because he is overly tired because for whatever reason he didn't take his naps, he will cry for a while, I will go into check on him, calm him down and lay him back down, which actually seems to upset him more because he cries twice as hard when I go in and check on him then leave then if I don't go in at all. Like I said it depends on your child, you know them best, only you know what works the best for them, don't let anyone make you doubt that. And you obviously care or you wouldn't even ask for advice in the first place.

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Amanda - posted on 02/19/2010

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10mins they say your baby can cry for before you check on them...but dont let your family tell you wht to do, it is your child and you know best.. if you do not let them cry she will become dependant on you ans she will realise when she crys you will pick her up straight away and she will use it agaisnt you, and dont think because they are young they dont think that, because they do!! my son knows now when he gets put in his crib its bed time n thats that.... if i wasnt percistant in letting him cry i dont no what i would do... bed time is your time for yourself.. dont let your daughter control you! and dont let your family tell you what to do with you baby, its fine for them to make suggestions but when it comes down to it you make the final decision.. routine works and i think every family needs it.!

Kaylarie - posted on 01/20/2010

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My son is 8 months and has been sleeping in his crib by himself since he was a few months old. We keep a schedule for him and put him to bed the same time every night. IF you keep a regular and good routine they will soon anticipate bed time and be ready for it when you lay them down. We do let him cry when we lay him down for bed untill he sleeps which is only about 3-5 min now. If you keep a good routine and not let everyone pick her up as soon as she crys unless something is wrong during the day it will make it a little easier. My son is going through the seperation thing right now during the day. I have to make sure nothing is wrong and let him cry sometimes reassuring him by talking that mommy is here and he is ok. After a while he stops the crying. I tell you though that a routine is a must when it comes to sleep. It will take a while at first but being consistant will help her feel secure. IF you are going to start be consistant or it will make it worse because it makes her nervous not being able to anticipate what is next. My son sleeps 12-14 hrs a night now without a problem.

Rebecca - posted on 01/16/2010

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Danielle, my son is Exactly like that. i didnt even know babies could have such serious anxiety until my son was born. he cries until he cant breathe if i lay him in his crib or pak-n-play for a nap. he hyper-ventilates & if i try to wait it out for a while he starts shaking & its the saddest thing i have ever seen, it completely breaks my heart. i want to help him develop some indepence for his own good but i just dont know how to help him. i soothe him & talk to him & try to show him how much i love him but he needs to be held close & cuddle or he cant sleep. i know we are developing horrible habits but he still sleeps with my husband & i and he will be 8 months old tomorrow. how is your son doing now? do you have any suggestions for me? thanks

Monica - posted on 01/13/2010

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As soon as my lil man reached 6mths we started control crying. leaving him on his cot to put himself to sleep so he would cry for 10mins or more but it all depends on how bub is crying. if its screaming then i would go in but if its just sooking then i leave him to settle himself. It wont hurt. just teaches bub that she doesnt need her mum to go to sleep.

Dana - posted on 01/13/2010

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no, after one week of crying without you goin in to calm her, she should be used to it. my baby now cries for about 1 min or less and then rolls over sucks his thumb or cuddles his blanket and goes to sleep. the first week was rough, especially on your heart cuz when they cry you feel terrible, but its for their best interest that they learn to self soothe!

Janine - posted on 01/12/2010

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as long as she is ok in all other areas its fine. if you keep getting her back up she is going to do it more. I just go back in and put the dummy back in even if i have to go back 10 times, i never get samuel up unless its his nappy etc.

Eliza - posted on 01/12/2010

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I know how you feel... always wondering if you're doing the right thing. I have to let my little boy cry sometimes... and it might be different reasons everytime. When you can't hold your baby 24/7 that happens. It breaks my heart... but I always just take time to make sure everything else is taken care of with him so I'm not at fault. There have been times when I felt like I was out of my mind and that maybe I should have or could have picked him up... and I feel bad about it. That's why it's just really important to make sure that YOU have what you need in order to take care of your baby. So if you do that... you'll be able to reassure yourself you have done the right thing. That would stink to have people judging you, but I guess if you can't explain to them what the case is and why you're doing it, just try to ignore it and keep on keepin' on!

Erin - posted on 01/12/2010

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It is YOUR baby. I learned that before mine was even born from watching other mother's dictate to their son or daughter how to raise their child. We just recently had had to begun letting our daughter cry herself to sleep because she can pull herself up and crawl now. So instead of just going to sleep when she's tired, she plays and makes herself more tired and cranky and cries for us to come get her. Originally I was letting her cry for a little while and then going to get her, but this was lasting forever and she was not going to sleep until like one in the morning! I stopped going to get her unless it sounded like something was wrong and sometimes she cries for twenty minutes before she falls asleep. However, she does always fall asleep in the end and now she's getting better and better.

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I would never let my baby cry! I think its cruel. When my first daughter was born, every time i put her back in her crib she would wake up and cry so I would just keep her with me. Everyone else was telling me to let her cry but I just couldn't! Now she is 2 yrs old she still sleeps in the bed with me I have never been able to get her to sleep on her own. You are her mom, you know whats best for her, if you are able to let your child cry then at least check on her first and don't leave her too long. I don't see anything wrong with a baby wanting their mom at night so I'll always be there for my two babies whenever they call for me, day or night no matter how hard it gets. I don't believe in letting a baby cry itself to sleep though, thats just miserable.

Shauna - posted on 01/12/2010

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My family does the same thing but it is really the only way to get them on a schedule. They will cry less and less and one day soon, not at all! It worked for me.

Madilyn - posted on 01/12/2010

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I personally dont believe in the CIO method, some studies show a detrimental effect on the baby, and I co-sleep. Make your own desicion though and stick by your guns. I have a hard time with family and my parenting desicions too, and sadly I also live with family, to save money

Lindsay - posted on 01/12/2010

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As long as she's not hungry or cold or need changed its fine. She needs to learn to soothe herself. It doesn't hurt her to cry. Youre doing the right thing...

Natasha - posted on 01/11/2010

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yes the reason your baby would stop crying at this age (after being left to cry in out) would be out of hopelessness. as in you baby would realize that it's pointless to cry because know one will come to help her.

Rachel - posted on 01/11/2010

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you are not a bad mom. me and my husband let our daughter cry sometimes when we put her to bed and sometimes during naps bc when we go in the room it just makes it worse and we know she is tierd. she is ur daughter u shouldnt listin to what other people tell u to do with her unless u agree with it. we live with my mother in-law and sometimes we get unwanted advice from and my parents and i hate it. as long as ur not hurting her in anyway then they shouldnt say anything.

Amy - posted on 01/11/2010

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I don't let my baby cry.
I have five kids 8 yrs to 8 months and I always cuddle them when they need me. I think that is what we are here for. So far my kids have grown up nice and loving. I think babies need a lot of touching holding and loving, then as they get older they become more independent and don't need us as much.

Kim - posted on 01/10/2010

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I think that every baby is different. We tried the extinction crying with our daughter, Penelope and she fought it for almost a week and a half. So we decided to change methods and look for ques that she is tired. Try "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" it really helped us to train Penelope to sleep well and it trained us as well!! Good Luck!

Danielle - posted on 01/10/2010

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hey i know what ur going through, if my grandma calls my house and i answer when shes crying my grandma calls my parents and god knows who else and tells them i just let my baby cry all the time and thats not true, but u know what. I am her mother, and what I say goes. If they dont want to respect me as her mother then I dont have to included them in her life, i know for u its different but if i were u i would try to get my own place, because then they will respect u more

Belinda - posted on 01/09/2010

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You're the mum. You love your baby. You know when baby is really distressed as opposed to just crying from being overtired or to get him/herself to sleep. Don't worry about what anyone else says. To save your sanity, maybe try going to your own room and reading a book while bub is crying herself to sleep so you don't have to put up with the comments. Make sure you have told the family that they are not to go in to her though :) Hope that helps a bit!

Cloe - posted on 01/09/2010

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my son is 8 mnths old and i've been doing that since he was 5 month. Before i would go in every time he cried when ever he cried and picked him up but as he got older he developed a knowlage of this and used crying to get my attension and then the 'fake' cry came in. Ever since I have gave him 5 -10 mins to let him cry it out as i no the difference between a fake and real cry. I even do it when i stay at my mums and she said the same she dont think its right but then i showed her what he can be like if i do go in and try to settle him, he laughs at me and then she agreed. at the end of the day thats your baby and you do what you think right! i can swear by the 5-10 min crying out period as it workes perfectly. taylor is now 8 months old and within 3-5 mins of crying in his cot hes fast asleep as he knows i wont come in with the fake cry. BUT when he does go silent i do go in to cheack and do so every 5-10 mins just incase. You shouldnt feel bad, as i did at first but now its just apart of everyday life for us both



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Christie - posted on 01/09/2010

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You aren't being a bad mom, you are training her to self soothe herself to sleep. As crass as it sounds, babies, kids (actually all people) are like animals and must be trained to know specific things : actions have consequences, what is acceptable behavior (she is too little to fully understand this now, but saying no, setting some boundries, saying "hot"--these are training her-- but I'm using this as an example of the training comment so I don't get umpteen e-mails telling me how bad I am for using the word train and comparing to a puppy), how to cope on ones' own in certain times (you can't always rock her to sleep or hold her until she sleeps or this will be her norm and she will only fall asleep that way). You are not being anything other than responsible by letting her cry for a bit. If you and your family continue to pick her up immediately upon her crying, she has trained you! Babies are getting their reasoning skills at this time and she is learning that her crying action has the consequence of getting picked up immediately. I'm not saying to let her sob herself to sleep every night, but giving it a few extra minutes each evening before you go into the room and then maybe just pat her or use soothing words and only after then picking her up for a bit if these tactics don't work. Good luck, hope any of that helps.

Susan - posted on 01/09/2010

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It is okay as long as you know there isn't anything that is wrong with her. My daughter was the same way. She always wanted someone to hold her because that is what she got used to at such a young age. She got to the point where she was constantly waking up in the middle of the night and wouldn't go back to sleep unless someone would hold her. We eventually just had to let her cry it out. Now, she sleeps through the night and so does mommy and daddy. I know it is very hard to hear your baby cry, but they have to learn to go to sleep on their own eventually or you'll never get a good nights rest.

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I am the mother of three girls [grown] thank the Lord.And grandmother of seven.And all of them were left to cry at some point or other.A child has to learn how to use their lungs,and they also need to learn independants.And believe this or not they learn it very,very early!!!! Picking them up everytime they cry is only spoiling them.As long as they are not hungry,wet or sick its fine to let them cry for a little bit.

Gloria - posted on 01/09/2010

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I totally agree with Danielle Jackson because I've seen it in my son, now eight months old. So what I have been doing is, soothing him to sleep in my arms, wait for him to be perfundly asleep, and than I tuck him into his crib VERY SLOWLY! That seems to work mostly 80% of the times. Be very patience and don't give up!!!
Best of luck!!!!!

Danielle - posted on 01/08/2010

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i had to start letting Niven cry once she hit 7 months because she wasn't sleeping very well and her sleep habits were getting worse, but when we put her to bed we stay in the room with her so she knows that we are there for her. i sit in a chair quietly near her cot until she falls asleep we are down to 5 -10 mins to get to sleep now, if she gets really worked up we give her a drink of water and sometimes that is all she needs and she falls straight to sleep.
good luck, it isn't nice when you don't have support from family when you know that what your doing is what you feel is best

LeToya - posted on 01/08/2010

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no. i had to let my son cry because i couldnt take the fussing. i had to calm myself down before i got too frustrated. i hate when other people try to chastise for how u decide to handle your own kid. i bet its mostly old fashioned moms. i learned that sometimes babies just need to cry for their own reasons. you ever felt like you had to cry just to calm yourself down? same thing with a baby. i guess its a stress reliever for them too.

Kerry - posted on 01/08/2010

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Today I tried the let him cry thing, and my poor little guy had freezing cold toes. I felt sooooooooooo rotten. Had I investigated the situation before thinking he was just having a tantrum, I would have realized he did have a problem. He is 8 months old, and tends to have tantrums and sometimes I let him cry sometimes I don't. Do whats right for you and don't do things just cause someone else makes a comment.

Becky - posted on 01/08/2010

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Everybody will have their own opinion on the "Cry it out method". You are not being mean or a bad mom when you let her cry.

For me that did not work for either of my boys. My first son is 4 now and I never let him cry it out when he was a baby. I rocked him to sleep and he has been putting himself to sleep for the past 3 1/2 yrs now. I am doing the same with my 2nd son that is 8 months now and if he wakes in the middle of the night; I give him his pacifier and he soothes himself back to sleep.

Let your family know that you are the parent and not them. It is your decision how to raise your child.

Desiree - posted on 01/08/2010

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I didnt do the cry it out method with my third child. What happened was she only wanted to sleep with me and had to kick daddy out the bed till she was 3 yrs old. Shes now 5 and still has to have big sis sleep with her. The longer you wait the harder it will be to get the child to his own bed. All babies are different. We just have to find out through trial and error whats best for ours. I would let my child cry it out. But when he starts getting hysterical and cant breath is tooo much. Dont get me wrong, we co slept with all our children {I have 5} There's nothing wrong with it. And there certainly is nothing wrong with letting a child cry for a lil bit in her crib. its good for them to learn how to comfort themselves at times. But in the end you are the childs mother. If people want to tell you to go get your child or if they get your child, tell them nice and simple "I dont want her to be picked up when she cries right away." And if they disregard you tell them Shes going to get to used to being picked up at the first cry, and she will expect it at all times, and sometimes im not able to, And if it continues that they will have the responsibility to tend to them when they are fussy at ALL times. I told my husbands family that and they stopped running for every little cry

Sally - posted on 01/08/2010

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My first son is 3 now and I did not let him "cry it out" to fall asleep. And he is not a child who throws fits to get his own way either. I don't think this behaviour comes from sleep training.
And yes, I agree that children learn from patterns. So if you continuously ignore your child when they are crying out for you, then yes they will learn that you aren't always going to be their protector. You are their parent and this is your job.

Sally - posted on 01/08/2010

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Yes! A child needs to feel safe and secure. There is no reason to let a baby cry. This is not an effective way to "train" babies to fall asleep on their own. Everyone learns to sleep on their own at some point, there is no need to rush it.
If your baby is crying for more than 5 minutes...she needs to be comforted. If only to hear your voice, or to maybe just feel your hand on them. They need to know that you will be there if they need you.

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it's totally up to you and how you plan to parent. I do not believe in the "cry it out" method and don't think babies cry to be manipulative. I think if you let them cry you are teaching them you won't be there for them when they need you, but this is just me.


~Seriously? You think you're teaching your baby that you're not going to "be there for them" if you don't pick them up when they cry? Babies are not manipulative, but they learn in patterns. If they cry and you pick them up, they will cry when they want you to pick them up. If you give them candy when they cry they will cry till you give them candy.... You as a parent have to set a routine and stick with it. Babies "cry it out" in an effort to learn to sooth themselves without having to rely on the parent to do it for them, it's a learning process. But if you want to raise a child that throws fits and demands attention, that's you.

Michelle - posted on 01/07/2010

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I have always rocked my children to sleep its the way I chose to do it, I've done it for all 4 of my kids and it stops when ever they no longer wont me to do it for them, And U do it how ever u feel, Like many have said she's your daughter and its up to u how u parent

Denise - posted on 01/07/2010

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Tell your family to read a few sleep training books! First off your family should not be offering up opinions on the way you choose to parent unless it is harming the baby. And letting her cry for 5, 10 or 20 minutes is not bad - it is simply a choice of how you wish to train your daughter to soothe herself. As you have read, opinions vary widely on ways to teach your babies to sleep at night. Personally I think you need to decide officially what you are trying to accomplish with letting your baby cry and then advise your family to respect your decision and your plan - whatever it may be. Stick to your plan - tough as it will be. It is unfortunate that you have to manage your family as well as your daughter!! Hang in there.

Heidi - posted on 01/07/2010

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Quoting Jessica:

Is it bad if you put a baby in a crib and they cry for more than 5min?....

I live with my family and every time I put my daughter in her crib and she cries for more than 5min I get bitched at. I wanted to know if it is honestly that bad even when I go in and calm her down.



I used to let my son cry and it worked, then my mother in law told me It would traumatise him and i should lay next to him instead. I now have to lay next to him for a bout half an hour every night  until he is asleep.

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Babies have different cries. If your baby has a grizzly, tired cry then it's possibly just their way of getting themselves off to sleep. Sometimes that'll change to a more distressed cry - at that point it's worth checking on them, their nappy may be soiled or they might be hungry or they may have dropped their teddy or whatever. My baby has a third cry (I called it her pissed off cry) where she works herself up so much it's not worth leaving her. I get her up and try a nap agian in 1/2 an hour or so after a snack and a play. My advice is to try a few things and see what works for you. Be firm with your family - unless they are the ones raising your baby it's not really their call what you do.

Kara - posted on 01/07/2010

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My daughter almost always fusses for a few minutes before falling asleep. That is some babys' way of soothing themselves. Trust your instincts- she's your baby.

Kim - posted on 01/07/2010

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Everyone has an opionion on this issue. I am a single working mother and I think it is okay to let your baby cry. My son was great for a long time, I put him down and he would go right to sleep. Then all of a sudden he started crying. I picked him up at first then decided I needed to have the control so I started letting him cry. It was awful at first but it got better. He now goes right to sleep. This crying did not start until he was about 7 months old. I would not recommend it for a very small baby. It took a little over a week for me. The first night he cried for an hour. After 1/2 hour I did go in and give him his pacifier tell him it was okay but did not pick him up. The second night it was shorter and so on. He still loves me and has not been traumatized.

Krystal - posted on 01/07/2010

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it's totally up to you and how you plan to parent. I do not believe in the "cry it out" method and don't think babies cry to be manipulative. I think if you let them cry you are teaching them you won't be there for them when they need you, but this is just me.

Ashley - posted on 01/07/2010

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Letting a baby cry is simply teaching them to sooth themselves. It is by no means bad. you are not being a bad mom.. You are being a GREAT one. Every expert and doctor will say the same. Most doctors say let them cry at least 15 to 20 mins before you try calming them down. If your child cried for more than 20 mins i would just go in tell her it is okay (not picking the child up) and turn on the mobil. Eventually the child will understand you are there, but are not going to pick him/her up. Once a child hits 6 months they start the " i want it my way" and that's when you really need to stand by your decision.

Amber - posted on 01/07/2010

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I tried the cry it out method a few times because my husband thought it was rediculous for me to rock my baby girl to sleep.. i sat in the room next to her crying more than her.. i couldn't do it (it was also the first few weeks after she was born...so that could be why i cried) However0 now at nights I feed her a bottle she falls asleep and I put her down in her crib and she is good1 Her nap time she could be awake and I just keep going back in to give her her pasifier (and she has a blanket at nap time..that i put back on her) eventually she goes to sleep.. Is she tired when you are putting her down? If my daughter isn't tired she will really cry..

Kerry - posted on 01/07/2010

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Wow,,,,everyone tells me to let my boy cry. Usually he wants something or is tired if hes crying, but Jessicas right in that if its cause everyone picks her up right away, letting her cry for a bit will get her used to waiting a bit. you are not being mean

Melissa - posted on 01/07/2010

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If your baby learns that everytime she cries for a certain amount of time you will pick her up then she will continue to do this. Stay strong and don't listen to others unless you solicite their advice! You need to do what's best for YOUR child, every mom feels something different about the subject, I (once I knew they are fed, changed, and ok) let them cry it out!

Anneka - posted on 01/07/2010

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I put my daughter in her cot and then sit next to it on the floor if she starts crying. Once she is settling with me there I then move away towards the door but still on the floor (this normally takes about 6min) this way she can still see me. Then once she is settled I then leave the room. This worked with both of mine.

Qi - posted on 01/07/2010

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It seems everyone recommend to let baby cry. I always rock my son to sleep. For some reason, I feel my son will not feel secure if I ignore him before he goes to sleep. He seem appreciate what I did for him. He rarely wake me up in the morning unless he is really hungry. I have never train him to sleep through the night. In another word, I always response his request at night in the last 7 months. Until one night, he just sleep through the night himself and wake me up after 7am. Sometimes, I woke up early to find out what time he wakes up. I realized that he wakes up around 6ish but he does not wake me up until later. He plays with his pillow until mommy's up.

Jessica - posted on 01/06/2010

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Hi. Like you, I got bitched at for my letting my son cry to sleep, in which everyone else ran to him and picked him up and coddled him etc. Which turned out to be harder for me when he got older (He's now 2) My daughter is 8 months old and we let her cry and it is working out to be in our favour, she is easy to put down and doesn't expect to be picked up and cuddled. I feel you are doing the right thing. Your family need to realise that this is your child and your way of parenting.

Gemma - posted on 01/06/2010

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Its not bad at all. I put my daughter in her crib during the day when she starts showing signs of tiredness (g.e rubbing her eyes or ears, looking tired not wanting to play with her toys etc) but i dont at night because its to hott atm (i live in cairns aust.) Its fine to do so aslong as she tired. i dont do it anylonger then 10 -15 mins,

Stefanie - posted on 01/06/2010

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Like the other mothers have suggested, there is nothing wrong with letting her "cry it out". Most of that is just exhaustion when it gets to that point and they don't know how to express it. Make sure you are able to listen out for her, you'll know (as her mom) when it changes from simply crying it out to really just needing her mom. Also, don't feel like you're "giving in" and spoiling her if you feel like you need to intervene and give her a break in her crying. When cries become screams, it's not good for anyone. But babies memories are very selective when it comes to things like this... She's still going to love you in the morning when she sees you and won't remember the ordeal from the night before. It'll get better the more you do it, she'll start to get used to it and give in to routine. Good luck, hope this helps! :0)

Rachel - posted on 01/06/2010

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ur not a bad mum i live with his parents they dont like me doing her routine but she is your daughter you do it how you know my nieace was rockted to sleep and was still rockted until 2yr old and wouldnt sleep in her bed so i am strict not to rock my daughter to sleep i put her down at 8pm after her last feed she crys for 10mins but falls asleep aslong as they are clean dry full winded then let them cry they have to learn to soothe them selfs to sleep and that the cot is her bed or it will only get worse learn them well younger to teach routine dont let anyone tell you your a bad mum you brought her into the world dont let anyone tell you what to do because youll only hold the guilt xxx

Lindsey - posted on 01/06/2010

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when my son gets really tired he dont want to be held or anything so i have to just lay him in there and let him cry himself to sleep

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