Is it bad if you put a baby in a crib and they cry for more than 5min?....

Jessica - posted on 01/05/2010 ( 60 moms have responded )

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I live with my family and every time I put my daughter in her crib and she cries for more than 5min I get bitched at. I wanted to know if it is honestly that bad even when I go in and calm her down.

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Gemma - posted on 01/06/2010

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Its not bad at all. I put my daughter in her crib during the day when she starts showing signs of tiredness (g.e rubbing her eyes or ears, looking tired not wanting to play with her toys etc) but i dont at night because its to hott atm (i live in cairns aust.) Its fine to do so aslong as she tired. i dont do it anylonger then 10 -15 mins,

Stefanie - posted on 01/06/2010

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Like the other mothers have suggested, there is nothing wrong with letting her "cry it out". Most of that is just exhaustion when it gets to that point and they don't know how to express it. Make sure you are able to listen out for her, you'll know (as her mom) when it changes from simply crying it out to really just needing her mom. Also, don't feel like you're "giving in" and spoiling her if you feel like you need to intervene and give her a break in her crying. When cries become screams, it's not good for anyone. But babies memories are very selective when it comes to things like this... She's still going to love you in the morning when she sees you and won't remember the ordeal from the night before. It'll get better the more you do it, she'll start to get used to it and give in to routine. Good luck, hope this helps! :0)

Rachel - posted on 01/06/2010

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ur not a bad mum i live with his parents they dont like me doing her routine but she is your daughter you do it how you know my nieace was rockted to sleep and was still rockted until 2yr old and wouldnt sleep in her bed so i am strict not to rock my daughter to sleep i put her down at 8pm after her last feed she crys for 10mins but falls asleep aslong as they are clean dry full winded then let them cry they have to learn to soothe them selfs to sleep and that the cot is her bed or it will only get worse learn them well younger to teach routine dont let anyone tell you your a bad mum you brought her into the world dont let anyone tell you what to do because youll only hold the guilt xxx

Lindsey - posted on 01/06/2010

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when my son gets really tired he dont want to be held or anything so i have to just lay him in there and let him cry himself to sleep

Charlene - posted on 01/06/2010

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I agree...leaving our babies to "cry it out" as they say, is fine if they are not in any immediate discomfort. I don't know if you have heard of the Baby Whisperer? She suggests that you pick your baby up (almost immediately) when they cry to reassure them, clam them down and the leave (even if it is just to sit down so they can't see you!) If your baby is tired, they will eventually fall asleep...might take a while, but this way, they don't get scared of the crib (as mentioned before!) Bella did the same and would cry when I started to put her sleeping bag on as she knew what was coming! I have also started putting toys in her cot for her to play with...this helps as those toys are not for playing with at any other time...all helps to set the mood! We have gone form a 30-45 min "cry it out" to a 5-10 min "calling" (no distress cry, just wanting to know if there is someone!) then talking to herself and then peacefully falling asleep...I have noticed that on the nights she cries herself to sleep she is more grumpy in the morning (as if she knows what happened!) Good luck!

Kristi - posted on 01/06/2010

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Make sure that she is ok...and then I say let her cry. My 8 month old wasn't sleeping through the night and woke up every time we would lay her down...so one night when we put her down we just let her cry. She cried for about 30-45 min. before she went to sleep. Now she only cries for 5-10 min before she is off to sleep!! There is nothing wrong with letting them cry!!!!

Lauren - posted on 01/06/2010

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Quoting Jessica:

i know that nothing is wrong. its just she is soo used to everyone picking her up as soon as she cries and im trying to slowly break her of it but i keep getting told that im doing something wrong. That by not running to her and picking her up I'm being mean and not a good mom.



Your not mean and not a bad mum. My daughter is nearly 8 months and she is the same. So used to being picked up as soon as she makes a sound. The last week I have been putting her in her cot and letting her cry. I leave her 10mins then go back in there calm her down and then leave her for another 10mins.



Its hard I hate hearing her cry and it makes me feel like i'm not looking after her properly but I no there is nothing wrong with her she just wants to be held.

She is getting better the first few times it took nearly an hour to get sleep and now she only cries about 10 mins. I've also started putting her in her crib during the day with some toys so she gets used to playing in there.



I'm hoping in a week or 2 she will be happy for me to put her in her cot so I can wash my hair in peace!! And learn to go to bed on her own.



Your her Mum everybody else will always have an opinion but you no what is best for her. Good luck!!

Danielle - posted on 01/05/2010

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I started placing my son in the crib so he would learn to put himself to sleep, and he would cry and cry until it had gotten to the point that he was afraid of the crib. Every time I would put him in it he would immediately began to cry hysterically! I talked to the pediatrician about it and she said that sometimes this age babies go through something called separation anxiety, and that it was best that i keep reassuring my son that I was coming back, and to take it a little bit at a time. Try putting her to sleep first, or find another place will soothe other than the crib, at least til she gets past this :)

Jessica - posted on 01/05/2010

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i know that nothing is wrong. its just she is soo used to everyone picking her up as soon as she cries and im trying to slowly break her of it but i keep getting told that im doing something wrong. That by not running to her and picking her up I'm being mean and not a good mom.

Anna - posted on 01/05/2010

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depends on why she is crying is she wet, hungry, cold? if not she is just learning how to get her way. but make sure she is ok before you let her cry. in my children 5 it took them abot a week to not cry and it got less and less each day. i would if they were inconsoleable talk to them but not pick them up. hth

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