Potty Training at 14 months

Chanda - posted on 07/11/2010 ( 103 moms have responded )

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My son will be 14 months old on the 16th of July and we have been potty training for two days. He has been doing great! I put him backwards on the big potty and pour very warm water on his pp and he goes like a pro. Once he has peed in the potty, he knows he gets an animal cracker as a treat. I then set the timer for 15 minutes and take him again. He does so well, he can wear the same pull up all day. He is having a blast. I'd like to hear some other ideas... I'd like to start step two of maybe bowel movement in the potty soon, any suggestions??

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Ricky - posted on 07/14/2010

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For those who are saying its too young. In my case my 14th month old hates diaper changes and is starting to pull at his diaper when they are wet or poopy. He has hit all his milestones early so I feel that he is ready to start learning. And as a SAHM if I can stop spending money on diapers and start spending it on more food or activities with my son I'll be more than happy to do so.

Jody - posted on 07/13/2010

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My granddaughter is now 14 months old and my daughter is potty training her. She started at 12 months when she kept whipping off her diaper and protesting when she had to pee. She didn't like it. She didn't like it even when she was an itty bitty baby to be wet! My daughter's heard all the BS about it isn't good for her from WIC to her pediatrician to what was her future sister-in-law insulting her telling her she was "emotionally damaging her child". I would like to know how it is good for a child that will stand up in her crib and cry because she hates being wet as soon as she pees? And whips off her diaper?



My kids are 15 and 22 and they both were different. One was potty trained at about 18 months (my oldest) and my youngest around 2 because she had some medical issues. When a child dislikes being wet to the point it is upsetting it is far better to try seeing if potty training will improve how they feel.



Our personal results are my granddaughter LOVES it. She even wakes up from a nap to go potty and during the night as well (and goes right back to sleep-when she was in diapers she didn't sleep as well). Of course she does get upset if she forgets or might have drank too much(and beware playing in water-they WILL pee!)-but that is NORMAL. All these so-called experts and studies out now cannot compare to hundreds of years of women being mothers and raising children. You and only you truly know when your child is ready. If you have the time and effort to devote to it then go for it and enforce it with others who interact with your child (daycare or even grandma or grandpa and especially DAD!) because consistency is important.



I do believe every 15 minutes is a lot and for some children may end in a lot of frustration(it would with my granddaughter) but that is why you learn what works for your child through trial and error. If they get so distressed to the point they cry a lot, fear the bathroom and/or potty, or get mad, then they aren't ready.



Oh and for you ladies with girls-what always helped is taking the girls in the potty with me-they would see I would sit down and my daughter did the same, and TALK to your child. Explain to them what it is, why we use it, and what it is for. Give her the TP to wipe herself, show her how to do it. Of course you really do it yourself, but it becomes a skill they become proud of and become self-sufficient. There are even potty books you can buy. I don't believe a child is ever too young to learn anything if a parent is willing to teach. I am not an expert, I am just a Mom with 2 girls and a lot of nieces and nephews and helping friends with their kids (boys and girls) and a beautiful baby granddaughter :)



Congrats on making it work!

Amanda - posted on 07/11/2010

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You take him every 15 min.? Do you pour water over his penis every time? Does he go every time? It just seems to me like a lot of urinating and/or monotony.... Where did you hear about this method or get this idea?

I'm curious because I've never heard of this being done before, especially so often. I have a little girl who was born 5/16 also, but I'm sure the same principles would apply and depending on the details might be interested in trying a variation of what you are doing.

We try every hour or so and have the plastic pants to wear instead of a diaper so that she can feel when she is wet. She definitly knows when she has to poop because she always heads to the same spot...so when I can catch her I'll take her to sit on the potty. So far she holds it until I put a diaper on...and I would never force her to sit on the toilet and don't ask her to for more than a few minutes at a time...she's way to mobile and not only would get bored, but I wouldn't want her to start to associate the potty as a negative thing.

Sarah - posted on 07/14/2010

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I am cracking up at the people who think this is way too young and emotionally damaging! Is accomplishing a new skill damaging? Is keeping nasty waste off your skin harmful? ;)
I wish I had more energy to invest in my son in this area. Would love to put less diapers in the landfills, and keep his skin more well-cared for. And save money! ;)
I do think the idea of warm water sounds like a good one and may try it... If I have time. :)

Meagan - posted on 07/11/2010

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thank you. I've been trying to figure out how to potty train as far as peeing goes. My little man has been doing great with pooping. As soon as we see him grunting, we run him to the bathroom and let him sit there as long as he needs to, and when he finishes, he turns around to flush the toilet. I'll clap for him, and he knows he's doing something good and right, praise works on it's own for us.

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Melissa - posted on 08/28/2010

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my daughter is detting the concept of the potty. i started her off every mornining as she wake. den i leave her in panties and i try my best to put her like every 30mins. if i dont and she wants to go u would see her bringing the potty for me sometimes by the time she gets to me she already pee the floor. she has the concept which is important so i good with that i like the idea of the bell

Charlotta - posted on 08/05/2010

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My daughter is fourteen months and goes on the potty on her own now. Sometimes she forgets and has accidents, but then that's really my fault as I didn't remember to remind her. She really enjoys it and actually tries to take her diaper off, if she is wearing one, to go potty.
My friend's son was potty-trained at eighteen months and he inspired us to give it a try when my daughter showed interest in using the potty. So much for "way to young". If they want to do it, there's nothing wrong with giving a little effort to make it work for them. And as for "What's wrong with having them wear a diaper?" Would you like to wear a diaper all day?

Nicole - posted on 08/05/2010

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my son's 15 months old and we've been working on potty training for probably a week & a half now. We have his little potty chair in our living room so that way he can see it and doesnt have to go looking for it. He actually will walk over to his potty chair and pull the lid up to let me know he has to go potty. I usually then run over and put him on the potty and he will go instantly and then he gets all excited and starts clapping. I don't give him anything for going on the potty just because I don't want him thinking when he's like 5 that he still gets a reward. We just clap and tell him good job! And if he doesn't let me know he has to go potty ill ask him every so often (maybe like hourly) if he has to go peepee and ill put him on it and he usually will go instantly. As long as he is going and getting the hang of it, I'm going to keep up with it. The younger they are the easier it is to teach them.

Simone - posted on 08/02/2010

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Well done ladies! My boy is 14 month and altho im a full time student id love to potty train him!!! awesome advice!!! and as for all the negative people out there, this lady was asking advice on how to help her son learn to do poos on the potty not for your opinion on how you think its so wrong to potty train a 14month old....each child is different and if he they anything like my 14 month old, he is extremely advanced and an early starter on all things except getting teeth so DONT JUDGE! each to their own....i think seeing my step son who is 2 and 4 months still in nappies is gross, and lazy on the moms part who is a stay at home mom!!!

Sara - posted on 08/01/2010

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My pediatrician has recommended emptying dirty diapers into the potty so our little ones can see where that goes. I haven't tried yet.

Mea - posted on 07/25/2010

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I believe this is WAY too early also... but my reasoning is, you're going through a lot of time and energy... is changing their diapers really that bad?... sounds like you are all training yourselves... not so much your children. If your having fun and so are they, I see no problem. But I work full time and when I am home, I don't want to watch every expression and every move my kid makes to figure out when I have to take them to the bathroom. I potty trained my son when he was almost three. It took less than a week. By that time, he understood the whole concept of using the toilet, and I haven't hardly had to worry about it ever. I'm not going to waste my time with that headache... I'd rather change the diaper, and get on with some playtime with my babies.

Ali - posted on 07/25/2010

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I applaud you girls for your patience!!! My first born was just over 2 and toilet trained herself. I will be waiting until my 14 month old is older and ready. He isn't walking yet either so crawling and managing pants etc just would be too much. The other issue I have is my first born is nearly 3 and the smallest undies are too big for her, I can't imagine jocks fitting my 1 year old!!

Congrats on your hard work!

Carolyn - posted on 07/25/2010

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I agree with Julie it just seems way to young. They are not able to hold their bladder at this age and the doctor would agree. Is his diaper or pull up wet through the night at all? When you try and force it they will just regress at this young age. You will just know that they are ready

Ashley - posted on 07/24/2010

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My eldest was fully potty trained at 22mos with no extra assistance from us. He just decided he wanted to pee on the potty and had about 5 accidents after that and has never peed in the bed. I don't believe you can "make" your child train any sooner than he would other wise. It's not something they learn particularly by us teaching them, its something that sort of clicks in their brains. My ped said there is a chemical, sort of switch, that clicks and they can then hold their urine. My 14mo wakes up dry all the time, do I potty train him yet, no...it's just what has clicked upstairs. He'll let me know when the time is right. My 3.5yo daughter still has accidents and it's perfectly normal. Some learn earlier than others.

Fatima - posted on 07/24/2010

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my 14 moth seems so young to me for anything...he is such an active child....n i have still not tried for potty trainibg....m not sure how would he react....should i try every 15 mins??? i dont think he pees every 15 mins...suggest me how to try for a hyper active, stubborn child....my stubborn little angel...

Heather - posted on 07/24/2010

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Actually just read an article in Parents Magazine that says starting them about 14 months may be a better idea, as they older they get the more used to "holding" or "fighting the urge" occurs and they may be harder to actually potty train. And yes, I do believe it had several quotes from the American Pediatrics Association for the lady that said everyone was crazy to start that young. They are REVISING their suggestions all the time, visit their actual website, and don't just rely on your pediatrician (who MAY not be keeping up as well as you think with the literature!)

Jean - posted on 07/23/2010

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wow i'm so impressed with your son!! i haven't even begun to start thinking about potty training!!

Rebecca - posted on 07/22/2010

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This is so interesting getting all these different theories on potty training!!. Personally I think you need to do waht suits you and your child and not start at a "certain time". Dont get angry with people that dont happen to do it your way ladies!! we are all different - just like our kids xxx :)

Qi - posted on 07/21/2010

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I came from China. All kids started potty training since 3 months old. By 18 months they are all fully trained. My son started at 3 months old but I stopped it due to my second pregnancy and hands surgery. I am going to do it again as he is 14 months now.

Michelle - posted on 07/21/2010

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Really??? Run a baby into a bathroom every 15 min? Try spending come cuddle time reading a story and playing.

Jeni - posted on 07/21/2010

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My daughter is 14 months and she is definitely getting it! First, I let her come into the bathroom with me. The first couple times I noticed her squatting, I grabbed her-asking her if she needed to go to the bathroom-and then put her on the toilet. She was so happy-she waved and said goodbye to it. She also waved to it after flushing the toilet. Using the same technique, she will now start to squat even when she just has to urinate, and does the same farewell to the liquid she can barely see! :) I have since gotten her a potty her own size, and she will go to it, or drag it out of the bathroom sometimes when she needs to go, or take my hand and walk me to the bathroom and point to it. I don't enforce it, but spend a little time everyday on it, and while ideally I would LOVE for her to he trained already, she is enjoying it so I don't want to pressure her. As for some of you who have multiple kids, my cousin was trained by the time she was 10 months because she was around older kids and wanted to do what they did. That being said, I suggest you let your child see what the other kid(s) are doing. Peer 'pressure/influence' can be a blessing!

Amanda - posted on 07/21/2010

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14 mos really I was told by my public health nurse they don't even understand...sure u sit them there every couple of minutes or whatever sure your gonna get lucky and they're going to go but they're mind isn't ready to get the concept my child is very advanced and I don't believe she's ready to be trained yet not til at least 18 mos

Meagan - posted on 07/21/2010

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It is Never to early to start potty training. If your child is not showing signs of wanting to use the potty or not wanting to were dipers then they are probley not ready. Start training when they are ready, not when you are ready. My daughter will be 14 months on the 23rd. She isn't even walking yet, but if she starts showing sings that she wants to potty then I will start training, but until then she will be whereing dipers and I will be changing her bum! Again....Start when the child is ready!!!

Mikayla - posted on 07/20/2010

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Wow, you people are nuts. Most babies that age won't even eat with a spoon, and can't even walk. What's the point of *teaching* them to use a potty if they can't even WALK to it yet?!

Jelena - posted on 07/20/2010

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Well, first, I was looking for "signs" when he looks like he will go, now, we are going when he wakes up in the morning or after naps, and after meals(when I worked in childcare this is also when we would ask children to go and try to use the potty), so , no big deal, and how do you know that they don't want to use the potty, I never saw any signs of him being unhappy when on potty, and the other children up there in comments that don't like going in the diapers any more(my opinion is that girls come out of diapers sooner since they don't want to get them self "dirty" and pee or poo on them self. You know your child best and you follow his clues, sometimes they just can't communicate their needs and you need to be there for them, offer choices and help the transitions.

Tabitha - posted on 07/20/2010

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My DD is 14 months, and I am not even thinking of potty training her yet. Parents today are in too much of a rush to turn their babies into adults. Let them be babies, for heaven's sake! OOH-the Diaper Industry has a conspiracy-so cloth diaper if that is how you feel. Babies should be able to be babies! If you are taking him to the potty every 15 minutes, then YOU are the one that is trained-he is not!

Jelena - posted on 07/20/2010

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I like the idea of sign potty training since it helps children communicate the need to go potty even before they start talking.
http://www.pottytrainwithbabysigns.com/d...
And here is some good observation, it's about the age of children when they were potty training before and now, since disposable diapers are invented(I was potty trained at 9 months since my mom used cloth diapers, and I would wear one of disposable ones-that were very expensive at that time, only when we would go to guests or stores). I started my baby boy on a potty when he was 7 months old, just because he saw a potty at our friends house and wanted to sit there(saw their kid sitting), from that time, until 11 months he was using portable potty, and after just the seat on the real toilet. Sometimes he goes in first couple of minutes, sometimes we sit even for 40minutes but not because he is forced but because he is showing no interest in getting up, we are reading books at that time. I had to start with the "timer" idea, but for how long we will stay at the potty at one time, like 10 minutes because he would just stay there and read with me. Anyway, good luck to everyone, how ever and when ever they decide to help their children in potty area.

Desiree - posted on 07/20/2010

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ever since I got re inspired w these posts we went back to potty training full force and it has been very successful! As many as 7 times in one day!! I tried sitting him backward on the toilet but he didn't seem too comfortable so I put the 'potty insert' on the toilet and it works great and he likes sitting there better than the potty chair which makes since bc that's where he sees me sit! I also do a little 'light show' with the lights and night light and sing a song when he has success.... He loves it! I did the warm water for the first 2 days just to get him to relax and now he rarely needs it! I ask him every hr or we go when he pulls me to the bathroom. I never make him go and sometimes he is dry, sometimes he is not but I don't stress or make a big deal about that yet. One thing at a time! But, on another note... Ahs anyone seen training pants small enough yet? The smallest I've found are 2T and they are huge on my little guy! Thanks!

Monica - posted on 07/19/2010

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Sorry I just cant get over the water on the penis to make em pee. that is forcing your child!! Let them do it naturally. When they are ready it wont take long for them to TT. Im not against TT early if you think your baby is ready but come on making them Pee every 15mins does sound crazy to me

as for saving money and the planet. Try CLOTH nappies!! No chemicals, no bin full off stinky diapers that take hundreds of years to break down. put all that tt effort into cloth nappies its well worth it.

and lots of babies dont like being changed. work around it. i sing to my lil man it seems to help.

Vivian - posted on 07/19/2010

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Thank you all so much. I have been debating when to start but this Saturday, I purchased a potty for my twins. They were born on the 10th of May. They still haven't said pee pee or poo poo. I am most definitely going to try the warm water on my son. As for my daughter... I am not so sure.

Elizabeth - posted on 07/19/2010

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I prasie the mothers that have success with potty training their children this young. Faith was born 5-8-09, and shows no interest in the toilet. I have tried to have her sit on it, but she tries playing in the water. I have also tried a potty chair: she stands and flips it. She does not like to be wet, though. She gets mad if I don't change her quick enough.

We need to remember though, don't force your children to do things. With each gereation, we try harder and harder to have our children grow up faster. My sisters and I were all trained at 2, and my husband and his brothers were trained by 3.

My cousin tried training her oldest daughter at 1 year. She was low income and trying to go to college, so she thought to save money would to be to potty train. She didn't have money for a potty chair, and refused to accept any that were offered to her. Her daughter was so scared of the toilet that she begain to hold it. She was constantly getting bladder infections and wetting her pants, that my cousin stopped. Things went back to normal. She tried again when her baby was 2. She peed successfully, but refused to go poo. Needless to say, the little girl wound up in the hospital because she became so bound up. It took several hospitalizations and turning 4 for things to become normal. Her doctor told her that no matter what one believes or feels, a child knows when they are ready. She was told to watch for signs and to not follow the hype, surveys, and studies. Her doctor said that if all that was true, EVERYONE would have picked up on it a long time ago.
My cousin is now a RN with 4 children. The last 3 were completely potty trained by the time they had their 3 yr well child visits.
Needless to say, if your child is ready, fine, but I agree with my cousin's doctor: raise your kids as you see fit, don't raise them to how others want them raised. If you feel they are ready, fine, but don't push them.

Kati - posted on 07/19/2010

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My daughter is 14 months, and for a few weeks she had been holding her BMs until she got in the bath, because she hates having dirty diapers. So I decided to go and try a potty, even thought I thought it was too early. So one night when she started grunting in the tub, I set her on it. Now every night in the tub she says Up Up so she can go poo on the potty. She just started peeing on it two nights ago, but she adores it.

Kristin - posted on 07/18/2010

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when you think that they are about to go number 2 im put my litttle one on the potty and she will go and now she will tell us pa te lol my little one will be 15 months august 9th

Amanda - posted on 07/18/2010

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Chanda, how is the potty training going???

I love all the positive feedback and support this thread is recieving!!!

To the ladies that say 14 months is too early ...why? and to those who are "old fashioned" and want to wait longer...thats not old fashioned. Back in the day most kids were potty trained earlier. I'm 27 and I was potty trained at 11 months, through the night and everything. My younger sister was trained by a year. My mother used cloth diapers when I was little and a month after I was able to walk, I was fully trained. Thats still pretty common in countries where disposable diapers aren't as available or cloth is used more. Children can non-verbally communicate their wants before 2 or 3 ...waiting that long really is only necessary if your child truly isn't ready or if you just aren't able to pay close attention to your children's cues (if you work full time). Saying "I'm going to wait until my child can tell me they have to pee" really doesn't do any good. At that point you are pretty much waiting for your child to potty train themselves and leaving it to them to figure out when they have to pee...instead of training them to pay attention to what their bodies are telling them.

That being said~I'm not trying to get on a soap box or anything. I started my son at 18 months and he didn't get the hang of it until after he was 3. He is almost 6 now and still has night time accidents every once in awhile. That apparently runs in my family, mainly in boys, but I have several uncles, cousins, etc. that had accidents into their pre-teens.

Good luck to all of you and I hope everything goes smoothly no matter when you decide to train!!!

Taira - posted on 07/18/2010

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My daughter will watch me use the potty but hasn't shown ant signs of being ready. She doesn't mind being wet and is a stealth pooper! She makes no noise, no faces, you can only tell because of the smell LOL. I might pick up one of those little compostable potties so she can see it and get used to it. I worry about her playing with it though, like her bath toys, not a habit I want to encourage.

Olleka - posted on 07/18/2010

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Wow! I'm glad i came across this post! I wasn't sure when i should start. Both myself and my husband work full time so i'll probably start after i have my second baby which is due late August. I was planning on getting a toilet seat and skipping the potty altogether. I'd like to see some more posts if anyone is doing this!
Well done to the mums who have put it in motion so far!

Marie - posted on 07/17/2010

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i dont know why i thought 14 months was to early to b training my son but i think ima try what u just said and i will b sure to let u know if it works. thanks

Gretchen - posted on 07/17/2010

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My daughter will be 14 months the 29th, and loves using the potty. There have been times she refuses to go poop in her diaper while on a road trip, and we pull over for her to use the potty at the nearest fast food restaurant. She has never been forced to go potty. When she sees me go, she tries to take her diaper off and and wants me to get off. We have a potty seat, as well as a potty. She poops twice a day, and pees occasionally. Clapping, and praising works with her. The little potty sings when she goes, and she claps for herself as well.

To the Mothers potty training before the "ready point" (there is no such thing) good for you. Every child is different and you should NEVER let anyone tell you how to raise your child.

I am also a "child development expert" ( meaning...i have a BS degree in child development) and have worked in the field for 10 plus years. All of the education in the world, along with the numerous books out there could never prepare you for the trials and tribulations of parenthood. Just do what you believe is right. There will always be a few negative people in the circle of friends and family (or on the message boards), but who cares!
Good luck to everyone:)

Stephanie - posted on 07/17/2010

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Really potty training at 14 months... My 14 month has just started walking. I maybe a tad old fashion, but I think a child should potty trained a little older than 14 months. Is something just being forced?

Heather - posted on 07/17/2010

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We started potty training our daughter when she was able to sit up on her own, we use a regular tolit and accutally have a lid that has 2 seats, a big on and a little one... We never force her to go, but she enjoys sitting on the potty and going very, very seldomly do I have to change a poopy diper any more and about half the time she tells me that she has to go by going to the bathroom, she has just recently started pointing to her dipar when she has to go to the pee... In my opinion once you get to the negitive age of 2-4 it gets harder to get them to try something new.... My doctor has always been compleatly supportive of her potty training and very complimentry of it. In many other countries you hardly ever see toddlers in diapers, there is just no money for it so they potty train earlier than us.... I don't see how it is wrong or harmful to the children, it is done all over the world and children are just fine.... As to everything each mother has her own ways and own ideas on what is best.

Michaela - posted on 07/17/2010

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Boys can take longer then girls to toilet train. They have to know in their minds when they go to the toilet you iniate isnt really toilet training and the older your start the more they understand the concept as anything under 18mths is way too young. Ive got over 10yrs in childcare and it a long process and the later you start it more successful. Or unless the child is more sensitive with going to the bathroom and they are aware that they need to go sure then starting earlier then 18mths but they are still babies. Winter is always the worst time to start, when its hotter you can have them in undies and they can feel when they wet etc
But saying that each parent has their way of parenting and each parent has their own opinion and goals for their child.

Mel - posted on 07/16/2010

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I am interested in what you are doing regarding the EC. Does this just imply saying poo or pee when changing their diapers? My son recently turned 14 months (born 5-10-09). My nephew wasn't potty trained until just before his 3rd birthday. I was thinking (secretly hoping) that my son would be trained by 2 at the latest. He picks up on things pretty quickly. I'm thinking now might be a good time to try. Can someone provide more details on "EC"? Also what is your opinion on what potty to use? I was thinking of just buying the insert for the big potty so he can make a better association.

Melanie - posted on 07/16/2010

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i have never used a potty for any of my 5 kids that are toilet trained, they all have gone straight onto the toilet, i did have a little seat thing that sat on the toilet for the first 3 but the last 2 they didnt use it.... i always thought that it would be like re training them again from the potty to the toilet.....

Kathryn - posted on 07/16/2010

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I'd love ideas from anyone who's potty-trained boy/girl twins! My twins were 14 months old on the 14th and I am pregnant, due February 14, 2011, with a suspected second set of twins (We find out on August 3rd if the Dr. is right again this time)! My goal has always been to have them trained by 18 months, so long as they aren't completely opposed. But yes, any ideas would be great on how to balance the two of them... Should I consider doing one at a time and hope the other will want to follow suit?

Jody - posted on 07/16/2010

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My granddaughter's doctor is well aware that she is being potty trained, said his opinion (which he felt was too young, my daughter disagrees, it's her child, end of story). Parenting does not come with a book, not all experts and studies are accurate or can apply to every child, and instinct above all else is sometimes more accurate than any survey. You will know your child better than any healthcare worker, childcare worker, or anyone else because they are your child and you spend more time observing them than anyone else. We do not use the water method because that isn't going to work on a girl and she has to know when she has to go. Boys are different and I don't have an opinion there except for the fact all of my nephews learned by watching their fathers (they were lucky to have them around-many boys now do not have that).

Way back (20+ years ago) pouring water on to go was the method used as help for the patient who had problems-not against their will, not as a violation, but as a procedure that was approved of by their physicians and nurses used it to assist those with bladder problems. It was not used by (good) nurses who didn't have the time or patience to wait for the patient (which it sounds like in the case of the woman who got fired and reported for abuse). I saw this many times in the nursing home where I trained as a young nurse and many MANY times what I saw was beyond a violation and abusive, hence why I no longer have continued in that industry. I am not sure if they still do it today in nursing homes, but I know they DO still do it when someone has bladder issues or other issues that complicate urination (which if waste elimination did not occur it would result in bladder and other infection-that was the case for my daughter, not in the case of potty training so this does not apply to that) When my daughter had problems after having my granddaughter it was also advised by her physician to help her go without pain or burning when she had a 3rd degree tear from her delivery.

Schmoopy - posted on 07/16/2010

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In my experience, training at that age is usually not effective - it's the parents who learn to recognize signs that the baby needs to go rather than the baby telling the parents s/he needs to go.

When I tried to train my now 7-year-old daughter at 20 months, she could go on the potty but wasn't interested in keeping up with it. A very long battle ensued, and we didn't totally work out the potty training thing until she was 4. I regret starting so young. I think if I had waited maybe it wouldn't have been such a long road for us.

That said, I'm sure you'll find your own way. Whatever works for you!

Aimee - posted on 07/16/2010

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We've been putting our daughter on the potty since she was 7 months and she knows to go now at 14 months. She doesn't know not to go in her diaper yet, but she knows to go both in the potty. I haven't changed a poopy diaper in over 2 weeks b/c she always goes in the potty. She has predictable times that she goes, though, like first thing in the morning, so it's also good timing on Mama's part. :-)



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Just adding...we do nothing that could seem like forcing or coercing at all. I just say "go poo-poo" with a smile, and she does. She doesn't get in trouble for going in her diaper, but she does get praised for doing it in the potty and knows when she is doing it. She loves to sit on the potty (we use the Baby Bjorn Little Potty) b/c that is Mama time, when I read books to her. She now does not like it when she goes #2 in her diaper and will fuss if she does (usually on outings when there is no potty available).

Katy - posted on 07/16/2010

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I think your child should tell you when they are ready without you forcing it on them. I know everyone is saying " They are not forced!" but how is a 14 month old or even a 2 year old having any fun during the day or enjoying the wonders of being a child if they are on the potty every 15 minutes?!?
I admire the determination but if you read a lot of these even say that they were not fully trained until 2, guess why!? Because that's when they are READY. Taking a child every 15 minutes isn't them being potty trained it's them being forced to go! You have to pour the water to "MAKE" them go, that's different then them recognizing the feeling of naturally have to go. I wonder if all you have been honest with your doctors about the ways in which you make your child go to the bathroom. I don't think it could be healthy for them to spend their entire day on the toilet.
I used to work in the health field dealing with handicap men and someone once did pour water on them to get them to go and it was viewed as abusive and that person lost their job. Just to throw that out there.

Kelly DiGiovanni - posted on 07/16/2010

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I started training my now 4 year old daughter at 8 months old...She was able to sit up, loved music and books and so we made her potty room the library of sorts. I tried to create a schedule for her in the way of taking her 15 minutes after she ate or drank, and immediately after she woke up from naps. She was out of diapers completely (even over night) before she was 2. I've heard so many people "try" and say that this concept is a bad one, and it's just ABSOLUTELY ridiculous that someone would consider keeping your childs diaper CLEAN 100% of the time, instead of having them sit in urine and poop while they wait for their parents TO smell what they did?...Like a previous poster said..."Less diapers mean LESS Trash in the landfills!!" SO TRUE...and less diapers mean less $$ you spend on diapers...and less Diapers also = a smaller amount of chemicals produced to make the little beads that collect the urine inside the diapers......Sounds good to me :)

Fear is something a baby learns, and is not born with......So when you place a younger child on a potty before they have the fear of what it is, it makes the process easier for both parent and child....less intimidating and the anxiety of it all is basically diminished. They're more comfortable with a bathroom, a potty, and enjoy the time they're in there. We read mostly and don't offer rewards, just lots of hugs n kisses and praise for the great job! Just like with any other milestone!!
I now have a 14 month old boy and we've been training him since about 9 months, because he was a little slower to stand and sit than my daughter, but he's doing great!! ..I'm not anti diapers...I just think if you have the time to try and train early..GO FOR IT!!

Shara - posted on 07/16/2010

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Wow!! My daughter is the exact same age as you son and I feel like we are no where near the starting point!! How often do you put him on the potty, every 15mins. all day?

Kayla - posted on 07/15/2010

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so i read this and thought to myself wow potty training at 14 months seems early my son is actually 14 months on the 20th and im scared to start potty training because everyone i know tells me that hes to young but with my daughter coming in two months i would really like not having to buy diapers for two kids and only one im afraid to start him on the potty yet but good luck to all of u

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Mt son did great on his first day of potty training today but tonight after his bath he wanted a diaper on and said he was done peeing in the potty. Has anyone else gotten the same reaction after the first day and if so what did you do about it? I told my son he could wear a diaper for the rest of the night but tomorrow morning we'll put underwear back on. I gave him a quarter every time he went pee in the potty today and he loved it. Any other suggestions to keep him on track?

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