Tantrums!

Ashleigh - posted on 03/15/2010

My daughter is doing the same thing! Thank goodness there are others!!! LOL! I thought it was just mine, and that I had done something wrong. She is screaming (no tears), hitting, throws her head back into my face( which hurts a lot). I have had a scar on my face for three days now where she clawed me. I am majoring in psychology, and have learned about different phases children go through. Unfortunatly this is one of their phases. I just learned last night that we have (as mothers) a lot more coming too. They say that little girls will be jealous of the mother and try to fight for Daddy's love. This is supposed to end when they turn 5 and then they will feel more of a bond with the mothers. Those of you with boys, they will cling to mom during this phase and be jealous of Dad, fighting him for your affection. :-)

Janessa - posted on 03/13/2010

I am so glad i am not alone on this. My son does so many of things these you other moms are experiencing. At first when he started having tantrums i was very suprise and started to laugh i know that was not the best i was so shocked. Anyways now we are working on his issues.

Sylvie - posted on 03/13/2010

WOW!
Gee, I thought my daughter was bad...(no offense)
She usually lets out this HUGE HIGH PITCH scream that makes anyone just shiver to the sound of her voice.-when she is mad at me for telling her NO(she hates being told no) or taking her away from something she ain't suppose to touch.

Tami - posted on 03/12/2010

ever since my lil girl started walking if she doesnt get her way she throws a huge fit. im sooo glad im not alone she will start crying screaming and dropping herself to the floor today i tried to put pigtails in her hair it took me 30 mins she would not sit still and was flipping out omg and i have another lil girl due june 30th ..........

Andrea - posted on 03/09/2010

My daughter is almost 10 months. She started the tantrum thing a couple of months ago. We think she got it from a boy at daycare because she was doing the exact same thing he does. She would scream and fuss and hit me or my husband if we were holding her or near. With the sceaming, we just ignored her until she realized we weren't going to respond. After a bit, it was over and doesn't happen much anymore. The hitting is harder and still happens sometimes. When she hits, we take her hand and tell her NO firmly, but not yelling at her. Then we show her how to touch nicely. This seems to work. Her hitting is slowly diminishing.

My nephew was a big tantrum thrower!!! The worst!!!! He would do it anywhere. Home, public, in the car. It didn't matter. My mom and I would walk away and pretend like we didn't know him or my sister it was so bad. (Horrible I know). After watching my sister, other advice I can give is do not try to use a soothing tone or give treats/toys. This only made it worse because he knew she'd give him what he wanted. He was in school before he stopped when she finally started to ignore the tantrums and would just act like nothing was wrong. It was tough for her I know but it was all that worked. That's why we're trying this way now.

Meagan - posted on 03/06/2010

My son is about to be 10 months and if he doesn't get picked up as soon as he wants to or if he gets something taken away from him that he's not supposed to have he SCREAMS. Like not just crying but a blood curling scream that always makes me fear that he's going to get CPS called on me and every minute or so he goes up an octave and sound level. It's hard since my parents spoil him so much since we are living with them until we get a place of our own so they undermined me and there's not much I can do about it. My baby or not they still go scoop him up and stick a bottle in his mouth. However when it's just the two of us, or even sometimes when it's not, I'll put him in his crib and tell him that I will pick you up when you stop crying. Sometimes it takes a while but I think it's working (crosses fingers)

Kelli - posted on 03/05/2010

holy crap! i didnt realise kids had tantrums at this early. my daughter doesnt have them (lucky me - for now) and i cant imagine what it would be like. good luck with that! lol

A - posted on 03/05/2010

I'm so glad to read this on a day like me and my son are having today. I'm at my wits end with him. A couple weeks ago I tried (again) to get him to sleep on his own in his crib when he naps, and at night. He wanted to be held all the time and I was tired of it. It went well the first week but then he regressed. He's back to wanting to be held all the time and refuses to sleep by himself in his crib today. I'm so tired of holding him. Especially after these long nights where he doesn't sleep longer than 2 hours at a time. 45 minutes sounds like a blessing to me. He's going on an hour and a half for us right now as I speak. It's exhausting. I feel hopeless and start wondering if he will EVER get over this and if I'll be holding him for the rest of my life. He also does this throughout the day when I take things away that he shouldn't have...he slaps my hand away a lot. Sometimes I end up yelling out of frustration and then I feel bad. Of course it doesn't help now that he can say "mama" either. I feel like the worst mother alive....I just have to turn off my emotions as best I can..

Rac - posted on 03/05/2010

WOW...i realize im not alone. My daughter just turned 9 months a couple days ago but she's been having tantrums from 7 months. She starts crying to be picked and i cant bc im busy so i will put her in her chair. She starts rocking chair, trying to stand up, crying, and throwing her head back (the first time i see her do that i was terrified). I will give her a toy to play with and she throws it at me or kicks me. She doesnt slap me though but the kicks. I try to ignore her but its hard. When i pick her up or feed her shes fine. She's teething also so maybe thats apart of it. But it makes me wonder what did i do wrong and i hope just a phase. She kicks me alot when i try to change her diaper. Exhausting.

Sikelelwa - posted on 03/04/2010

it is such a relief to c i am not alone, i do not know how to handle my little girl either, she is such a drama queen, she has no teeth yet but she likes to bite, lol, maybe there was something in the air when they were born... she does not like to get dressed, what is a mother to do..

Helen - posted on 03/04/2010

My son will be ten months old, and has been throwing tantrums for a few weeks now--usually when I take him away from something he wants(like power cords!), or when I put him in his little corral and he wants to be out, crawling around after me. He kicks his legs and shrieks, then puts his forehead to the floor and his butt goes in the air and he just wails for awhile. I try not to give in but sometimes it gets slightly ridiculous, so I try to distract him with other toys.

Lisa - posted on 03/04/2010

Jayden is my 3rd child and I dont remember the tantrum phase coming so early with the other 2! But yes, he does tantrum especially when I put him down and he wants up! He arches his back and hits his head on the floor when he falls back. Then he kicks his legs and screams in a shrill pitch that makes my ears ring. I think it is part natural, because kids experience the whole range of adult emotions by the age of 2 - this must be confusing for them, poor darlings! BUT I dont think it should be left unaddressed as there are times when discipline is needed to help them bounce back to reality. I find it helps to snap them out of the tantrum, but maybe not so young as 9 months. I tried the other day and Jayden just went even more moggy! I dont think she should be biting herself though, keep an eye on it and if it persists consider seeing the paediatrician. Parenting! If only they were born with manuals :-)

Diana - posted on 03/04/2010

My son is 9.5months and throws tantrums about wanting down, wanting up, not wanting to get dressed, among others. He arches his back, screams/cries, throws his arms around and kicks. I'm assuming that tantrums are a normal thing at this age. I think you just can't let it control your emotions otherwise they learn to get you to do whatever they please. I'm always very calm, collected, and march on with the task at hand...like washing face and hands, putting a toy away, and especially getting dressed(our biggest struggle), etc...all while assuring him that we're almost done and talk him through what we're doing or explain why we have to do what we're doing. I guess it all depends on the situation and how you want to parent. That's just what I do and it keeps the tantrums to a minimum.

Julieann - posted on 03/04/2010

she only has 2 teeth lol but she would lift her hand 2 hit me an throw herself bk screaming an if she sees something she wants she screams till she gets it not crying just getting angry

Stardust - posted on 03/04/2010

does she bite or hit herself ot you?

Julieann - posted on 03/04/2010

my daughter is the same havin tantrums from she was bout 8months must b a girl thing lol never had any trouble with my son

Stardust - posted on 03/04/2010

45 minutes!!! wow! i feel for you. my daughters are very brief, but in a way abusive. Have you talked to your pediatrician. I plan to.

Siri - posted on 03/03/2010

My daughter just turned 10 months old today and she crys very loudly and throws her arms when shes mad that I am not holding her, ect. She has been having tantrums for about a month or month and a half. I'm guessing it's normal, I read in Parenting Magazine that babies can have tantrums. So I guess it's pretty normal. I don't know what to do other than just let her get over it, except she can carry this on for 45+ mins, so when I get sick of it I ger her. I don't know if I should, but I do.

Stardust - posted on 03/03/2010

It's a relief to know My daughter isn't the only one her age with this behavior. I think it probably is a good thing not to incourage her behavior. I'm still worried about her hurting herself though. I'ts scarey to see that type of behavior. I worry that it will get worse with age. I can't imagine what the "terrible 2's" will be like.

Bonnie - posted on 03/03/2010

im wondering if its a girl thing.. lol my daughter is 9 mos and a half and she started throwing hissy fits too.. the throwing herself back hitting her head on the floor. screaming and throwing her hands in the air to be carried. good news is ur not alone.. whut i do is make sure she has enough room to throw her tantrum.. if shes gonna throw herself back theres a pillow.. and i just sit and watch her from the corner of my eye. i dont want her to see me pay attention cuz i dont want to send the message that she gets my attention that way. usually i see she does it cuz shes hungry, tired, or cranky. as far as feeding her when shes doing the fits.. its kinda hard not to.. so im scared im showing her thats how u let me know ur hungry.. anywhoo when i see her doing sumthing good like playing, eatting with her spoon, doing anything good i try to give her hugs and praise her maybe that might show that thats the better way to get my atention. im a new mom and im wondering if whut im doing may work.. im hoping its gonna stop when shes like.. 4 at least.. lol

Samantha - posted on 03/03/2010

My daughter is almost 10 months and she is starting to have tantrums. She will scream and throw her head back. She sits on the floor and just bounces and hits the floor. She hits me but usually not with a tantrum. I was wondering if this was normal myself because she is so young.