tired of feelin like im the one whos wrong.

Carolyn - posted on 01/14/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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i am stuck on the issue of letting my ex fiance see my son who is now 8 months old. we had been together for 2 years and had plans on getting married until he was arrested and sent back to mexico.i found out i was preg when he was in jail and we continued to talk for the next 4 1/2 months. we broke it off when he was still in mexico cuz i was not willing to drop my life here and move there with him, he never even once called or anything to see how the baby was or how i was. when i was 6 1/2 months he came back and was living with another girl who he has a child with and yet still he made no contact with me and told my friends i was faking the whole pregnancy. two times he has contacted one of my friends and asked where im at. i currently do not live in the same state as him cuz the girl he is currently with tired to kill me while i was preg. why do i feel like im the one that is wrong when he let his current girl try to kill me and his baby? should i just keep him out of the picture or give him the second chance?

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Gennifer - posted on 01/23/2010

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personally out the picture 4 me but let the kid no later in life and him/her decide 4 thierselves when old enough

Celina - posted on 01/20/2010

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Oh hell, stay away! *hugs* Don't risk your life or your baby's life it's not worth it. Sounds like he doesn't want to be a part of your childs life anyway. Take Care, and Keep Safe.

Vanessa - posted on 01/19/2010

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OH NO SWEETIE KEEP HIM OUT!! WTH HE TRIED TO KILL YOU... EVEN THOUGH IT WASNT HIM HE DID NOTHING TO STOP IT!!! YOUR NOT THE ONE WHO IS WRONG HE DIDNT TRY TO BE IN YA'LLS LIFE!

Tara - posted on 01/18/2010

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I also have an ex in mexico. The fact of the matter is this, because of his arrest, he will never be allowed to legally be in this country. Forget about him, for you and your child. Your son doesn't need a role model teaching him how to treat women the way his father treated you. EVERY CHILD is a blessing, unfortunately, not necessarily every biological father is.

DORCAS - posted on 01/18/2010

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Am really touched by your story but dont think u are wrong coz u arent.First u should thank God for that child.Always pray and ask God for protection.I dont think this guy deserves a second chance coz he hes already doen on with his life u should also do thesame May God help u as u take a new turn.

Erin - posted on 01/17/2010

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Good Lord. I am totally blown away by this.....I dont even know what to say! Why was he arrested? How is he living in this country now- is he illegal? You say he made no attempt to see you, then you say he tried to find you through your friends....and the worst part- his girlfriend tried to KILL you??? That is awful- I feel sad for you and your baby. He sounds like he has way too many problems, and would be a toxic influence on you and your baby. As much as I think dads have rights too and deserve to see their kids, I DONT think this is true if the child is in any danger or may come to any harm if they are with the father. Who knows- he may try to kidnap your son and take him back to Mexico! Stay away from this guy- he sounds screwed up and dangerous.

Karen - posted on 01/16/2010

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i would in no way shape or form let a man like that near my child if i was you i would never let him see the baby his girl friend must be a bloody psycho to try to kill you while you where pregnant

Fiona - posted on 01/15/2010

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He sounds like he is a lot of trouble. Normally I would say that he has a right but in your case. I would say stay away as he has not shown any interest in your baby. And if there are issues with his partner’s attitude towards you and your child you will spent your whole time worrying.
As long as your son has 1 person who loves him then he will be better off

Kathy - posted on 01/15/2010

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Stay away!!! If he wasn't even accepting the fact that you were pregnant in the first place, he's not going to be a good influence on your baby. You'd be better off as a single mom.

Kara - posted on 01/14/2010

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This guy sounds like bad news for you and your baby and you should stay as far from him as you can.

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