Tired of it...

Jessica - posted on 04/15/2009

Okay, so I completely understand where you're coming from, and it sounds like the other preggies you know could really use a good wake up call.  However, not every mom is like that!  Here's where I am!  I have had trouble from the very beginning of this pregnancy- found out I was pregnant in the ER with kidney pain, lol- and was scared to death that it was ectopic or something because of the amount of pain I was having...thank God that wasn't the case!  But things got progressively worse, and I ended up having surgery at 20 weeks, after being in the hospital for a week already...then I had to deal with a stent for another week, and the removal of that, along with all the other kidney issues I've had this pregnancy.  All of this happened soon after I went on BP meds...the meds were working up until about 30 weeks, when the kidney pain increased significantly because of the size of the baby....and they have not been able to control my BP since, in spit of more than doubling the amount of meds I'm on...today they switched me to another med altogether.  All this being said, between the pain and the meds, I'm completely useless around the house.  I'm hardly sleeping, maybe four hours a night and a nap while my daughter naps during the day...I've completely neglected her (well I try not to, but I'm in too much pain to be holding her most of the time), and I feel like a terrible mom!  I'm frustrated because of how sick I am all the time, and most recently I have developed a really nasty itching issue that won't go away- they've done more blood work for that, so hopefully I'll be getting good results, we'll see.  THat being said, I'm at the point where I can't sleep, and if I keep going like this, the baby is going to suffer because she will have a mom who is completely spent!  I can't even deal with the least amount of household chores right now, I have no clue how I'm going to handle recovering from the c-section and a newborn!  I'm scared out of my mind, and don't want to make it another four weeks!  I'm afraid  by that time I won't be able to deal with ANYTHING!  So, some of us, though it may seem selfish, have really good reasons for wanting to be done!  And I'm not thinking just for myself- I want to be able to breastfeed, and don't want to deal with milk production issues as a result of the stress I've been under, and as I said, I want to be the best mom possible from the very beginning- and I don't think I'll be able to do that after enduring another four weeks of this!  So, in some cases, you're right, but you have to understand that some of us really ARE looking out for the best interest of our family, even though it may seem selfish! 

Jessica - posted on 04/15/2009

Okay, so I completely understand where you're coming from, and it sounds like the other preggies you know could really use a good wake up call.  However, not every mom is like that!  Here's where I am!  I have had trouble from the very beginning of this pregnancy- found out I was pregnant in the ER with kidney pain, lol- and was scared to death that it was ectopic or something because of the amount of pain I was having...thank God that wasn't the case!  But things got progressively worse, and I ended up having surgery at 20 weeks, after being in the hospital for a week already...then I had to deal with a stent for another week, and the removal of that, along with all the other kidney issues I've had this pregnancy.  All of this happened soon after I went on BP meds...the meds were working up until about 30 weeks, when the kidney pain increased significantly because of the size of the baby....and they have not been able to control my BP since, in spit of more than doubling the amount of meds I'm on...today they switched me to another med altogether.  All this being said, between the pain and the meds, I'm completely useless around the house.  I'm hardly sleeping, maybe four hours a night and a nap while my daughter naps during the day...I've completely neglected her (well I try not to, but I'm in too much pain to be holding her most of the time), and I feel like a terrible mom!  I'm frustrated because of how sick I am all the time, and most recently I have developed a really nasty itching issue that won't go away- they've done more blood work for that, so hopefully I'll be getting good results, we'll see.  THat being said, I'm at the point where I can't sleep, and if I keep going like this, the baby is going to suffer because she will have a mom who is completely spent!  I can't even deal with the least amount of household chores right now, I have no clue how I'm going to handle recovering from the c-section and a newborn!  I'm scared out of my mind, and don't want to make it another four weeks!  I'm afraid  by that time I won't be able to deal with ANYTHING!  So, some of us, though it may seem selfish, have really good reasons for wanting to be done!  And I'm not thinking just for myself- I want to be able to breastfeed, and don't want to deal with milk production issues as a result of the stress I've been under, and as I said, I want to be the best mom possible from the very beginning- and I don't think I'll be able to do that after enduring another four weeks of this!  So, in some cases, you're right, but you have to understand that some of us really ARE looking out for the best interest of our family, even though it may seem selfish! 

Jamie - posted on 04/15/2009

I am pregnant with my 3rd and I was induced with my second. I will say it was for a good reason and also that it was harder than a natural labor happing on its own. I am very thankful that I didn't have to have a CSec, but I was very close. My baby was turned wrong and 10lbs. I should have had a csec but I refused and instead opted for a VERY long and hard delivery. I'm crossing my fingers that this time I will have a easier time. Good luck with the rest of your bun in the oven. :) I only have 5 weeks left!

Rebekah - posted on 04/15/2009

I agree with you completely. I'll just add that the battle between moms will probably continue the rest of your life... Welcome to the World of motherhood-- where you research and try to do what's best for your baby, and everyone else has their own opinion. You might as well start standing up for yourself now b/c it only gets harder when the baby arrives.

Kristin - posted on 04/15/2009

i think it is best for baby to stay in as long as possible but i myself am tired of being pregnant..im 34 weeks and want it all over with....it has nothing to do with the way ppl are going to be parents at all...i have been sick this whole pregnancy and i have 2 girls already and had no problems what so ever with them..this one has just been really hard and sick for the whole thing....every person is different and everyone deals with it different...one person might have a really good pregnancy and loved it on the other hand an other person could be going through all kinds of problems and being sick...anyways that is what i think..it has nothing to do with them being parents at all....being sick sucks and being sick for nine months can be worse...trust me i know....

Allison - posted on 04/15/2009

You have a very good outlook on pregnancy - good job keeping it in perspective :-) It is best, barring serious medical issues, to allow baby to come when he/she is ready and not on mom's time-table. There are certainly concerns over inductions - the high rate of c/s following a failed induction is one of the reasons to avoid inducing, as well as your concern about baby not being ready. Some babies do need to go until 42 weeks or more to be fully developed, and normal gestation is 38-42 weeks, with the *average* being 40 weeks (but that, of course, means many moms will also go "over due"). So inducing at 39 weeks could give you a baby that is under-developed by 2-3 weeks.

I'm waiting for things to happen on their own this time, too. This is baby #3 for me, but I've had 2 c/s and do not wish to repeat that process again. My mantra: Trust Birth!

Brenda - posted on 04/15/2009

I tell you what, I may be tired of being pregnant (and I am so tired of it LOL) but there is nothing more important to me than my baby being healthy, so I put up with it.  I may whine about my hip pain, pelvic pressure and the pain in the rear gestational diabetes is, but I DO NOT want to be induced unless I absolutely have to.  Having been induced before, I really don't want to go that route again.

I think a lot of women don't think about the fact that all babies mature at different rates, inside and outside.  One baby might be ready at 37 weeks, but it might take till 42 weeks for another.  I am very adament agains elective inductions and c sections, though I agree with medically driven ones, because in most cases the health of the baby and the mom is at stake (last time I had pre eclampsia and this time its gestational diabetes).  I'm just hoping that he decides to come in the next three weeks so I don't have to go through another induction!!!

Rachel - posted on 04/15/2009

Hi!  I am a first time mom, due in less than 4 weeks, thank goodness!  I have no intention of being induced - planning an all-natural birth, but am anxious for pregnancy to end.  I think for me, it has a ton to do with being on restricted activity for the past 6 weeks and not feeling all that well during this time.  The reason has been complications with my blood pressure and fears of developing pre-eclampsia or even harm simply from the high blood pressure for me and/or baby.  I want this baby to come early so I don't need to be induced or have a C-section.  Before all this started, I was in a hurry because my sister is getting married 6 weeks after baby's due and we're planning to drive the 22 hour road trip to Colorado for her wedding.  We'd like as much recovery time as possible.  I'm sorry you've seen poor behavior in your friends, but not everyone has the same reasons for wanting to be done with pregnancy.