TTC baby two

Angie - posted on 03/02/2011

books worked great for us, mine are 2.5 years apart , and we read stories about being a big brother and the new baby, got him excited

Ivy - posted on 02/28/2011

my daughter is 3 and half years older she usually gets all the attention but when she found out she was getting a baby brother she was so thrilled! they're very close they have their occassionaly brother/sister fights but they are crazy over eachother. lily is such a good big sister to her brother and i couldnt be any more happier! i make sure they get equal attention from me though.

Chelsea - posted on 02/27/2011

I like the idea of letting the big sister introduce the new baby to everyone. It's so true that ppl will talk to the baby first, it got irritating to me as the mom, as well. :)

Misty - posted on 02/27/2011

My daughter is 17months older than my son. I took her to ultrasound appointments and talked to her about Bubbie all the time. She used to kiss and pat my belly. She was very good with her brother but she stopped talking and saying her words and she wouldn't come near me for awhile. Not sure if she was mad at me or scared cuz I had a really rough Csection and I was readmitted to the hospital for an infection my son was also in NICU for a week. My daughter had to stay with my mom for awhile til I could pick her up again. She is very loving with her brother always kissing and hugging him now she wants to hold him. She is tiny for her age as well so the biggest issues we have is her using the bouncer and travel swing when those are for brother now. She's not that great with the sharing thing yet thinks everything is hers and occasionally she takes his paci even tho she didn't use them b4 he came but the worst times are when I have to take care of the baby first cuz she doesn't understand (she's 21mos) why she can't always be the focus. To ease it when I put the baby down for his evening nap her and I spend special time. Also when you're pregnant and after the baby comes most peoples inclinations will be to talk to your belly or the baby first but try to get everyone to acknowledge your daughter first then have big sister show them the baby. She will feel included and less jealous.

Norrie - posted on 02/24/2011

Just like some other posts...keep your daughter involved in the whole process. When I was pregnant with my 2nd daughter we kept our oldest involved from when we found out we were expecting to when Hanna was born. We brought my oldest daughter to midwife appts, let her help paint Hanna's room, and just before we Hanna was born we bought my oldest daughter a gift and said it was from the baby.
To this day our oldest has never shown any jealousy issues, she is very protective over her little sister and she is just very involved in what Hanna is doing.
Wishing you all the best!

Susan - posted on 02/23/2011

We read our Daughter "I'm Going to be a big Sister" by Brenda Bercun. We still read it and she will be 4 on Monday and her little brother will be 2 in May. I knew we were having a boy so I substituted baby brother where ever I could and sometimes I substituted my daughter's name for the little girl in the book. It has some helpful suggestions in the back for parents as well. Good Luck and enjoy. : )

Tricia - posted on 02/23/2011

I am expecting baby number 2 about a week after my son turns 2. What I have done is let him "help" me by rubbing lotion on my tummy. I ask him where sissy is and he lays his head on my belly. If I buy her something I am getting him something, even really small. I have him helping with putting her clothes away, and gave slowly stared pulling out the baby swings and stuff and he knows those are babies and doesn't bother them much. I also agree with pointing out new borns in the store, when he sees a baby he points to my belly. Best of luck and I hope you are blessed with your little one soon!

Ashley - posted on 02/22/2011

Thanks everyone. That was all realy helpful! I hope it works, she is super attached to me and her daddy.

Carrie - posted on 02/19/2011

We did the same thing as Kayla : )

Kayla - posted on 02/19/2011

Once the baby comes have a gift from the new baby to your older child. This won over my son who is 2 year and 11 months older then my daughter. Hope this helps

Carrie - posted on 02/17/2011

This was me, my oldest daughter was 2yrs 9mths when my second daughter was born and she did great. I took my daughter to a little session that they had at the IWK and it was great. All about new baby - Had stories, coloring, video, play (real looking) babies to show how to hold/care for a new baby. I would recommend it if they still offer this.

Tina - posted on 02/16/2011

Keep your daughter involved with the pregnancy, rather taking her with shopping or asking what she thinks her baby brother/sister would want in their room. When my boyfriend and I found out that I was pregnant, we sat down with his three kids and told them what was going on. Our daughter (not my true daughter) just looked at me like she was getting replaced. I sat down with her and told her that she will always be 'daddy's little girl and mommy's little princess'. To this day I do not buy my youngest daughter anything that says princess. If I buy anything with princess on it, it goes to my older daughter. I never kept anything from any of the other kids and let them help me feed her, play with her and take pictures. I remember after I really started showing all the kids just wanted to feel her kick or move and when I would feel it I would grab their hands and put them on my stomach so they could feel.

Laura - posted on 02/16/2011

Talk to her about a baby - keep it very general. Even if your not pregnant (which i hope you are) point out babies & pregnant women in the street, If you have any friends who have recently had babies then see if you can go around and get her used to being around young children. I have 2 girls, Although i had them VERY close together (they are only 1yr 4 days apart) my daughter is such a good big sister, so gentle. Used to rock her sister to sleep when she was newborn. When you do have a new baby get your daughter involved as much as possible. Try not to push her out or keep her away from the baby because this will only cause resentment. Hope everything works out for you and I hope this helps :)