what time is bed time?

Carol - posted on 12/02/2010

Deidra, my son usually is sleeping by 8:30 the latest. If he does not take a nap during the day then he will fall asleep around 7 p.m. I also think it has a lot to do with how much sleep they have during the day. Does your son sleep alot during the day?

Keisha - posted on 11/30/2010

My daughter Jazlynn has been going to bed at 6pm every night since she was about a month old. her own choice haha :)

Tara - posted on 11/22/2010

My son goes to bed around 8 sometimes as early as 7 and sleeps 10 to 12 hours

Stephanie - posted on 11/20/2010

my daughter goes to bed around 8pm and sleeps 10-12 hours. when i put her to bed any later she wakes up constantly. and doesn't get a good night sleep.
now my kid is 18months old. when she was little little i had to put her to sleep late as in 11pm to sleep well. with time her bed time shifted forward. how old is your son?

Jennifer - posted on 11/20/2010

I guess I am the lucky one. My son started sleeping through the night at 2 months old and was consistant at about 3-4 months and up. He is going to be 18 months old Nov 28th. He has been going to sleep around 7:30-8pm most nights and sleeps 11-13 hrs every night unless I have to wake him. I usually have to wake him the mornings I work unless he hears me while I am getting ready. He only takes 1 nap a day about 1.5-3.5hrs long. 50-60% of the time he lets us know himself he is ready for bed. We read a book, he kisses us goodnight, I put him in his crib and walk out. Otherwise I let him know it's time for bed and we do that same routine. There are times that he will run to his room instead of me carrying him. On the other hand I have a friend who has a 2yr old son that at age 1 started refusing to go to bed until 11pm-12am every night! And he sleeps 10-12 hrs so he isn't waking until 10-12noon! Sometimes he doesn't even take a nap. Now that would be hard to deal with. I am usually ready for bed 9-10pm each night myself! lol. For work I have to wake at 6:15am to get started so going to sleep late would be tough. Good luck Mom's! Hopefully things will get better. And I hope my little boy stays great with his sleep habits :-)

Lyndsey - posted on 11/16/2010

my babies both go to bed at 9 (aged 1 & 3) and have done since birth because that helps me with routine. that babies are born with a programmed bedtime is ridiculous as every child is different. put your kids to bed when it suits you. you are the parent and you know your little one best :)

Rebeka - posted on 11/13/2010

my son now is 18 mo did go to bed at 10pm every night until i went back to scool so he goes to daycare stared 3 mo ago. I slowly moved his bed time up to 8pm now. He usually doesnt wake up in the middle of the night anymore and he wakes up at 6am on his own but it works out great because we leave the house at 6:20 to get to daycare at 6:30 so i can get to my classes on time. On the weekends he stays up a little later like 8:30-9pm so he sleeps in a little longer and i can sleep in a little longer too!! Mommy like this! :>

Vilma - posted on 11/09/2010

My daughters bedtime is usually around 9:30, she has now been waking up between 7:30 and 8 am.

Dani - posted on 11/09/2010

My little boy goes to bed at 8 pm every night and rises between 8 and 9am every morning. I've used routine with him since he was about 1 weeks old always the same 5pm dinner, 6 pm bath time, 7 pm cuddles and story time 8pm bedtime. I've never had a problem getting him to bed and from 3 weeks old he has slept through the night, never even had sleepless nights with him teething, seriously routine is the best thing ever, hes always well rested and i always get 'me time'!!

Victoria - posted on 11/08/2010

Sorry between 7-730. But im haveing trouble with early waking this week 430 am!!!! Rude!

Melissa - posted on 11/07/2010

My son is a total night owl, then again, I am too and his father works graveyard. I was shocked when I found out that his cousin (3 weeks younger) goes to sleep at 7-7:30pm and doesn't wake up until the following morning at 6am! Jax normally will refuse to go to sleep any earlier than 10-11pm -- He's even pushed it until midnight a few nights.

Amy - posted on 11/06/2010

My daughter also needs to be settled down for bedtime and naptime. I still havent established a set routine because some days we dont get home until 6:30- 7 at night and she needs dinner then mommy & daddy time, bath. She will also let me know if shes tired, some nights shes wanted to go night night at 7:30 others shes up until 9:45-10pm, doesnt matter when or if she takes a nap during the day. I think even as adults we need to be reminded to go to bed kids learn sleeping habits from us.

Sara - posted on 11/01/2010

my 16 month has always gone to bed at 9 if you get them into a system from an early age then they will keep that and get use to it.My kids have always gone to bed at 9 and I find that to be normal.

Sarah - posted on 11/01/2010

I do and my child is 17 months but he will sleep through the nght.He has a lot of nite tares and I cant seem to think why he is getting those all the time.

Alyce - posted on 10/30/2010

i have a boy who wants to go to sleep between 8.30 and 9pm and he generally wakes up at 7 the next morning i thin its all up to the parent and what time they see fit for the children to go to bed

Lindsay - posted on 10/30/2010

Sounds like I have an early bedtime baby compared to everyone else! My daughter has always been an early riser, no matter when she went to bed. So, since I could not control her wake up time, but knew she needed a lot of sleep, I adjusted her bedtime so that she would get it. She is asleep by 6:30 or so each night and wakes up between 5:30 and 6. She used to go to bed as early as 5:15 and sleep until 5am. Her nap during the day now is roughly 11:30-2:30. Putting her to bed later doesn't make her wake up later, it makes her overtired the next day. It is hard to have such an early bedtime when we want to go out to dinner or do something, but we forgo nighttime outings and stick to a VERY consistent routine. She is happy and thriving and rested, so we are happy.

Desiree - posted on 10/29/2010

My son usually goes to bed at 9pm every night and sleeps till about 8-830am. I really think it all depends on the child, I don't think they have any internal clock

Jena - posted on 10/29/2010

I try to get my daughter in bed by 8:30, but there are nights we are past 9:00. We go to bed early & get up early, so I guess that's a good thing, so she actually has a bedtime. I don't stress the bedtime issue too much, but we do attempt to be somewhat routine w/ her.

How long should they be sleeping???

Stephanie - posted on 10/29/2010

we usually start the bedtime routine around 8pm- get her yogurt and then go brush her teeth and change into her pjs and then put her in her crib between 830 and 900... lately she has started babbling and playing with her musical crib toys for a half hour or so, sometimes more... she doesn't argue about going to bed but doesn't go to sleep right away- she likes her quiet time i guess. She usually wakes up and starts babbling and playing in her crib at around 9 am, she generally sleeps through the night and only peeps a little here and there when she is dreaming at night.... She would keep going and going if we let her, but the bedtime routine helps her to know that it is time for bed and she usually does well! :)

oh and she usually takes a 3 hour nap in the afternoon from 2-5...

Lynne - posted on 10/28/2010

Wow...I guess I am lucky. Our 17 month old goes to bed at 6:30 the latest ever since I can remember and wakes up 5 :30 during the week. We keep the same bedtime routine all week so when it comes to the weekend, he does like mommy and daddy....he sleeps in till 8-9am :)

Sarah - posted on 10/27/2010

Our son goes to bed somewhere between 7 and 8 pm. close to 7 if he is really tired and closer to 8 if he is doing well.

Maureen - posted on 10/27/2010

my daughter also goes to bed between 10 and 11pm...its like they normally set themselves time to go to bed

Katrina - posted on 10/27/2010

I have a 3 1/2 year old and a 17 month old. They both go to sleep at 6pm and wake between 5.30-6am. I have read that the optimum time to put children to bed at night is 6-7pm, later than this and they will be overtired and difficult to settle. Works for us:)

Deidra - posted on 10/26/2010

that book is very helpful! simmy has been going to be around 7 every night!

Heather - posted on 10/26/2010

The one thing that i found the hardest with having kids is loosing sleep.. Im a big sleeper.. What i did with both my children. Gavin who is turning 4 and Jalynne who is 1. is when they came home i did not wake them up to feed. this made them start sleeping through the night. To get them in bed early we have dinner, then bathtime around 6 we have story time and they go to bed between 7 and 8 pm. I give my 4 year old a sippy by his bed for times he gets thirsty and same with Jalynne. When they are put in bed they do not get up unless they need me. In the morning they sleep anywhere from 7am to 10 am.. If i do not go in their rooms they dont get up. they play in their rooms until I go get them. this makes a huge difference and they do really good with it.

Thuti - posted on 10/26/2010

I make sure i put him in his bed around 8 with his book paging through. And sometimes with toys but now he screams and tries to climb out of his bed, so really it depends, but by 9 he is usually sleeping. Need to be consistent with your times, even if he doesn't sleep, in his small head he knows that hes supposed too.

Valerie - posted on 10/25/2010

My son has gone to bed around 8pm every night since he was 4 mos old or so. Recently he has been waking up around 5:30-6am which is too early to start our day. We've realized that if we put him to bed around 9pm, he sleeps until 8am. He's always been a good sleeper and has slept through the night since around 3-4 mos old. He's always gotten around 11-12 hrs of sleep nightly. We've been blessed!

Toni - posted on 10/24/2010

My daughter is never in bed before 9. 10-10:30 is fairly typical. If we try any earlier than that, she thinks it's a nap and is up at midnight ready to party. If we put her down at 10, she sleeps straight through the night.

Kim - posted on 10/24/2010

Our 17 month old girl is a night owl. We usually put her to bed around 10, and she usually sleeps until 9:30-10:30. When we put her to bed, she's usually not all that sleepy, she would stay up until midnight if we let her!

Schmoopy - posted on 10/24/2010

I have the opposite. Mine goes to be at 6:00pm. And he sleeps until at least 5:00 am (sometimes a little later). His nap is from 11:00 am-12:30 or 1:00pm.

It works for us!

That said, my 7 y.o. daughter still goes to sleep at 7:30 every night. And she's waking at 6:30 usually, which means her body still needs that amount of sleep.

I think there's a lot to be said for an early bedtime. Too many kids are overscheduled and sleep deprived these days!

Rebecca - posted on 10/24/2010

My boy goes to bed at 7.30 (unless we are out somewhere for the evening and im more flexible with bed time then) he never wakes up before 7am. I find if he is up too late he gets overtired - then cant sleep - much like myself! - I think its good to have some kind of routine as kids thrive off it (generally speaking)I am flexible with his day time nap - it all depends on how our day is going.

Taira - posted on 10/23/2010

bedtime is 7:30-8, sometimes a=wakes up at 11 or 3 am then sleeps until 6:30 am

Kathy - posted on 10/23/2010

My daughter is 17 months, and we find that routine really helps. We eat dinner around 6pm, then it's bathtime, brush teeth, read stories, and then bed. She's usually down by 7:30 at the latest. I usually have to wake her in the mornings around 6 or so when we have to leave for Grandma's house. On my days off of work, she'll sleep in until 7:30 or 8. I completely agree with the earlier post that it helps them to know what's expected and what's next when things are consistent, and that makes it easier for them to wind down.

Natalie - posted on 10/22/2010

My son is 17 months old and he has been going to bed at 8pm for about 6 months. Before that it was 9pm but he woke up more frequently and earlier than he does now. Now he is in bed by 8:15pm at the latest and does not get up until 8:30 or 9 am. (He only takes one nap a day as well.)

Anita - posted on 10/22/2010

My daughter now has a pretty consistant bedtime of 7:15 - 7:30pm and sleeps until 7:00am. We moved to this bedtime after 12 months but when she was younger, her bedtime was as early as 6:30pm. I also read the book referred to in the last post and have been sleep training since day 1!

Kim - posted on 10/22/2010

My DD sleeps from 8pm to 7:30 am and sometimes sleeps later! We read Healthy Sleep Habits , Happy Child and we loved the book and the way the author trained kids to sleep. My hubby and I both have sleep issues and ADD so we wanted to get good sleep habis started early!

Gina - posted on 10/21/2010

my daughter has gone to bed at 7 since she has been about 4 month old and would still go to bed know at 7 but i think its good as u can have your wn time to chill or do ya nails but shes really good like that but she gets up early in the morning so i think its fifty fifty

Tiffany - posted on 10/21/2010

My son is a late night baby.....he may go to bed anywhere between 9pm-12am....I go to school Mon-Thur from 5:30pm-10:15pm and he's awake when i get home...i normally give him a bath to start winding him down and then by the time we get to lay down its pushing 11-11:30pm. Then he will sleep until 10am-11am the next morning. His daytime nap is anywhere between 2:00pm-5pm.

Kristen - posted on 10/21/2010

My little one goes to bed about 8 or 9pm. I have noticed if she goes to bed too late or when she is very tired she ends up waking in the night ..I have learned that is because once your so tired you fall into REM sleep faster, which means you hit your deep sleep faster and will wake up sooner. Also, I learned my little one has to have socks on at bed time to sleep all night again :) and she has to have her air purifier on medium at all times :)

Alice - posted on 10/21/2010

my son is the same! nearly 18 months ... goes to bed quite late (9-10 ish)... wakes up somewhere between 12 midnight and 1am... then back to sleep till about 6.30am - (usually in our bed). he is having 2 sleeps a day still - .. one is usually 12 noon - 1.30... and the other 5.30pm ... So with the 2nd nap - he wakes up 6.30pm ish - and is nowhere near tired enough to go to bed at 7.30pm. I have tried skipping the 2nd nap - but he just gets overtired. And (2nd nap or not) still wakes up 1am ish.

It hasn't helped that he has had a few doses of the flu this winter - which means he can't sleep for too long on his back, without waking up distraught. So that is where the bad habit of bringing him into our bed and propping him up a bit so he can breath easier.

i think there isn't a right way for every child . It is whatever works for them and for your family.

Tina - posted on 10/20/2010

When I talk about mine they are actually my granddaughters who have lived with me since their birth. They are17 mo and 6 mo. They are both in bed between 8-9 and will sleep until about 8am. What really helps is having a routine with them. These girls are on such a good routine its bad when we want to go somewhere. These girls get up at the same time, eat at the same time, bath at the same time and take nap and have bed time at the same time every day. Try feeding him dinner (start from there), give him a bath and put on his pj's, have him cuddle or read a book maybe even have him help you pick up his toys then settle down with a book. then try to get him to sleep! But if you do the same thing with him in the same order he will realize that its getting time to go to bed. My granddaughter that is 17 mo old will go running up stairs when her mom tells her its time for bed! Good luck!

Kura - posted on 10/20/2010

i think if you take him to bed early tell its bedtime and just dont talk to him maybe have a nap urself he will eventually set his biological clock to the time u want

Kerri - posted on 10/19/2010

My son dosen't usaly stay awake that late but he doesn't go to bed till 8:30.

Ami - posted on 10/19/2010

I have a friend with twins who are now three-years old. The twins don't go to bed until about 10pm or 11pm. They also don't wake up until about 9am. It works out for the twins and the parents. I think that as long as you aren't depriving your kids of sleep and it's working for you, then it's fine.

Our daughter is usually in bed by 8:30. She used to go to bed at 7 or 7:30, but as she got a bit older she wanted to stay awake longer. It just seemed easier to let her stay awake and spend time with her then put her in her crib and here her laughing and playing by herself for an hour or so.

Rebekah - posted on 10/19/2010

Here is our experience...



My son went to bed late until he was about 27 months old. He slept 10 hours, no matter what, so we'd put him to bed around 9-10pm and he'd sleep until 8am. That worked great b/c I was working at 5am and that allowed my nanny to sleep a few hours after he arrived too.



But, fast forward to about age 2 and I had two children and the going-to-bed-late thing just wasn't meshing well with a newborn (that rarely slept). So, as recommended by a friend, I read the book, "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child." It recommended a much earlier bedtime so I started trying to put him to bed at 8pm. To my surprise, he still slept until around 8am and was waking up much happier. He went from sleeping 10 hours at night to 12 hours at night and his behavior even began to improve. Up until he was about 2.5 yrs I swore he was ADHD, but when he started going to bed earlier, he was able to concentrate, pay attention, and sit still for longer. It was amazing.



So that may not be true for your child at all, but honestly if he's only sleep 9-10 hours I'd give the earlier bedtime a try. My daughter (May 2009) goes to bed at 7:30pm and wakes at 7am.

Melissa - posted on 10/18/2010

I'm not a morning person so both my kids sleep in until 8 or 9. The trade off is they are both up til 9-9:30. Most kids are 10-12 hour sleepers so I find it's more about what time you train them to sleep or wake.

Ricky - posted on 10/18/2010

It depends on the day. Sunday Monday and Tuesday he is usually in bed 7:30 8ish on the other days it can be 9-10ish. I work Monday-wednesday at 3am so I am in bed early so my son goes bed when I do. the other days hes up later because he sleeps in the living room so he is up because we are making noise watching tv or a movie (or his daddy playing video games). If we want him to go bed earlier we have to turn everything off and leave the room and he will fall asleep.

Nicole - posted on 10/18/2010

I wouldn't say I have a late baby but not an early one either. We start our bedtime routine at 8pm everynight. We read or cuddle or whatever, sometimes my daughter is asleep by 8:15 but come 9pm she is upstairs and in bed no matter what. We've discovered that she will go and go and go and needs someone to stop and sit with her quietly to make her realize she is tired. She gets at least 9 hours of sleep everynight but we are slowly trying to get her to go to bed earlier since we have to wake her every morning to get ready for daycare.