Worried about attachment issues and crawling? :( HELP. :(

Amanda - posted on 01/06/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My daughter freaks out when I'm not holding her. She doesn't do this for anyone else. It really bothers me to have her stay the night elsewhere, but I have sent her to her Nana's a few nights hoping it would calm her fear of me not showing constant affection to her. And Nana says she isn't like that at all for her. She will play on the floor or in the walker and not fuss. She NEVER does that for me, she needs constant affection, Sometimes it's so bad when I leave her alone (in the playpen or a gated area so I can use the bathroom, etc) she screams until I'm afraid she's quit breathing. Even when we go to family get-togethers, she will reach for me when others hold because she thinks it has to be me so I have to leave the room for others to enjoy her company. But I don't always hold her at home. She spends time in her bouncy, on the floor. It's hit and miss, sometimes she is okay with that if she thinks I'm playing to or watching, other times as soon as she feels me start to let go she freaks. :( Any suggestions? Also she isn't crawling. I try to give her tummy time as much as possible (when she isn't screaming) and it probably adds up (most days) to over 2 hours (??) a day. But she rarely even rolls over. Just plays with what's in front of her and if it's out of reach she like shuffles on her stomach and mostly ends up going backwards. But she doesn't even push up with her legs at all just her arms. She kicks with her feet when she gets excited though. What I don't get is she will try to stand if you hold her hands when she's sitting. And when you let her stand she can do it so well and she bounces and kind of does a dance... What am I doing wrong? :( She is sleeping through the night, eating cereal and jarred food regularly, says Dad-Dad, and hits her milestones at the Pediatrician. So what is the secret with these things?

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Amber - posted on 01/06/2010

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Well I can coment on the second issue.. my daughter is about 71/2 month and not crawling yet either..she kicks when excited (I call her Thumper her legs are always kicking!) and can move around with her hands but usually goes back ward as well (the back ward first is pretty commen though!!) The only times my little one has to have me holding her is if she is sleepy..however she will let others hold her too..she just wants to be held..so i can't really help with the first issue.. i hope it gets better! I know that must be hard on you!

Andrine - posted on 01/06/2010

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my son is 8 months and crawling around .. Two months ago he was at the same stage your daughter is at. Don' t worry about it though she will lift off and be flying before you know it and then you can't stop her.:-)) was worried at that point too... but i find that playing alot with him rather than just leaving him with his toys helped . At least twice a day, i would get down on all fours and coach him on how to crawl. Soon he was pushing off. Help her to go up on all fours and help her to balance and keep her legs in place as well as how to move them . Then she will try to do it on her own and soon be crawling. -))



After he eats he is fine exploring for a while before he 1. starts getting into things ... despite the fact that his toys are everywhere in the designated play area ...he loves going after things he is not allowed to touch ..it has started already. 2. He comes to be picked up when he is starting to get hungry or sleepy.



His nana spoiled him into being rocked to sleep . Up until last week he would not have anybody but me put him to sleep or really cry when i leave the room .He would not even go to his dad .we figured he need to aspend more time with him.. So at bed time i would leave the room and have his dad put him to sleep. It was hard at first but he got used to it. I give in every now and again to his crying ..more often though i give him his sippy cup with water (which he loves)or a hard cracker for him to chew on which soothes his gums ...thats another thing he is teething so he is looking for comfort and a distraction from the pain .

Hope this helped:-)) Let me know.

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Victoria - posted on 01/07/2010

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My daughter is 7 and 1/2 months old and doesn't show any interest in crawling or even putting weight on her legs. My oldest at this age was cruising furniture..I know every baby is different and she'll do it when she wants...I'm actually happy she isn't mobile yet as it's easier to keep an eye on her! I also get down and play on the floor with her as does her sister.
I was VERY worried about attachment issues as I breastfed her up until a week ago...she's doing fine I'm the one having a hard time with it.
You're not doing anything wrong babies develope at different rates...as she grows more independent she'll want you less and less and then you'll be wishing she still wanted to be held all the time.

Amanda - posted on 01/07/2010

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Thank you guys. I have gotten down and played with her but I haven't really showed her how to crawl, so hopefully that helps.

As for someone else putting her to bed, my husband leaves for work around 11am and doesn't get back until between Midnight and 2am. It makes for a very long day. So his time is limited to the morning, but I do have family come up when they can. I will try the water sippy cup though, I have tried it with a bottle but she ended up soaking her bed and it just caused me to have to change her sheets and jammies.

Thanks for letting me know someone else moves backwards, it seems so weird, but I guess it makes sense.

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