Feeling very discouraged

Melanie - posted on 04/29/2010

Thank you all very much for the kind words ladies

Tracy - posted on 04/29/2010

First and foremost, this is normal! For you and for her! I was you when my son was born.(now he is a very happy and active 5 1/2 yr old) Now with my 11 mo. old daughter, I knew it would happen, and I reacted the same way. I made sure she was changed, fed, wasn't over tired, then tried playing with her, reading to her, or getting out and taking a walk around the block, for a change of scenery. They get bored too!

I agree to get yourself some help, with a babysitter you trust, even if it's for an hour. You need to take care of yourself before you take care of someone else! I started a walk group with other moms when my son was 6 mo. old. We met two days a week. One day there was 16 of us moms walking our little ones! It felt great to talk to women going through the same stuff I was going through. It makes you feel healthy, all the way around.(Physically and mentally) Good luck, and know in your heart you are doing the best you can, at hardest job in the world, and it is a learning process, so be good to yourself!:o)

Amber - posted on 03/19/2010

My son is throwing fits as well!!! I think it is because he is with me all the time and so now any time I leave the room or don't give him as much attention he is throwing fits. I've ignored it and just turned around and walked away until he calms himself down, no matter how hard it gets for me. I just can't have him learn to get my attention that way. I'm sure your daughter senses your stress which is why I recommend just getting up and walking away. It gives you both time to breathe and calm yourselves and regroup and then move on. I think it's the terrible 2s coming in way early. Figure out how you want it to be handled and what your expectations of her should be and go with that. Keep it positive and when you come back do something fun because she may just be needing some loving. I also agree with previous post of getting some time for yourself. I know it might seem selfish but we all need to be a little selfish from time to time.

Crystal - posted on 03/03/2010

Honey you need some you time. call a babysitter and do something that will release your tension. my nine month old doesnt throw fits yet (thank heavens) but she is teethin and sick at the same time. maybe try checking to see if shes teething...of course babies sense stress. espeically from their mother. just get some you time and hopefully things will be better for you!

Michelle - posted on 02/24/2010

Hey lady!

I am guessing this is a common phase in babies....my 9 month old just started doing the same thing! He has little fits of rage..and just seems all out crankier. It is frustrating and tiring. I as well get very stressed and I try not to let my son see this---but they do sense when we are stressed cause he feeds right off me...when I feel myself getting stressed he starts to cry louder!!!

I am guessing if your husband works alot of the time you don't get much time alone to yourself, without the baby. And you need that. Maybe ask a friend or family member to watch your little girl and go home and soak in the tub, or get a massage, or workout...whatever relaxes you.