Kathryn - posted on 07/12/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )
Well this is my first child and she was born 13th May 2009. I must say that it took me totally by suprise. I had studied books, listened to audio cds, bought baby language cds, watched videos you name it just to prepare myself! It totally threw my world around and even two months on I am still finding my feet. I cannot believe these fingers that can barely wrap around one of mine has such a grip on my world. Control? Ha! You cannot control them, they come with no instructions, adult supervison and you dont need experience but it is the hardest job in the world. It can also be very lonely, there is such judgement placed on mothers. Yes you are the builder of this generation of mankind, it is the most important job in the world. What blows me away is opinions that are not asked for or needed are thrown at a poor frazzled mother who in the first few weeks can only memorise number of scoops for the bottle or which side she last fed on or another trip into town for more nappies. Mothers need support more than anything, so what if they are doing something 'wrong' in your opinion. Mothers/Fathers/Carer who ever is looking after the child needs time where they each learn about each other and their language. Just because you have a child does not make you an expert. Stay steadfast in your beliefs but dont try and force that onto everyone else. I am always open to other peoples ideas, but to receive advice on how to burp a baby from a father who has never had any involvement in his childrens lives let alone change a nappy or burp a child has me balking. Is this for real? I would love to hear from other mums/moms and what their first insight into motherhood, whether this is their first or tenth child.
Kat and Nevaeh aka 'Prawn'