how old should the baby be to cry them selves to sleep???

Amanda - posted on 09/23/2010

thank you to all the comments... she is getting better about wanting to be held all the time now but we are still dealing with getting to sleep by her self...i know she can because she will be on the floor playing and then she is asleep...she just wont do that in her crib...very frustrating... she is 4 1/2 months now so i know it is time that i am going to have to let her. i will try the ferber metheod thing...how much do u increase each time and does any one have advice for her not waking up her big sister when she is screaming... and what do i do after the 2 min is up? do i pick her up and put her to sleep that way agian?

Abbey - posted on 08/09/2010

I agree if there is nothing wrong with her then let her cry. When my son was little I set a timer otherwise I had to pick him up I would increase the time a few minutes as I was comfortable. Also he loved using a swing over his bouncer. The swing for both my kids was the best investment we made on baby items.



My daughter who is now two months did not want to lay down and she actually has problems with acid reflux and is now on medication which has helped her to relax and not need to be held to fall/stay asleep any longer.



Not sure if any of this helped! Good luck & I hope you are able to find something that works for her and you too!

Lisa - posted on 08/04/2010

It is incredibly tough but Erica is right as long as there is no medical cause for the crying. Sometimes you just have to walk away and let them get on with it. It seems terrible at the time and easy to give in I know.

Erica - posted on 08/03/2010

I tried the Ferber method and it was very successful. It sets a routine-- you let the baby cry at first for 2 minutes, then it goes up significantly. It's a really tough thing to do but it teaches them how to self-soothe. You should only try it if you have ruled out medical issues ad your baby is old/heavy enough.

Amanda - posted on 08/02/2010

she doesnt take the binnky unless i hold it there, she almost always spits it out when i go to put her in bed... i could leave her in her bed to cry and she never calms down... there has been times that i have put her in he bouncy seat and had to get supper made for her sister and she wales for the whole time... i can tell she is tired and she only falls asleep while i hold her and then she wakes up when i put her in bed... idont know what to do

Lisa - posted on 08/02/2010

It's difficult to leave them to cry and there is no specific time limit - each baby is different. Have you tried a soother? My youngest is a comfort sucker and sometimes it's the only thing that will work. Sometimes I leave her to whinge and cry for about 10 minutes . . .you can tell if they are tired or really upset.